Good friends are for keeps

I've known Sue for nearly ten years, were where inseperable and now I think if I never see her again, my life will be much better.
has anyone else ever thought this way about a best friend?

 

I once had a good friend, she was a really great friend, never let me down and always made me feel better, But she went on to get a boyfriend and i couldnt have that..no...i just couldnt

She lives in my closet now she smiles at me everyday....i wave to her and brush her hair and she tells me who all the bad people are..and how they need to be taught a lesson....special lessons

 

No, not really. I'm kinda picky on who I will allow to become a close friend of mine.

 

Yes, I have actually. I have an on and off best friend of 15 years. Right now she's on the "off".

Watch, now after making this post, she'll call me today.

 

I find that as my life changes, so do my friends. Not necessarily because of a disagreement, but we just choose different paths.

I do have an ex-BFF who thinks I stole her boyfriend. I think that makes her feel better about him dumping her. Whatever helps her sleep at night. *shrugs*

We were friends for 12 years...after we split, I heard all kinds of lovely things she would say behind my back to mutual friends.

 

That's exactly how it is too. For instance, the friend I was referring to, well, I've changed sooo much since we first met, whereas she really hasn't. She's unmarried, has no children, and actually just moved back home with her elderly mother. There's not a whole lot of common ground between the two of us like there was in our younger years.

We get along fine when things are going well in her life, like when she had fallen head over heels for a man, moved in with him, she was calling me nearly everyday, but when things fall apart, she doesn't want anything to do with me. I know she gets depressed a lot, and I know it's hard for her, because the life I have is actually what she really wants as well, and unfortunately, she keeps falling for the wrong guys, ends up screwed over in the end.

I understand why she does what she does, but she's also had a history of stabbing me in the back and hurting me badly as well, which is the reason my husband absolutely cannot stand her. Yet, I always seem to forgive her and accept her excuses for her behavior. Many times I've thought it would be better to sever all ties, but, I just don't have the heart to.

 

i only have one friend, really. we've been friends since we were 9. we don't always stay in ultra-close contact, and we get on each other's nerves sometimes. but that doesn't last. we're still friends.

 

I had a BFF once, but he decided he didn't like me anymore and he got a new BFF. So now I'm BFF with his new BFF's wife.

Actually, I've had two really truly great friends. One I met in high school. He moved away to Chicago though, so we've lost touch at this point. I think about calling him now and then, but I never do.

The other is a guy I met in college. We both have families and careers, so we don't get to hang out much, but we do talk now and then. I know if there was ever an issue, we'd be there for each other in a second.

 

I find myself changing every few months, becoming more diverse, while a lot of people stay the same, I find i remain friends with flexible folks.

 

While I don't generally believe in "Burning Bridges," and completely severing the ties of a former relationship, sometimes the spark just dies.

For some “hard to define” reason there’s just nothing there, and it leaves you wondering what the attraction was in the first place.


Hotwater

 

yes exactly
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i've always had issues with making friends...i'm a little socially retarded...i'm growing everyday and becoming a different person and i find alot of people either like me or hate me...i can be hard to get along with at times..i push people away...i've never really had a best friend...i thought i did but was wrong...so in that way i think i can understand where you're coming from with sue sam...
i've wanted things to stay the same for so long and still do in some ways but i understand that nothing can stay the same and its often for the better that it doesn't

 

You don't seem to have too much difficulty making friends on the hip forums message boards. why do you think that is, and will it eventually translate to the real world.

This would after all, appear to be the perfect vehicle in which to sharpen and hone your social and communicative skills


Hotwater

 

awww, you're talking about me aren't you.... so sweet... hehe "Sue" .... I would've never guessed... hehehe ...



sweet.

 

Best friends can be handy in a time when you're dead out of energy, sad and need one person to understand despite how unpleasant you might be to be around. I'm lucky.

Although sometimes i wonder if I could do with a more compassionate "best friend", but i think thats what a girlfriend is for.

 

I can be your best friend if you'd like.

 

Lets get married.

 

you have no money. :H

 

I do so, I am a wealthy european gigolo.

 

I thought you were a pissed off, flaming, overweight twenty-something?