parent's bullshit.

background:

for me, my parents are pretty screwed up. yes, maybe because they hate each others guts and have three kids. first off, i am not a bad kid, sure i dont do crap they want me to do, because i dont agree with their thoughts on the subject, but thats just natural. and then im also 17 so im supposed to be wondering about crap after high school. then my sister is pretty damn ignorant and is a cheap sell out to any fad going through the 5th grade. my brother, well is a bit crazy and wild. so they had to deal with that, and lots of crap.

one thing i cant accept is when my dad tells me he "came to america with 5 dollars in his pocket." great. so you left russia and stopped being an alchoholic and were in poverty for a few years. then since he became good at computer programming he got a very good job and plenty of cash and we moved to a rich suburb outside new york city. i started going to a private school.

everything goes fine. then my dad and mom get seperated and shit gets annoying and confusing. i live with my mom, brother and sister in the suburbs, while my dad lives in the city again. so basically i have to take care of my siblings every so often, more then the usual kid. i also enter high school.

situation:

my dad has always been a perfectionist and hard worker and expects me to be better than he has been. he has the most violent temper i have ever seen, while im at it. when i started smoking in the summer of 9th grade no one had really told me bad things about weed, i just assumed it was a cigarette with a point. so that went fine. school went alright. i was never a great student, although i definately could be, im just not interested and lazy.

10th grade goes by, my mom finds out i smoked and all and wasnt really mad or anything, she just didnt want my dad to find out about it because he hated drugs and crap. then one day my dad finds out, flips the shit out and lectures me a ton. he claims that he did weed and opium when he was younger and that it wasnt neccesary. he starts hounding me about school again and is concerned that my grades werent consistant because i smoked.

now, two thirds through junior year, i am made to believe that the SAT is the only thing i should be worrying about and my dad has said fuck my friends and people and that i cant see them until after i get my SAT scores back whichll be like in july. also he has bought me hard alchohol before but gets pissed if i smoke like once a month. fucking retarded piece of shit.

so this is what happens when parents fuck with your head like that: you start doing drugs more and harder ones too, to get away from all the shit your parents give you, in most cases, not mine, i havent been doing that much shit besides weed at all. also, my dad hates the most when i lie, but when my life only consists of planning for college [which i dont even know if ill go to yet], and studying the whole day, without letting me hang out with friends on weekends or whenever something happens, lies are all he is going to get.

since my mom isnt helping me at all to get a job or anything, i get a healthy allowance from my dad and i waste most of it. i buy herb, mostly to relax but also to spite his moronic ass. so whenever i buy herb with his money, i am a happier person knowing that i throw out something that someone has made who has been an ignorant chicken sucker to me. goddamn, he says he knows because he has been a teenager too, but he doesnt understand that he is being retarded.

id be happy if my parents could ease up on studying and keeping me isolated from my friends, and maybe then, i wouldnt smoke like i have in the past and waste their shit, but the way they really act, i dont care. they say they understand but i can tell they dont.

sorry about the long read, i just thought i should write my situation and see if other peoples parents or such push them into shit more.

 

Dude yeah I hate people like that. you give them facts but they just throw it in your face and think they're akways right.

 

Don't do something stupid to get back at your parents. If you wanna smoke then smoke, that's fine, but when you do shit just for other people, it seems like you aren't even piloting your own life. Your letting others control what you do. I pity your situation, all-knowing parents are fucking retarded.

 

Grow the fuck up, honestly.

You pretty much have it made... no family is perfect, but yours comes pretty damn close to ideal. Yes, parents fight... it happens, at least they are not abusive. Your mom is actually good with you smoking, and your dad buys you booze? You got money, you will probably go to a good school even if your grades suck (because you smoke pot, btw... or maybe you're just plain stupid).

Yet again kiddo,

Grow up.

 

i have some pretty interesting parents too and come from the background of the dad being from another country (italy). anyway, just do what you feel is right and what would make you happy, but dont lie to anyone including yourself. if you want to go to your friends and feel you did everything you need to for school or whatever, then go. your mom seems to be a little more understanding of the fact you smoke which is always a relief. but dont do drugs just to get back at your parents.

 

Yup.

 

agreed for once.

your the retard not your dad, it sounds like your dad is trying fuckin hard to get your lazy ass up and be a productive member of society, your family, or dad at least are in the minority of imigrants that actually come here and work hard to make a living

you just suck money through your parents, ride a free ride, and dont give 2 shits about your future, your just looking for your next high.

you also say, your dad pushes you, your dad tells you to do this and that

then u say "I could be smart and productive, but i dont want to and I'm lazy"

in the words of biggie

"You was never shit, your moms shoulda swallowed you"

 

:lol:

dont complain, you could be in third world country right now, or have cancer/aids. parent troubles are nothing, you just wait the storm out, get ur own place and start living smart, making shitloads of dosh and having an early retirement. i hate emos, they have like huge houses, conformist christian idiot parents, have all the money they need, yet moan and complain and shit. people dont know jack about things being bad till they for real hit rock bottom.

sorry if im just a snotty attitude infested 15 year old :/

 

Gosh, another case of parents trying to get their kids to study and worrying about the effects of smoking pot. It really is refreshing to realize that my 17 y/o has plenty of company out there when it comes to whiney teenagers.

I'm one of those aweful parents that make my kids study, do chores and am generally concerned about what they are doing and and with whom.

