virginity sucks

so yes i hate being a virgin. it's not that i haven't gotten offers, i have gotten quite a few but i have serious trust issues, not to mention the fact that my top 3 worst fears are rape, STD, and having a baby at a young age. now i have a bf who is very special to me and i am extremely attracted to him and i trust him more that i have anyone else really. i want to give im this and im working up the courage but im also scared of the first time pain. how well did everyone else's first time go and how would i make the first time hurt less physically? all i've heard are kinda bad things, i kinda need to get a positive spin on this. Thanks!

 

it only hurts the first time if you try too hard. just do it really gently and you should be fine.

and as much as i frown on the idea of verginity, i can see were your comming from. i have issues trusting people too, i have a hard time letting people touch me let alone fuck me. but, im getting better. and so will you.
just dont over think, cuz that leads too worry. and at the same time don't go just on impulse.

 

Make sure it's an important moment, the right moment... don't rush it just because you're horny. Go slow, let your lover know what's feelin good, what's feelin less than good. Be communicative. And above all, use a condom!

 

well, my first time was only 3 weeks ago, with a guy friend.

honestly it didnt hurt.. there was only one moment of discomfort (and i say discomfort because it wasnt painful, it just wasnt comfortable) was because he was kind of long.. afterward i was a little bit sore.. which i expected.. but it didnt last long.

over all, i had a really good time.. but that could have something to do with the fact that we were both high (kb is a wonderful thing )

i heard that usually, most girls dont really enjoy their first time.. and that a lot of people have regrets and stuff, especially if they arent in a relationship with the other person (or even if they are)

the only regrets i have: that we didnt use a condom (didnt have any, too high to think about it), and that we didnt get to 'finish' (we were at his place, he has room-mates who happened to be awake at 4 or 5 in the morning, and he doesnt have a lock on his door)


i hope this helps you out and i hope you're able to enjoy your first time.

<3 stykz

 

Yup I hear you on that STD's thing. Thats the #1 reason I'm still one. Dont wanna catch anything and have it burn when I go to the bathroom.

 

The title of this thread is quite appropriate. The worst part of virginity is when you want some, you can't get it.

 

I used to be like that. Until I lost my virginity, I was miserable 15 year old that couldn't get any. Well, I did lose my virginity at 16, and it was wonderful. I was with a girl I really loved, and we spent a long time getting very comfy with each other before we went through with sex for the first time. I am a guy, I know, but my girlfriend at the time comunicate very well with me the firs time. We just went slow, and were careful to make sure we were very comfy and calm. The best thing I can say is to experiement first, with all the wonderful joys of being sexual that aren't intercourse. Learn to pleasure each other and explore each other with oral sex and and mutual masterbation. It will help you immmensely in the understanding of what is good for each other and what is good for yourself. Sex shouldn't be one big step from not being sexual at all to fucking; make it gradual and comfortable. And take as long as you need to for everything. Also, be safe, use condoms and what other steps you may want to to make sure everyone stays healthy and not pregnant.

 

hahahaha that one made me giggle

 

well the health unit in my area did a study and anywhere between 60-75% of girls my age have some sort of STD...if that doesnt keep you away from sex..I dunno what would.

 

LUBE, maybe carry some KY Jelly or something so you will have it on you when the right time comes around! My first time wolda been a lot easier If i had known about that stuff LOL
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yucks 60-75% thats insanity, yeah a few years back one of the local schools did a blood drive and 70 % of the blood couldn't be used because it was HIV positive.

 

woah, scary! that should be a lesson to everyone to go get tested tomorrow...

 

phew! atleast im not the only ass who is too scared to go beyond oral sex!:s
have been caught in a lot of tricky situations where ive somehow managed to talk my way out..hhhmmm... ok so apart from condom what are the other precautions?... i do want to try having an intercourse but i feel to scared of .. STD! and dont wanna get pregnant!!![forgive me for my orthodox thoughts..]
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plz plz help someone! i need advise!!:|

 

my first time was completely painless... granted i didnt have the whole hymen deal being i horseback rode since i was about 8 and probably broke it around that age... but as long as hes gentle and realizes that the hole is smaller then he is it wont hurt. if he just goes at it it probably will..


that and if you are really worked up the muscles will stiffen and it'll probabl hurt, so just relax and dont do it unless you are completely ready and comfortable.

