Three way relationships...can they work?

A few weeks ago my wife and I allowed a friend to move in after she and her girlfriend broke up. As time has gone on the relationship has progressed to physical and now to an emotional level.

Though the focus of the relationship is still my wife and I, the three of us all care for each other very much. Though we keep things on the down low in front of my kids (dont want to confuse them), we all feel very much like a family and we are planning to take our "friend" with us when I transfer to Europe next year.

So has anyone else had a similar experience? Good things? Bad things?

 

yes they can work..but can be difficult, the biggest problem i see for you is that its lopsided, a 3 way relationsp only trly works if all sides are equal
i've had a couple 3 way relationships & that was the reasons they failed as well..
and really keep the communications open, if any jealosy opr resentments arrise find a way to fix it fast..
its a risk..
a 3 way can break on any side..
if it breaks your wife & freind may end up togerther..or u & freind..or none at all..

or u can make it work
but aint ez..at all..
good luck thou

 

they can if everyone is -really- commited to making em work

ive never been in one personally but i have been in a poly relationship (my bf had anther gf) and we would probably still be together now if he hadnt moved away

 

Thanks you two. I really think this can work. This woman fits with both my wife and I so well it is almost frightening. Of course it has only been in the 'Relationship' phase for a few weeks, but all is well so far. Not to mention it really helps to have an extra pair of hands around the house when I am at sea.

and it doesnt hurt that she looks great naked...

 

ahh yeh i was in one of those, i was the other one they were married, i still have disterbing dreams about it, it really messed me up (my first relationship) so i would never go their again, to much stress, im glad it is all over... at least i think it is! the wife left, now are all court hearings, and im not sure if it was worth it all....

 

maybe you and your wifes relationship is lacking something thats why both of you are looking to this women to get something ur not getting from eachother!!!id try and keep jealousy under control..best of luck

 

yes jealousy is a BIG player!!! the more i think about it the more i know that my three way relationship messed me up and i may now need some help to function in a normal relationship

 

The odds are against it and you may lose your wife over it. Just be sure that you are willing to pay the consequences before proceeding.

 

When Paranoia and Jealously Creeps in...It's All Down Hill From There...

 

You mentioned that it helps to have your friend when you are at the sea. In your situation, it may probably work for the three of you. But remember that you have a separate relationship for your wife and for your friend. Just don't lose the trust that your wife has given you. It is also a good thing if you have open communication, especially with your wife. Don't give her reasons to get jealous also.

It will work if you really want to.




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