I think my friend has anorexia-help?

I was just checking out these pics she sent me and they are obviously a cry for help. Her ribs and hip bones are poking through and she told me last week that a size 4 falls off of her now(she's 5'11). She was a healthy size 8 last year. I think she is trying to get her hunsbands attention by doing this. How can I bring it up?

 

The most you can do right now is just go get some coffee or something with her and ask if everything is okay. Don't ask her if she's anorexic but you might just say something like "You look like you've dropped a lot of weight quickly and I was just wondering if things are okay with you, if you're stressed out about anything." She probably won't want to talk about it but as long as you let her know that you care and you're there for her that will help.

 

The bottom line is that you can't do much of anything but be a friend. THAT IS THE BEST THING TO DO. If you try to be too forceful, your intentions will not seem helpful to her and she will push you away. Whether she is a size 8 or size 2, keep your friendship the way it has always been, and be there when she needs you.

 

Mos def just be her friend and stand by her, if you are aggressive about it and confront her flat out, you may loose a friend.....

When I was about 15 I only weighed 95 lbs. and the biggest turn off to me was when someone said to me "why are you so skinny are you anorexic" or people would say "are you bulimic" and I was just small. Not saying your friend doesn't have a problem, because she very well could, if she went from an 8 to a 4 in such a fast period of time, she may need to slow down... because there is healthy skinny, and sickly skinny ya know?? sorry to ramble....

 

as a former anorexic i will tell you that there isnt much you can do.

when you are starving yourself to be thin and people notice.........well, thats just more incentive to keep doing it.
My advice would be if she ever asks, dodge the topic or just tell her she is being flat out stupid.
all that gentle concern and worry just eggs them on.
She has to figure out on her own when enough is enough and be done with it.
Anorexia is just a symptom of a problem, not a problem in and of itself.
if its stress from her relationship with her husband, then i advise you to help her out with that, not the eating issue.

 

As a recovering bulimic I can tell you that if she does in fact have an eating disorder that it doesn't have to do with food. There are underlying issues that come along with e.d.s. just talk to her and maybe ask her if she's ok. I wouldn't really address the food issue simply because eating disorders are beyond our control until we have the enormous strength to conquer them.