 

Yeah condoms and the pill, i duno though i've heard such bad stuff about the pill though, for example you gain 20 lbs and with the shot you have a 3 month period. sooo, yeah im a bit scared of the pill but condoms fail and aarg

 

my first time sucked,i'll just say it for what it is.in my opinion,i feel that you'll know when its your time because the chemistry will be there.the whole std thing is something to be scared of,those can be contracted through oral as well.its well worth the wait,the man will respect you more,hopefully your husband,and you will carry a type of respect for yourself that others will appreciate..................good luck

 

the myth of major weight gain with the pill is just that- a myth. if a woman gains any weight, on average it will be a negligible amount. as for the shot, it's a very high dose of hormones, so i wouldn't recommend that, especially for a young person.

both the pill and condoms are important. if you use both, you're highly protected against pregnancy and also protected against std's. it's a sad state of affairs that so many people in this country have std's. our sexual education system is very messed up. people need to be told how to protect themselves, beyond a simple "don't do it!"

as for losing your virginity, it is a big thing. i'm one of the most openly sexual people i know, but i still don't advocate excessively casual sex, especially not for the first time. if you wait to share yourself (and i'm NOT saying to wait until marriage, as marriage is an arbitrary religious institution) you will probably enjoy it more. there's nothing better than sex with someone who knows you, knows what you need, and cares enough to give it to you. i find it very sad the sexual questions people have, the inability to communicate about all aspects of their sexuality with their partners. you should be able to tell each other what feels good and what doesn't. you should never feel obligated to fake enjoyment, or to have sex when you really don't want to. and you should NEVER feel like you need to be shy about expressing your concerns revolving around pregnancy and std's. if you can't discuss those things openly with your partner, then you should not be having sex with them. simple as that.

sex is fun. but like many fun things, it carries both emotional and physical risks. screw responsibly!

 

I believe in nature and I believe it created sexuality to create babies, so I don't believe in sex as it is known today. I am a virgin and I hope to stay so until the day I am absolutely sure about my next childs mother. These days, thanks to TV and all the sick stuff in the air, people think that sex is just about "sex, drugs & rock'n'roll", you know, it's just a thing to make you look cool, just like those cool sunglasses - wow! it's just like on TV! Sick stufff... :-/
Loves worst enemy is sexuality!
I hate to see this irresponsible youth - kids of 13 or 14 only talk about sex and brag about their cool sex relations (which they offen just think out, but still..). Sex is something special, it's about giving life, it's about divinity, not about "yeah, dude, stick my dick in pretty chick!" People don't care enough - they would fuck a pillow, a cow or their mother, it doesn't matter, the thing is - they want the pleasure of simple useless, meaningless orgasm, that's it. You don't even need a partner these days, although then you are the idiot, cause you ain't man enough to fuck a damn girl. Sick stuff... Freud killed god. Freud killed love. Of course, sexual drive is natural, just as natural as this enormous desire to kill someone at times, when you're feeling angry, but, man, you have to control it! And if it is so natural, then why the heck do you put the rubber between you both? That is not even sex! Your dick was never inside her! It was in the rubber! Your organs never touched! I guess this means that some of the "cool every-day-different-partner sex people" are actually virgins - tehnically.
Anyway, I have had many temptations, but I am aware and have my mind ready at all times to decide what to do (ok, some of you drug people may not understand this ), without letting myself fallow some uncontrolled flow of emotions. Krishna teaches not to have sex untill 25. Well I hope I don't break untill then I am not ready to have a baby and to care about another person
Some like Straight Edge, if you know what I'm talking about

 

Dont loose your virginity at 12, I think loosing it at a young age like that fucks with your brain.

 

Phew, missed that one! yeah im not 12, im 18 and a pretty responsible person or so i like to think. Im not giving this up lightly and im not treating it like its just something to do when im bored.