Attracting the beautiful girls

He has AS? That's interesting, and would explain a lot. That's actually why I said in my previous post that he may not notice when he's a jackass, because I always take the possiblity of a physcological or neurological disorder when responding to posts like these. Hmm... doesn't seem like he's trying to work on it at all, though. I had to. I've just adapted... memorized social rules and such over time.

 

Well it's funny 'cause when anybody mentions that his social problems are from the aspy he gets all 'No! I'm high functioning and normal! Other aspy's are low functioning tards' kinda thing.

I wouldn't say he's not working on it because he may believe that he is, with all the 'I'm trying to be hard/tough/blah blah' so he's aware of cultivating an outward social appearance - it's just that what he's striving for is exactly the opposite of what would indeed make him fit in.

He's just completely ass backwards in what he thinks he needs help with and will flame the crap outta anyone that suggests reaching out to any services that could actually help him because we're being "patronizing". Also these big ass threads about him seem to be the only real threads he posts in and with repeated hostility he's worn out the patience and good will of many who've given him the benefit of the doubt and tried to assist.

I've said it before, the boy's either an effective troll or the next William Freund.

 

dude chris,
just work out
you may not look that much more in shape but youll feel better/be more confident about yourself
and a chick that looks nice may not always be nice.
and catcher in the rye killed lennon so stop whinning

 

Why are you guys fooling Chris? Like going to the gym, confidence, clothes, looks, or social skills ever got anyone laid.


I agree with the poster who claims Chris has insanely high standards. But guess what? As a counterpart to Chris' Virgin Mary-complex is women's unrealistic standards towards men.

Let's face it, gender relations are fucked up and not easy even for the attractive and socially apt, which Chris is obviously not.

Getting laid is essentially a financial transaction. Unless you're satiated with no more than one or two partners a year, which is the average in the U.S. anyways. Sex and affection are essentially reserved for privileged white males, no more. Gender roles are the cause.

My advice for Chris:

1. do therapy, first and foremost. Take responsibility for your feelings rather than blame them on something external;

2. Abandon ALL HOPE of getting some kind of "beautiful girl" --- it's not going to happen. Not at least until you work on your inferiority complex AND THE STARS LINE UP AND YOU "GET LUCKY";

3. Get a hooker. They are more beautiful than your college girls (many are in fact college girls), more fun, and you'll realize that (aside from very rare exceptions) "beautiful girls" are simply not worth your trouble;

4. Take up a productive activity other than college. Find fulfillment in that rather than looking for it in women. Fulfillment in women is virtually impossible to find for most males anyway;

 

man you should just not worry if a guy says you look gay, you just answer back, and say, "well, you should know sweety pie after all you gave me one of the best nights of my life honey buns"

Then everyone will know that you could not possibly be gay. Trust me it works -
Once some friggin barber gave me a haircut that made me look like the Joan Collins Fan club or some kinda Freddie mercury fan and some guy thought he was a tough nut at college but only when his friends were around - It was my first day at that college and he shouted "hey gayboy" well I have never done anything gay in my life except post advice in a online forum so I looked around and said "Yeah what - you wanna date Mr faggot"? and blew him a kiss and after that his nickname was Mr Faggot and all the girls knew I must have been some kind of muscular hero

Anyway just punch him in the balls when you see him next, not with a fist but some words -

 

By the way, there was an article in the UK Observer on this psychiatrist Raj Somebody who did a study. I believe Chris is from the UK. Well, in your country, Chris (according to the article), suicide is the leading cause of death for males aged 15 through 39, or something like that.


The reason? Well, the psychiatrist's findings is that men in that society commit suicide primarily due to their inability to create meaninful relationships with women in an increasingly "feminine" (his wording, which I don't particularly like since they reinforce gender roles) world --- read the service economy. In his words, the leading cause of suicide is women's "disappointment in men" (I paraphrase) caused by unrealistic standards.

In sum, gender relations (but also human relations more generally) in Christian-bourgeois society are at a peak crisis point. No little forum advice about "attracting beautiful girls" is going to change that.

Men who aren't rich have become expendable in a services-dominated economy. Women have no use for them because they do not possess status and women have always related to men insofar as they have social status.

Therefore, Chris. Wage war. The genders are locked in battle. Do not look for sympathy from the enemy. Take pleasure in the fight against gender roles and hopefully one beautiful day, when we're all dead and buried, future generations will be able to get laid for real. That is our only option.

 

say something you wrote mr fexurbis

 

I think it's rude to ignore a newbie's comment. No wonder this place is becoming a desert.

