OK, I'm probably making a big mistake by telling something like this in a forum, but I got nothing to loose. Is it supposed teen to be sexually atracted to older people, or people more phisically developped? What happens to me is precisely the oposite. I'd never rape anyone, althought it's really hard to fight it, but i'd never do it. I just fear that when I grow up I will probably be atracted to... younger girls. It's sad when I hear people sayin people like... me should die, or should not exist. Maybe that's true. I don't want to feel any atractiong to younger girls. I have a problem and I REALLY need to solve it, and I will need some help. I will do almost anything to get rid of this shit, pls help me. I really didn't want to be like this, trust me...
How young are we talking? You're pretty darn young yourself. This could easily me something that disappears as you get older. OR, as you get older, maybe the age you're attracted to will get older as well. And what do you mean, it's hard to hold back from rape?
Were you molested as a child or have a "dysfunctional" family? These things can really fuck with a persons head and their way of thinking. You can't control your thoughts, but you can control your actions. My advice to you would be to get help as soon as possible. It just gets worse and harder to deal with as you get older. I went through the same fucked up stuff and at times it can be a living hell. Just be strong and don't do anything you'll regret.
Yea, your gonna have to define how much younger..i mean if your 15 and like a girl thats 12 theres nothing wrong with that...but if shes like 8 you might have some issues going on...
First of all you can't even imagine how thankful I am, you have understood my problem, wich is rare, as you may know. No, I've never been raped, I just one day discovered the beauty of non-developped bodys. Ages? Yes, about 12. Once again I tell I would NEVER hurt someone of that age. Specially because I LOVE them. I'm still a bit... embaressed... sorry. I hope this disapears when I'm older. And I'm sorry if I offended someone.
Well...with you being fifteen, it isn't a problem that you're attracted to 12 year olds. But if you get older and you're still attracted to 12 year olds...That WILL be a problem. I recommend therapy or some other form of psychiatric help. There is no way that you can really take care of this on your own. Like I said, since you're 15 its alright that you like girls who are a little younger. But when you turn..say, 16, 17?..And you still like 12 year old girls, I'd say that you need to get some outside help before it turns into something that you can't control.
Control is the issue here. Your sexual orientation, if that really is the problem - and you won't know until you are somewhat older - is not something you can change. "Deviant" sexual proclivities are currently thought to be incurable, though there is some evidence that negative reinforcement can help curb your urges. Telling a therapist about this problem is a risky proposition as the general public is becoming more and more intolerant of such things. That is, sexual attraction to children, regardless of actions taken, is more and more often thought of as "thought crime." There may very well come a day when those in the psychiatric field are required to report it to the authorities. Also, depending on the moral stance of your counsellor, this may happen whether the law requires it or not. For that matter, while many on these forums might be genuinely interested in helping you, I'm certain that some people reading this thread have already passed judgement upon you and it is possible, depenting upon the steps you have taken to insure your anonymity, that they are already moving against you. Sadly, the "Zero Tolerance" mentality seems to be infecting the whole nation. You have every reason to be afraid. Worse, should it turn out that you do have a problem, the "urges" may become stronger and stronger until you simply cannot control them. In most cases involving sexual predators of children, this is said to be the case. That being said, the best way to avoid trouble is not to let it start. If you take one step in that direction, the next will be considerably easier, and the next, and so on. The vast majority of those convicted of being sexual predators of children have many, many victims on thier list. My advice: Avoid children. Period. If you begin acting as if you were afraid of contact with them now, then you will set up a pattern which will make it easier to stay away from them later. Those around you will never know what is in your head - only that you have some sort of irrational fear of children, which is considerably preferable to the alternative. Of course, I may be wrong. I have no actual experience with the situation, only what I have read. But it seems to me that would be a viable solution. I would be interested in hearing other opinions on the subject, though.
Alrighty. Well. I found that kind of offending. I am going to be a therapist, and one of the main things about therapy is that you are NOT supposed to let your own feelings effect a decision or anything else towards a patient. Now, it may be true that there are some therapists out there who let their opinions effect the way they look at someone, but if they are professional they won't. Their object is to HELP people, not give someone another reason to feel alienated. He can't fix the problem himself if/when it gets worse. Avoid children? That won't work forever. And a therapist can't report him for having these feelings as a minor. In fact, the only way a therapist can bring someone into a situation is if they are a threat to themselves or someone else. Ex. - if he tells his therapist that he has been watching a little girl in a park; she/he can alert the police so that action can be taken for that little girl's safety. There is nothing wrong with going to a professional to get help with a problem like this. As a matter of fact, its a pretty good idea as opposed to handling it himself and potentially ruining his chances at having a normal life, and being able to have children of his own someday.
As I said. I could be wrong. Perhaps you are offended by my opinions of those in the therapy business. Alright. I never claimed all therapists would break confidentiality with a patient, I only suggest that there are a few who might. My real concern is that, given the current trend toward totalitarianism in our government, the time may come when they have no choice. I can imagine a scenario where even the most staunch defenders of doctor/patient privilege could be rendered helpless as government agents simply took whatever information they wanted form a doctors files, protests-be-damned. I'm not the type to condone that someone should repress their sexual urges, but when the alternative is death (and it may well come to that, given our reactionaly nature about such things), I consider it preferable. The life expectancy of a known child molestor is considerably less than the average person's, especially if they end up in jail for it. There is a play (being a theatre artist, I read a lot of scripts) called Short Eyes, by Miguel Pinero, an ex-con who did time in New York's Tombs prison, which concerns the case of a gentle, meek, intelligent man who "couldn't help himself" and was put in prison for sexual assault of a little girl. The play is based upon Pinero's observations of prison life. In the play, they killed the man. It was made clear that this was the accepted practice. We have seen how known sex offenders are treated in life outside prison by those around them. Known sex offenders are treated like the most foul trash to exist. The general reaction of a community toward such a person is something along the lines of: "Don't let the sun set on you here, whoever you are. We don't know you and we don't want to know you." What kind of a life is that for anyone to lead? Simply put, let me ask you: If you, personally began to experience strong urges to interact with kids in a sexual manner, would you trust anyone with that information? Would you feel secure talking to a therapist? Honestly? You might be right. I'm not an expert. I respect your opinion, and I'll even go so far as to say that you may have greater credability in this case than I (though you are not currently a therapist). There is nothing WRONG with getting professional help. But if, as the current data suggests, it is an incurable malady, what would a professional be able to do? In any case, avoiding children is at least a deterent in that it guarantees there is no opportunity for temptation. That's something, at least. Can you make such a claim with therapy?
I think it's overracting to suggest that a 15-year-old might have a problem becasue they are attracted to a 12-year-old. Don't sweat it, bro. It's perfectly normal.
Thank you all so much! I'll probabilly do what you're suggesting. And yeah, believe me, this may be stronger than what you think... with time I learnt to prevent this, precisely avoiding children contact. And lots of strenght. I know I will some how get through this. I've also thought about a hypnotherapist, but I don't know... I guess I'll wait until I'm legally an adult. Thanks again.
