Widwives and natural mommas help me out! Bleeding...

*sigh* I am so glad for this place, and all the smart women here... I'm asking all the smart women to take a minute and lend me some advice, or thoughts...

I am fourteen weeks pregnant, and ridiculously happy to be so... It's all been going swell, easy as pie, up until the night before last. I woke up to use the bathroom during the night, and when I went to wipe I noticed that I definitely had some vaginal bleeding going on. There wasn't any in my panties, but enough to leave a good amount of red on the first wipe, and pink on the consecutive two. It scared the life out of me! I went back to bed, worried, but trying not to stess out about it... I cried a bit and told myself I didn't even know if I had good reason to be crying, and ended up falling back asleep. I woke up a few hours later to no bleeding but still bothered I got online and read some stuff... It was awful! Threatened miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy! I took myself to the urgent care center two hours away, scared to death and crying the whole way... I don't have an OB or midwife yet, I know I might be flamed for that, but I have my reasons... They did an exam, and some bloodtests, I heard the baby's heart chugging right along, and they said everything looked good on the ultrasound, my hCG levels were great. They had no idea why I was bleeding... They just sent me across the street for a Rhogam injection, because I am rh negative. They wanted me to call one of the OBs associated with the hospital today, but I figured I wouldn't... Decided not to go down that road again after having my last baby in a hospital... I'm holding out on finding a midwife. I believe hugely in having babies the natural way... I appreciate that their were doctors there for me in my emergency situation yesterday, but I don't always think they are necessary. I've been taking it easy, like advised by the doctors, but am having a little more bleeding tonight... More pink on the paper and one small drip in the toilet. I'm not in any pain, just the "usual" aches that come with being pregnant.

I guess what I am looking for is advice from people who know... I've seen so many wise midwives on here! How common is bleeding in early pregancy? It it something to be really worried about, especially after the baby was proved to be viable and healthy? What should I be doing, or not doing? Should I be rushing to get an OB? Are there any herbs I can take that might help, like strengthen my uterus or stop the bleeding? I'm worried, but I don't want to get sucked into the "cenventional medicine" trap if I can avoid it. I had plans for a home birth, maybe even unassisted, and don't want to get scared out of it if nothing's truly wrong. Do any of you ladies practice in Southwest Missouri or Eastern Tennessee? *smile*
Thanks so much... Anyone that has some advice, or maybe experience with the same thing, I'd love to hear what you have to say.

 

since people don't seem to post here as often you really should check out mothering.com/discussions which is a natural AP parenting pregnancy board there is a whole board on pregnancy and on midwives they could probably give an answer sooner than here

 

hi there

i would see the doctor just incase .
i had no bleeding with first child in 1990, but
i lost a child over 14 years ago with very little bleeding,
then had a wonderful boy in 1993,but also
4 years ago i had a very heavy blood loss, in hospital
waiting to stop bleeding and my youngest daughter is here alive...now.
so it is very different for all woman ,
i do know many woman have had little blood lose
but most of my friends have got checked out anyway,
as above just see the midwife
lovenpeace from saff.

good luck ..

 

I am so sorry to hear about this *hugs*
I don't really know what to tell you, though...the first thing that ran through my mind was miscarrage...but since your baby was prooven healthy, I don't know...
maybe you're one of those women who have periods throughout...a friend of mine is like that. I don't know why you wouldn't have had that with your son, though.
I would definately get on finding a midwife asap since you're having this problem. Now you need to have a professional to ask about this.
I hope everything improoves for you and you can find out what's going on. Keep us posted *hugs*

 

I would find a midwife asap, just to keep an eye on things.

I bled (very lightly) and cramped through my first trimester....it scared the crap out of me but everything was fine. I carried dd 40 weeks +1 day and she came out fat and healthy.

Don't stress too much, just find yourself a midwife and take it easy

 

Please don't mess around and find a midwife now. Even though many of us have had multiple children and some on here are midwives, we can't see what's going on with your body. Childbirth is a wonderful natural thing. But if there is a problem, you need someone there with you, not someone on the internet. Even if you have to go to a doctor until you can find a midwife, do that. You can always fire them when you find the right person to assist you with your birth. For now, you need to make sure everything is okay with your little one.

