What do you think?

It depends on the situation. In an argument, those words would be abusive...In the context of a bedroom encounter, they would be a turn on

 

I hate hearing people call anyone those things. I lived in a town for awhile where many people talked ghetto ... I couldnt stand it!
IMHO its pretty low to call women friends "my bitches!" or hos or whatever... I mean if you think about where it even started, its an attitude picked up .....

Basically the same as the guys wanting to be called "pimp" and saying stuff like "sup, holla atcha boy" ... just repeating things theyve heard, so its unnatural and it totally doesnt fit them, but they think it makes them sound cool, lol (VERY uncool to me.. ) .... its all just an attitude.....

Oh, and I have trained dogs, been around lots of "dog" people in fact ... also worked at a kennel for a AKC show handler/breeder ....... they really didnt use the word all that often, except in their normal doggy talk, a female dog to be bred is called a bitch and thats they way they used the word. Rarely theyd get mad at one of the dogs and actually directly call it a bitch lol... but still, the word is just a term for a female dog, usually in heat, ready for breeding.

So yeah ... it is an abusive word to call a woman.... and gosh... I couldnt imagine being called that in the bedroom ... it would feel very degrading.

 

Me too. My dh and I have been together almost 28 years, and he never says things like this to me, in or out of the bedroom. I think it would turn me right off, for a long time.

 

I think being called those things in the bedroom is hot as hell! Nothing hotter than having a guy whisper horribly dirty names in your ear...hmm....but then again I like degradation in bed! I'm a sexual submissive, so it turns me on

 

yah I guess its all about personal preference of course! Im more on the submissive side of things too ... but .... see to me, being called a bitch would make me feel like... Im just another thing to be bred, a bitch in a long line of bitches ........ and I just couldnt deal with that thought, lol

 

It does make me feel that way in the bedroom, which is why I like it. I've got a big degradation/humiliation fetish. I don't like being treated that way in every day life though, just when I'm nekkid!!!

I think because I'm such a dominant person in my everyday life, that being degradated in the bedroom is a HUGE release

 

Words like "ass" "jerk" "loser" "stupid" could mean anyone. But bitch or **** is reserved for women specifically like ****** is reserved for black people. They are definitely nasty words meant to put women down.
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Yes I agree with this opinion! I think these words having very gauche meaning! I never use them!

 

Words like "ass" "jerk" "loser" "stupid" could mean anyone. But bitch or **** is reserved for women specifically like ****** is reserved for black people. They are definitely nasty words meant to put women down.
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Yes I agree with this opinion! I think these words having very gauche meaning! I never use them!

 

Honestly, they are rather harsh words and in the right context they could be extremely hurtful, however in my attempts to not be as hypocritical, i'll admit to using them when joking around or being pissed off... but never directed meaningfully at a person.

 

...Guy Calls Girl...Bitch.
...Girl Calls Guy...Bastard.

Guy/Girl calls someone ****
Girl/Guy calls someone Dick

Guy/Girl/ calls someone every FOUL WORD to degrade RACE/RELIGION/GENDER/AGE/etcetc...
It seems to be a failing lon the human psyche to DEGRADE anyone that pisses us off at that given moment in time...

Humanity...

 

its true... bitch... my bitch..... come here bitch..as a joke ?! its not funny...it is derogatory and offensive, disrespectful and abusive.

people always say... oh its just a word. but to me that shows just how infantile some peoples minds are.

 

this is a really old thread so i dunno if any original posters will even read this, but i just wanted to interject one thing - calling someone a name will NEVER incur civil or criminal liability in america anyway (as in, you can't sue someone for 'verbal abuse'). i think you guys are thinking of assault, which is verbal, but it has to be a person saying something with the intent to threaten you, and it has to be a threat of imminent harm (as in, i am going to kill you right now), not just someone saying things that aren't nice.

otherwise i guess you could try to get some sort of civil liability for emotional distress, but i would say that is still extremely unlikely - and even then would definitely not result in jail time

 

It has nothing to do with "jail time" or legal standing. If your husband or boyfriend calls you a "bitch" he is being abusive.

In the same vein, calling a child a "stupid idiot" isn't "against the law" but I don't know if anyone would say it wasn't abusive.

We are talking PSYCHOLOGICAL and SOCIAL abuse. Not the law.

There are a lot of things which are against the law that are not wrong, and a lot of things which are wrong which are not against the law.

Of course, in a divorce or child custody suit, a history of using abusive language IS used in the trials. No one said a WORD about jail.

 

This is a tough one to answer the poll for me because as others have said it depends on context. I know a gay couple that one calls himself the other's bitch. It does irk me that so many blacks refer to women as bitch. I have been tempted to call them sire or buck, pretty much the same. Stud is way too much of a compliment. HMM interesting. Why is calling a guy stud a compliment? Double standards again I guess. Now if someone says "You're a bitch" in a mean way that is definitely an offense. Then again a couple of weeks ago I was definitely being a bitch to this cool guy I hang out with that happened to be in the wrong place when my estrogen level got too low. I called myself a bitch when I leveled out & apologized. Now being called **** I just don't see anything but derogatory.

 

um, i suppose i might have confessed this sooner, can't remember. but when i was really into denigrating people, i'd call a man a "bitch" if i really wanted to get at him. as in "you're acting like a little bitch." messed up, i know.

 

I think that those words are absolutely ways to put down women. I hate those words and it always bothers me to think about people resorting to name calling when you could have either talked things out and made nice or either leave it alone. They are just words, but they are loaded with emotions/other "meaning" behind them. IMHO...

 

Personally, I think they're just words. Being brought up in the UK, we tend to call our mates things like ****, Twat etc in jest all of the time.

 

I use **** all the time, but I'm referring to my vagina.

 

it is degrating but it depends on how it is used. I have no problem if a guy friend joakingly calls me a bitch. But if a random person said it the same way, i prolly would feel offended.

 

I agree that they're definately insulting words.
I think there's a lot to define when you're determining whether they're 'abusive' or not.
Extremely insulting, maybe. But I think abusive is even more than that.
I think it's disrespectful to females, and to whoever is being called 'bitch' or '****' or like words, but insults aren't necessarily abuse.