The Game of Love, How does it work?!

i dont get it!, i dont get how relationships work, and how it all works, non of it makes sence, i kno all the basic stuff....but this is what im flippin over.

A GUYs like "i love u babe, ive had feelings for u forever would u b my girlfreind?"
and lets say theyve known each other for a while, the girl will look at him as a freind, or find him less attractive than someone who doesnt show her as much attenention and ignores her all the time..POINT BEING GIRLS LIKE ASSHOLES/ JERKS, its a FACT. a girl would rather be with someone who fights with her and makes up with her often than someone who always trys to be mr perfect and bust his ass to keep things going for "them". ITS A FACT!

why do guys and girls always have this game going, girl plays hard to get until the guy actually attracts the girl so the girl kind of likes him, now he plays hard to get because he found osmeone else and he could afford to do so, and then she gets mad and finds someone else to flirt and play hard to get with while he kind of likes her again because she ignores him and he finds it attractive and now shes playing hard to get again, and the chain goes ON AND ON AND ON!!

ITS RETARDED, this thread is about the GAME OF LOVE and RELATIONSHIPS, trying to figure stuff out and break down love and relationships to peices so people could understand things better, annd stuff. PLEASE HELP

what attracts guys besides looks, and what attracts girls besides looks, and please dont talk about SOME PPL, or tell me EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT b.c thats BS!, theres this certain thing goin on with attraction, love, sex, relationships, even freindship that is always the same...thats what im curious about so help..

LET THE GAME BEGIN

 

"i dont get it!, i dont get how relationships work, and how it all works, non of it makes sence, i kno all the basic stuff....but this is what im flippin over.

A GUYs like "i love u babe, ive had feelings for u forever would u b my girlfreind?"
and lets say theyve known each other for a while, the girl will look at him as a freind, or find him less attractive than someone who doesnt show her as much attenention and ignores her all the time..POINT BEING GIRLS LIKE ASSHOLES/ JERKS, its a FACT. a girl would rather be with someone who fights with her and makes up with her often than someone who always trys to be mr perfect and bust his ass to keep things going for "them". ITS A FACT!"

Not really. When I asked my fiance out for the first time, I wasn't being an asshole. BUT neither was I trying to be the perfect guy. And no, she didn't fall for my looks or my money (she has a higher salary than I do).


why do guys and girls always have this game going, girl plays hard to get until the guy actually attracts the girl so the girl kind of likes him, now he plays hard to get because he found osmeone else and he could afford to do so, and then she gets mad and finds someone else to flirt and play hard to get with while he kind of likes her again because she ignores him and he finds it attractive and now shes playing hard to get again, and the chain goes ON AND ON AND ON!!"

Beats me.

 

Stop playing the game man, just be

peace

 

it doesnt "work" it jsut flows. different strokes for different folks and all. id never want to be with someone who doesnt respect me, ive broken up with quite a few men because of lack of respect issues

 

but it is known that girls find guys with a "dont care" more attractive than guys with a "your my everything". i dont get that! LOL

 

There is alot more to it than that. Girls don't want a guy that seems desperate for them. Trying to do everything you can to make them happy is great at first but in most cases becomes anoying. If they care for you they want your opinion and to know what your needs are. You have to find a balance of give and take. You also must always be confidant in yourself and love yourself!


I know were you are getting this. Not to long ago I was getting desperate because sex in my relationship stopped. The more I tried the more desperate I seemed and it was a huge turn off for my wife. I finaly focused on my kids and stopped giving her my total undivided attention and after 3 days She was all over me like I had been gone for the past month. It is easy to see it as a game that if you act uninterested they will give you more attention. I feel in reality she felt smothered and I never gave her the chance to give me the attention I needed because I was always all over her.

As far as wanting to be with someone that fights and makes up as opposed to a relationship that one is always trying to make the other happy-

NO two people are 100% compatible. If you don't have problems and resolve them they will build up. When you fight you realize the other person(right or wrong) has a personality and has self worth and that is an attractive quality to have! If you always just give in to make them happy you show that you don't value your own oppinion, not very attractive. Also your relationship is worth fighting for as is your self worth! By fighting and resolving you will make your relationship grow because you will understand more of each other and what is important. I am not saying you should fight all the time but its part of a healthy relationship. I say fight but it can be as simple as a disagreement or as serious as threatening to leave.

Many younger people will play games to compensate for lack of knowledge when it comes to relationships. It is easier to play games then be truthfull and honest about how you feel about yourself and others. As we grow MOST of us learn how a healthy relationship works as others may still strugle and resort to "playing the game".

First become happy with yourself and your life, that is the most important thing!

 

relationships are tricky man. first off games are played by those who aren't sure of themselves or the relationships or just want to feel secure in playing them to make sure its worth it for them. i used to do that while in high school with my boyfriends. its stupid now but i wasn't sure of so much and was a bit insecure. but as you grow, you learn. girls are all different so maybe you are with the wrong type for yourself. but that is the whole basis of dating, you learn what you like and dislike, among knowing more about yourself. i really hope this is making any sense. relationships are overall a confusing matter, and can be difficult but sometimes it can be completely worthy in the end =)

 

that works only at the beginning of relationships
and not with everyone, it all depends on a person

btw, i just dont understand why you refer only to girls....i mean...you guys also fall for unreachable girls

 

People tend to desire what, or in this case who, they don't have.