I really like this guy, just one of the most amazing persons I have ever met. He hangs out with the "druggies" of my school and they do the dumbest things know to man kind. To them I guess its fun, but I see it as dangerous and Im worried. The other night he told me he and his buddies chocked them selves and filmed it. People have died form doing this and I have seen people do it its just terrifying to see. Well his buddies parents found the tape and talked to them about it, and said they where going to show everyones parents. So I told him you know its dangerous you could die, asked him to never do it again. But I asked him if he learned anything from it... and he said no. It kind of pissed me off, because the guys he hangs out with dont give a rats ass about him.. and if your do something like that expect repercussions. He isnt stupid! He just pretends to be, to fit in! It drives me insane! Insane! These people talk shit behind his back, and they DO NOT care about him. I dont understand how he doesnt see it. I just need to know how I can help him? I guess Im over reacting Im just worried I dont want to ever hear that he is dead. Any suggestions ? Thanks.
Overreacting? Absolutely not! Your boyfriend, as you know, is being a sodding arsehole. The only problem is (and I know from experience), he will not listen to you until he figures it out for himself, and when you tell him about it in the meantime he might accuse you of "meddling" (although your efforts are truly reasonable and in his best interest). Hopefully when his parents see the tape, they will give him some sort of punishment ... and that might turn him around (if only by keeping him away from his toxic friends for a while). If not, and if possible, I suggest talking to his parents yourself, telling them that you care about their son and don't want him to do something to fit in that would end up fatal. Best of luck ... truly.
sounds like he's the class clown to me.. if you want my advice sounds like he needs to grow up to be honest with you have you ever considered getting him tested for learning difficulties?
You have a right to be concerned and he is being an idiot the parents should be aware of the risks he is taking before he ends up dead just to fit in. I know about trying to fit in I gave up along time ago. I hope he realizes it is not worth fitting in with these idiots before it is to late. Oh and in his mind your harping on him even if it is you just showing concern for someone you care about, so do not take the back lash from him to heart one day his eyes will open and he will find he doesn't need them and that you care and were just looking out for his best intrest.
