Need some advice on something odd...

Hey everyone. I have a dilemma and just would appreciate your input.
So, I've been talking to this guy online (and sorta in-person) for about a year or so. I also work for Blockbuster, which is sorta how I met him since he rents movies from me every now and then and we talk. Some of my other coworkers also know him since he's an administrator for a local school, but they don't know he's gay. He's also significantly older...late 40's I believe. I'm 20.
Anyway, we had been chatting for about a year and he has just offered to have me come over to his house to receive a massage and blowjob. That's it...nothing required on my part except to show up, get, and leave. I'm sortof shy...total virgin in every way (never done anything with a guy except kiss) so this is kinda tempting for me. Ive also been under a lot of stress so this just seems like a good way to finally relieve some.

I'm not concerned with safety with this guy...he's harmless. I know he wouldn't try to rape or force something on me. He just wants to give me something since he knows I haven't done anything yet. He doesn't want anything in return. What concerns me is how I will feel afterwards and if I will regret it...or am I over thinking it? I keep going back and forth and I'm not sure what to do. Has someone else had a similar situation?
The deal is on the table...should I accept or not?
Thanks for reading this. All input is appreciated.

 

you know, I am always down for a little bit of pleasure every now and then, however I do have respect for myself. I think the real question here is do you have feeling for this guy or is it just a pleasure deal? I think planning a sex date seems kind of strange. I am always one to just go with the flow and let things happen as they happen. Well if you guys are both single, because I do not support cheating, and you feel comfortable with this guy, then just go over to his house but manybe take it down a few steps. Instead of jumping right into blowjobs, maybe start out with a massage like you mentioned, and then gradually make your way to a handjob, and depending on how you feel, you could recieve a blow job. I believe that communication is key, so just tell him how you feel. It seems to me he just wants to be like a mentor/ teacher to you. well those are my thoughts. good luck! I would like to hear how the entire thing ended up.

 

I agree with Compassion. Planning a sex date makes things a bit akward. And feelings have alot to do with it. If you care for this man, regardless of age, and feel that you would like to have him be the first man you have done anything with, then all the power to you. but dont do it just because he offered and you think you have to accept. like compassion said, go over and take it slow. Maybe just go over and dont do anything for a while. Just get comfortable being in the others presence and then things might progress better. But whatever your choice is, dont regret it. Regret is something we could all live without. Regret doesnt help anything. It doesnt bring that moment back, it doesnt change it. When you do decide, if you think you made the wrong choice use it as a lesson for the next time. But follow what your feelings tell you to do, regardless of what people at work might think. Its your life, you need to do what you feel is best.

 

Maybe ask the guy out on a date or something and from there, see what happens. Does this guy like you? Do you like him? Are you friendly with one another? If so, why not start dating and then let whatever happen happen. Personally, I probably would go over to his house, but would probably feel a bit bad afterward. I'd rather get to know him better first.