Kathi

 

I bled during my first trimester after having sex. Not copious amounts, just like the little bit you described.

But as everyone else has said, see a doctor or the equivilant.

 

A friend of mine just went through something similar the other day. She went to the er and was told that when you are pg sometimes your body sends too much blood to your uterus and that it can gather and clot and instead of being reabsorbed by the body a woman can bleed or pass clots and the fetus can stay perfectly healthy and viable. I don't know how I feel about this info, its just what she told me. Good luck finding a provider that you feel comfortable with. Try to take it easy, take great care of yourself, and don't get too stressed out.
H

 

Thanks for the support ladies... I appreciate the input. I was really scared there for a bit. I'm feeling better about the situation now though... There is alot of conflicting information out there about the how serious this kind of thing is, ranging from it being perfectly normal, to terribly dire. The first thing I happened to read was from the "terribly dire" section... I freaked out, with good cause, but didn't inform myself completely. After having done some more reading, and after the reassurance that baby is doing okay, I feel like the situation is under control.

Kirstyn... I am one of seven children and my mom bled anywhere from four to six months in with many of us around the time she typically had her period. I don't know why I wouldn't bleed the first two months and start up on the third, but I'm not ruling it out. All this happened at the same time that my mom and sister were on their period(we all live together, and cycle together like a bunch of goats*haha*) so maybe their hormones pushed me over the edge.

Stormyy... I didn't have any serious bleeding either, very light. It sure was enough to scare me though.

IcedTea... No sex either. Although I have bled a bit having sex when I was in a position to be having it, though nothing serious. I figured it was just my cervix being juicy.

HadleyChick... That sounds likely. I was told that my cervix looked kind of "fragile"... To quote the doctor, "It looks kind of fragile, like cervixes typically do during pregnany..." All that bloodflow and extra hormones... *shrug*

I really appreciate all of your replies... I know that this can never take the place of hands on care, but in the absense of such, it feels good to have some moral support. I am on the lookout for a midwife... It seems like in my neck of the woods these precious creatures are extinct. Also I'm in the middle of trying to figure out if I am staying here or going east... Confusing business and a lot is up in the air. Not to mention being on a painfully limited budget with no insurance... Having a baby like God intended is harder to do these days than I imagined it would be. *sigh*

 

Ivory~that friend I was talking about started her bleeding right about her 3rd month, too. She would bleed for 7 days straight, she said that it seemed like a regular period. But her son was good and healthy.

 

Thanks Kirstyn... It's good to hear that someone went through the same thing with good results. I figure I'm probably manifesting some of the stuff my mom went through, and seeing as it was at the same time my family was on their period and about the time I usually have mine, it makes sense. We're all very sensitive to the hormones around us. I've not had any more bleeding than the stuff previously mentioned, so everything is looking good. I'm taking it super easy, not doing anything too strenuous. I feel so much better now! I got some red raspberry leaf today for tea... It's supposed to be great for toning up the uterus. All in all, my fear of losing this baby is gone. I am still being cautious and attentive, but don't want to let something small stress me out to the point of it developing into something more harmful because of all the emotional pressure.


Thanks everyone!

 

Hey mama, be careful with the rrl tea. It may cause some contractions. Some women drink it daily thru their pregnancy, but I waited until my third trimester to start. I also started small-1 cup a day and I built up from there.

 

hiya! I'm not a natural birth momma or a midwife but I had bleeding in my pregnancy. It started at about two months and was accompanied with cramping sorta pain, it was painful, anyhow I don't know how wo describe the pains exactly but it was pain. Anyhow as you didn't describe pain I figure that you are so far a step ahead of where I was which is a great thing. I was put to bed and stayed there for the pregnancy and even later in the pregnancy was only allowed to wander the house...as the doctor said "round the house yes, round the block no" anyhow I figure that at the moment if it isn't continuing and the monitoring showed the heartbeat and growth to be strong and normal then all is good. It is maybe worth continuing to monitor heartbeat and growth as they did with mine as they were able to confirm for me that things were still ticking along despite really bad bleeding episodes and they could keep track of when the placenta did actually give out (which was the problem for me, it was beginning to lift away and gave up the ghost earler with my bubs growth starting to slide off the scale).
Resting loads is probably not the worst advice anyone could give you right now!