 

I get lots of women buzzing round my packed lunch - they all like to see how I pack all my meat into such a tight jeans sandwich. Dont listen to all these people all they wanna see is the last scene where you either get the girl or you go for a job in a bowling alley. Take my advice and tell them that infact you arent gay but you are celibate - theyll come running to inspect the goods
"Hey girls - fresh meat !" I can hear em comin for you from all over the USA to find you - wear tight jeans and claim to be celibate works like a dream - sometimes I get 3 girls a night into bed with that line.

Dont go for the bowling alley job - polishing your balls aint as much fun as getting in through the catflap with a bottle of champaigne and some flowers

 

I am close to tears. Not from laughing, but from shame fo my American brethren.
I remember when I was a little kid and my parents took me to a MacDonalds in Philadelphia. Those were the good times. I first had my cheesburger there and fries. God bless you. Macdonald, for though America has turned its back on you, I am still proud to fly the star sprangled banner outside my home. Then came the day when I was 13, and I had my first sexual encounter inside a Macdonalds WC. But then there were hard times. My ma died of cancer, an' I used to go to Macs with my pa an' have a milkshake. And even though the conversation was a bit slow, and a bit sad, he was my pa, man, and that was the only place we could afford. So while adverts an shit divide our world even further between rich and poor I have one thing to say: I am proud to be an American, and fuck you all if you got a proiblem with it, becvause I am still a human being, right? And you can'rt change it no matter what. So god bless macdonalds even though I am a fat bastard. I think people are very ignorant and snobby to ignore you Ronald. You are my hero and you stood by me and my family in our time of need and fed us cheap. God bless USA forever.

 

Yes. Ignoring women is the only sure-shot policy for getting laid --- but 3 in one night? Wow. Ronald is onto something!

 

Thanks for your sarcasm and here goes:

The Season ByTiagoAbrantes



Squeaking in a familiar lean rain

Shoes on the thin man felt like boulders he’d heard about

In penal colonies off French Guyana

Or further still from memory



Where was that festering gray town

The poisoned women and the tilted boys who want them?

Red dresses, wet stained lips, cackling heels like metronomes?

Where the feast had moved for the night



Neon signs now even brighter

Wide awake



Pinching from a juvenile dream they haven’t had

Picking and Munching on what remained on the white tablecloth

Of fresh fowl markets and imported sweets

Shut in tin cans of well-lit and heated homes



Sound Merriment

It was the special date so far away

Of Mum, Dads stout, wool coats, errant second cousins, nervous laughter

and more chatter and more to eat



Neon even brighter

Wide awake



Ribbons, arguing widows in the honking crossroads

Gift wrappings, nervy sidewalks, shoppers and more to eat

Bags conveying the well-wishing feelings of revealed Ants

Bumping each other frenzied and more to buy



A few strokes of the clock

And they all Toasted

Newly dusted diamond glasses

Champagne swearing, raised arms, pontification beautiful



Neon brighter now that the shops had closed

The thin man awake but not for long



He dived in celebration of fallow world moods

Not alone fiddling in his throat

Drank surreal till a smile gave way

A yawn parted the faint neon in his mouth for the holiday Dec ‘06

 

I just started reading Catcher in the Rye today and it sounds just like chris's posts. it's like chris wrote the book.

 

Thats very observant of you! well done.

What I have noticed is that most people in the "lonely hearts club band" usually sound like they are friends with Morrissey from the Smiths.

There is a club,
and you have to go
you could meet somebody who really loves you
so you go on your own
and you stand on your own
and you leave on your own
and you go home
and you cry and you want to die

It could happen any second now
well what exactly do you mean?
You see I've already waited too long
and now my hope is gone

 

Talking of attracting beautiful girls,what d'you think of this little babe?

 

I think she has got a face like madonnas vaggie beef curtains

 

Ebaums world....for shame....for shame, supporting artistic theft like that.

*puts a ribbon of shame on WS*

 

she looks like she has a beautiful personality

 

ROFLMAO! :lol:

 

First thing I thought when I saw some of Chris's posts (and realized he wasn't a troll, which took a while), was "this guy must be an aspie." I think I am somewhat on that spectrum myself, and his obsession with every little gesture and every exchange sounds just like the kind of thing I used to do. Then I realized how oblivious/impulsive most people are and I realized that people don't usually act with that much intent and can be misunderstood very easily. Just be nice and have fun. It's so easy once you get the hang of it People sense negative vibes VERY QUICKLY and if you're paranoid/nervous/whatever, it will spell a quick end for any (potential) romantic encounter.

Most people are just doing their best, trying to get along... I am a weird guy by most people's standards (as I'm sure many people here are), but I've learned that if you're nice to people and don't judge them, usually they will grant you the same courtesy. And guess what, if they don't, it's a reflection on THEM, not you. So just be who you are and be nice... period... there's your social rulebook in one easy to remember sentence: "Be nice and respectful and people will return the favor." Live by it, it works