today i reilized something depressing

when I looked across the room, listening to my friends conversation and thinking about some stuff, i reilized that i have less friends than i thought i did. i can't even keep up with a simple conversation anymore, cause 70% of the time when i say something nobody listens and they just keep talking like they didn't hear me. And i am getting distant with 2 of my close friends. When i came home today, i just sat in my chair and spaced out for about 2 hours, thinkin' about this. I now can see that all of the people around me aren't really friends. I can kinda see why, because i am one of those people who are really crazy annoying and obnoxious at times, and i guess it gets on people's nerves. Not having a soulmate sucks soo much. I want to cry

 

friends change a lot at 15, theres so much growing and learning about yourself to be done that its normal for friendships to break apart and new ones to be formed. and 15 is awfully young to be worrying about soulmates and forever stuff

 

stop being annoying and obnoxious...

Not, seriously, people change, and so do interests. Don't worry about that stuff, you're really young and there's a lot coming to you in the future, lots of new people and stuff to do

 

You should see the fact that you realised this as a positive one!
Now you can make new friends and connections with people who you really get on with and want to listen to what you have to say. This is a wonderful thing!

 

People grow, people change. Mourn for them if you must, then move on. And who knows? Just because you've drifted apart now doesn't mean you won't drift back together in the future. I wouldn't get my hopes up though. Just accept that you are now growing up and away from them and find new friends.

 

well, ya are only fifteen. i'm not even friends with ANY of the same people who i was friends with when i was 15..

 

realtionships ebb and flow, you usually hook up with people who are more spiritually in tune with you ... you "trade Up" in life .... at least you should, I hope I am.

 

Same here.

 

calm down
be real you and then similar people will be your friends

 

I'm sorry - that sounds like it sucks. It really sucks to be left out or feel like you don't count -

what if you found something that you could do by yourself, so that if you didn't spend time with people who don't appreciate you, you could still be happy? what do you like?

ps - if you can't answer that last question - that might be a clue for you as to why youre having a hard time. In order to be yourself, and be appreciated for yourself, you need to know yourself. If you can't answer the question 'what do you like' 'what do you like to do' - it may be telling you that you don't really know who you are. and then you might want to ask yourself - 'who am i, what is important to me' knowing those things will be a big help to you in life.

good luck
& hugs

 

A lot of the people I was friends with when I was your age are still friends with each other and we all still keep in touch, but I really don't have anything incommon with them anymore. It's odd, back in junior high we were all so close and spent all our free time hanging out together. Now... after a cup of coffee I get bored of their company. I know that's a horrible thing to say... but I'm sure a lot of them feel the same way about me. I know I've changed SO much since then. My closest friends I've known since we were 7 and we've all changed a lot (obviously, hahah) but that hasn't changed our friendship. But you can't have that kinda friendship with everyone. When you're young, you change and the people around you change, friendships change... It's only natural so don't worry about it too much. You will meet so many people in different phases of your life, some will stick around and some will move on and that's alright because that's just how it is.

 

sounds to me like u could be a bit paranoid maybe, maybe ur just having a hard time at the moment, if they knew what u were saying about them they would prob be a bit hurt and would make more of an effort with u. But u just sitting there for 2 hours thinking about stuff is just gonna make u feel worse, and u are prob making things up that aren't really there

 

if it makes you feel better, i dont think a single person who will read this thread is still speaking to, much less best friends, with anyone they hung out with when they were 15.

people grow, they change. No worries.

 

i am.... my best friend from grade 5 is still my best friend. my other best friend i went to kindergarden with. but, those are exceptions not the rule. still... silly assumption of yours to make that -no one- here is friends with those from when they were 15

peopel change so much (to the OP), it snormaly for friendships to drift apart and reform with new people, or form again with those folks later on in bigger/btter ways

 

i am very confident in who i am, but maybe others don't like the real me? One thing i know, i would never try to change myself in order to fit in. I have determined my interests and goals a long time ago, but having good friends is something i can't always control.

Oh and it's very surprising how so many of you don't talk to your old friends from high school. Wow. this makes me wonder.

 

Well, I didn't exactly enjoy high school. I didn't feel like I belonged anywhere.