ever happened to have anti-barefoot mates ?

I mean husbands/wives/boy-and-girl-friends etc who harassed you for your more or less constant barefooting ... or that menaced to dismiss you because of that... well, things like this.

 

Well, my husband isn't too keen on the fact that the kids and I are barefoot outside almost the entire late spring/summer/early fall, but I think he's the one missing out. It doesn't bother me.

 

Well I have the opposite situation. Its the mom in my family who isn't crazy about it. It drives her nuts when I go places barefoot. Do you just hang around the house and yard barefoot or do you go places that way too?

 

I actually haven't had too much resistance at all from people I know. I guess I've been lucky that way.

 

yes, i have received a lot of grief from boyfriends in regards to my barefooting. i have heard their prejudical comments and incorrect assertions regarding barefooting. i had boyfriends who did not want to go places with me because i was barefoot. fortunately those people are not part of my life anymore.

keep those feet bare!

 

the only person in my life thats ever gotten "upset" with me for being barefoot is my grandma...

i remember going across the street, barefoot, to give the little old lady some cookies we baked. when i came back inside my grandma grabbed my arm and said "you little devil! i told you to put on shoes!" i was soooo embarassed, all my friends were there.

now she doesn't care. we were recently at a chinese resturant for a party grandma was having and she noticed i was barefoot. she just gave me that "if you were a kid still, i'd give you a swat on the bottom" look and then giggled about it.

 

I think it´s possible to have a anti-barefoot mate, but I don´t think that´s a good idea. It´s like a smoker married with a nonsmoker, or a vegetarian with a beef lover.
When we get problems we need someone to support us not someone making things worse.
My feet are a part of me and girlfriends have to take all of me.
We don´t have to make this barefooting as a big deal, I think we just could say we want to hang around with someone who likes to be barefoot. I guess there could always be discussions about where and when and how much to go barefoot, but I could never have an all barefoot negative mate.
I think relationships should be full of love and acceptance, not harassment.
It´s about being good friends and having fun.

I could not really see why there should be that big difference in this subject between when we were kids and went barefoot together with the girls and when we are grown ups and have relationships. Probably anti-barefoot mates have no experience of the subject. They just belive what others tell them.

 

obviously so. but mismatched couples do exist too, and I was wondering if someone else had his share of bad times and how managed to cope with that. also, i think that the comparison with smokers and vegetarians does not fit well. If i smoke in the house i live in with my woman, I force her to sustain the adverse effect of my cigarettes. the problem does exist. also, if I dont like meat and my mate is fond of hamburgers, we'll have to cook separately which can be a drag in the long period, and once again a problem. but with barefooting its a matter of tolerance from the other side, and to a limited extent it's a matter of free of thought. I dont force her to wear or not wear anything; if then she still insists that there is a problem with me because of what other people may think, this touches MY own sphere before all, and it's a deliberate attempt to jail me in a cage of bias. Thing this that cant be tolerated... well, now i dont have such annoyances any longer anyway: the Lord gave and the Lord takes away... blessed be the name of the Lord . haha.

 

my grandmother is constantly on my case about barefeet... she thinks i'll die or something for walking around without shoes

 

No one I know has severe problems with it, in fact sometimes my husband goes barefoot as much as I do. Everyone else I'm friends with or kin to is either similiar to me or else is just tolerant.

 

my one called me the barefoot contessa ( a bearded one, though ) . a friend of mine also predicted that i am going to take some serious infection because of my careless barefooting. btw this guy since then got the CLAP , i suppose as a result of his careless fucking.

 

My mum has the same problems. She'll allow me to bearfoot in the house and the garden, but not in the street!

I need help convincing her that it's not as bad as it seems

 

so, plantigrade VS retrograde !

 

Maybe it helps her to know that while many regular people in the US have a problem with bare feet, and sometimes store owners will ask people to wear shoes for all kinds of supposed health reasons, US barefooters rarely if ever have a problem barefooting at the doctor's, at clinics and hospitals. Doctors -you know, these folks who've studied medicine for several years at some university or other- are the LEAST likely to tell someone to leave or wear shoes for health reason... so who's your mom going to believe on health & safety issues, the doctors or the store employees?

I also met with many doctors last year -for my mom, not for me- and none of them had an issue with my barefooting, but then here in the Netherlands store owners don't care either.

 

i have had some dificulty with my wife first off when i started barefooting she looked like she was gona kill me, but after a whole year of barefooting we have come to a compromize she dosn't care if i go barefoot but if we go to a store that i know is gona say something i wear flipflops in if she is with me when i'm alone i don't realy care what they say

only other person is my mother for some reason she is way anti-barefoot exept in her house where its required >.> but i think she has given up on me wearing shes now too lol

 

Most of the times I go out in public with my brother (I'm always barefoot), he insists that I bring along a pair of flip-flops. He says, "You don't have to wear them; just bring them." So I usually humor him and bring a pair along. But as soon as he thinks that people are staring at my bare feet, he'll beg me to put the sandals on, and I usually do just to shut him up. Then once he calms down, I'll take them off again.

It's so stupid. Why should he care if people are staring at ME? And by the way, they're not staring at me; it's all in his head!

 

My brother will do the same thing. It's mostly OK, he's a great guy and won't press the issue.

 

my hubby is a little weirded out by it. Wish he wasn't, but he's not a big fan of feet. In the last couple years, he's come to the point where he tells me that if I'm going to be barefoot, that I need to do it all year around. In Canada...especially after having 7 months of snow here, that's not an option in -40 C. So he's still being kind of a jerk about it....I just don't think he understands. Most of the time when I'm with him, I just wear flip flops, then we're all happy. When I'm not with him, I'll go barefoot all I want.

 

I think the problem is with most of us barefooters with disapproving mates is that we are approaching it from the point of view that we are doing something "wrong." But I think jagerhans has hit upon the real issue, and that is that going barefoot should be a matter of free choice based on free thought and personal preference. It does not even approach problems that may be caused by his examples of one mate smoking and the other not - in that case, the smoking partner does have a direct physical effect on the other partner with second hand smoke and smoke smell contamination, or one being a vegetarian and the other one not - in that case, each one must have completely separate meals prepared, an inconvenience. One person barefoot in public and the other person not has no real effect whatsoever on the non-barefooting person. If that person claims to be "embarrassed" to be with the barefooter, then that is not the barefooter's fault or the barefooter's problem. It only reflects an intolerance by the non-barefooting mate for anyone who is different. It would not be much different from, say as an example, a white woman having a black boyfriend, but knowing that there may be some people who would object or look down upon an interracial couple, she would tell him she doesn't want to be seen in public with him.

A barefooter with a mate who is not a barefooter has just as much right to insist that his or her partner not wear shoes and be barefoot like him or her as the other partner has to object to the barefooter's choice of no shoes. As jagerhans said, " I dont force her to wear or not wear anything..." That's the right approach. A so-called compromise should not be that the barefooter will wear shoes when with his or her partner in public - that's not a compromise at all. That's caving in to your partner's intolerance. A real compromise would be that the partner agrees to not insist you wear shoes and you agree to not insist that your partner go barefoot.