 

Good job. I have almost all the freedom I desire because my parents get on my case about things that really matter, and I've learned to meet their demands in order to earn their trust. Any parent that can put up with bullshit like this kid's and still keep trying get them to make something of themselves gets a good note in my book.
Because, anonymous, your dad didn't just skip ages 12-20, and he obviously knows what it takes to sculpt yourself out of nothing. He has good reason to think you're headed to nothing, so, even if his morals, personality, and motivation differ from yours, it seems like he's doing his best to teach you to sculpt yourself into something worthwhile. Life isn't going to be the free ride you enjoy now, with just bullshit parental problems to spoil your day, and your dad has every right to try to get you to understand that, even if it means raining on your parade.

 

My parents drive me crazy with their school work nagging.

But I'd be screwed if they didn't nag.

So you got to appreciate it.

 

to tell you the truth, you sound like a spoiled brat...

"since my mom isnt helping me at all to get a job or anything, i get a healthy allowance from my dad and i waste most of it. i buy herb, mostly to relax but also to spite his moronic ass." umm how old are you? get off your ass and get your own damn job. you're parents are screwed up?!?!
nah, you're just a fuckin brat!

 

I agree with you to a certain extent. That some of us (including myself) do use marijuana to escape the stress that comes with highschool and parents. But seriously, you're acting like your parents are the worst thing ever and that weed is the only saving grace in your life. I don't know your dad but from your post I can tell that he just wants the best for you. And he buys you booze? Fuck the weed and drink that shit.

 

So let me get this straight....you are mad at your parents for trying to teach you to be responsible?

No matter how badly you think your parents fuck up...that's besides the point. They are responsible for how you turn out in life. Maybe they don't want you living at home after you turn 18 and want you as responsible as possible so they won't have to further be resposnible for you as an adult.
Count your blessings, at least they care.

 

first off- all the people giving him such harsh answers, beginning with Rubin and going on with all the others-
how about you all shut the fuck up yourselves? it sounds like youre all so ready to take the role of being the wiser one and telling him that hes fucked up.
whats the point of you telling him the shit you told him?
to help him???
well, do you think telling him that hes the retard and stupid is going to help?
are you trying to tell me that none of you ever complained about your parents for what they did to do as a teenager? i think every teen gets pissed about parents making them do good in school, etc. etc. do I think the parents have a good intention? yeah, of course.
but if you cant remember what it was like being the same age, then youre just becoming an ignorant adult.

that being said, let me respond to the original post:

while it seems like your parents are being horrible to you, just try to think about what youd want for your kids. and parents worrying about any drug for a teenager is completely normal- its not so much them worrying about the drug itself, but its them doubting that you can HANDLE it. can you handle weed?
it also sounds like a lot of this revolves around weed.
why are you smoking weed anyway? if its to piss your dad off by spending his money on it, then it sure as hell sounds like youre smokin for the wrong reasons.
not to mention, Ive had a job since I was 14, and I didnt get help from my mom.

I know its frustrating if your family sitaution is a bit messed up (you said your parents were separated right?) growing up, and sometims youll see the wrong side of what your parnets are saying/doing. Like I said before, your parents are just trying to get you on the right track, parents worry about their kids being okay and doing well in the world (surprise!), and it just sounds like your parents are really thinking about you.

Just try getting your grades and all back up- show your parents that you know what youre doing. However, it seems at the moment they have reasons to not trust that you know what youre doing. Just do the work in school, what Ive learned is as long as you just do everything youre assigned, its hard not to get A's. And really, is school actually all that hard?

Hope things shape up for ya.
cheers and love,
Dylan

 

your being a total prick. fare enuf wen ur a teenager u think ur parents are always rong but listen to urself ur dad is tryin to help u sort ur life out n by u being stuborn ul just fuk it up. gange has nout to do with ur grades its u. if u toke once a month like u sed i cant see how 12 times a year wud fuk ur life up so stop complainin n listen to ur dad. u shud also tryin to smoke spliff wen ur life dunt depend on how ur state of mind is weed does fuk wit ur head but nt tht much too fuk ur family up

 

pssh i gave him fuckin advice... "get off your ass and get your own damn job"
that way he wouldn't have to deal with his "screwed up" (?!??!) parents and he could make money to buy his own shit instead of sucking on his momma's teet like a little baby!

i have absolutely NO tolerance for spoiled ass little brats. i don't care if i'm being mean or whatever... my advice is simply listed above, and yes it may be mean but the truth hurts sometimes.

 

To avoid a whole messy relationship with my parents, I have come up with a fool-proof plan.

1) Wait till you move out
2) Grow
3) Smoke up!

 

i have held plenty of jobs, mostly summer shifts at pools which goes back all the way to 14 years old. so fuck you if you say im lazy. and the reason i dont have a job now is that i cant drive and my town consists of a pizzeria and a deli and a laundromat so im going to have any luck with that.

i just tried to say in my previous post that my dad was a complete hypocrite and fool and that sometimes parent's bullshit will drive their kids further into shit. but i guess that wasnt really important except the fact that i gladly spent my parents money on shit. also, quite a bit is left out so its not like everything said here is going to be on mark. at least a few people arent assholes here, like pianoperson or cumilt na gcos which is appreciated.

 

Then why aren't your grades good?

You dad sounds much wiser than you. Try to listen to him.