Victory Through Submission Or a guide to dealing with parents The idea is simple. Let the bastards say what they want, get away with what they want and burn you any way the want. All you have to do is take it and pretend you are sorry for whatever you did. The idea is that since you are not fighting them they will be more inclined to give you what you want. There are a few steps to master before you will be able to get away with things without having to fight with your parents to get them. 1 Emotional control This is the idea that you can feel angry but not act on that anger. You may feel hatred at your parents but that does not mean you have to be mean to them. You must be strong enough to control your emotions and not let them control you. This is a difficult task but it can be done. The next time you are angry, sad, or frustrated, register these emotions but do not act on them. By mastering your emotions you will be able to keep a cool head when you need it. 2 Positive attitude Always under all circumstances display a positive attitude to your parents. Especially when you are feeling angry or depressed. Even if you are normally cold to your parents just make the total switch over to always happy. And when they ask where this change came from tell them you are in a good mood. Don't worry about the explanation just worry about keeping your face in a smile. Also every day when you come home from school give at least 2 sentences about how good your day was, how much you like your classes/ teachers/ peers, and how well you are doing in each class. Also under positive attitude is lying about how much you study. Tell them you are going off to study for a big test then go to your room and do something quiet. Positive attitude is the key to getting what you want. Remember even if you don't feel good just act it. 3 Compliments A simple one, compliment your parents in genuine ways about things you feel they care about. Don't put them on too thick or they will suspect something, only use them sparsely. This will of course make most people like you, and is especially helpful when dealing with parents. Now that you have them liking you consider these factors before asking them for anything they would normally reject. 1 Mood Make sure you catch them in a good mood, this is critical. While adults are not as affected by moods as we are they still play a vital role in their decision making. 2 Phrasing Choose your words carefully. Obviously don't say party when you are going somewhere. Also try to predict what questions will be asked and prepare answers accordingly. Now instead of saying you are going to a different persons house every weekend, I suggest making up a good friend that you tell your parents you are going there every week. This person should be someone your parents have met, and look respectable enough. Make up good lies about this person and tell them to your parents to build their trust of this person. That way you can just say you are going to their house without having to give a long explanation about what you are going to be doing. Finally don't be a fuck up. Don't race or drink and drive or any dumb stuff you have planned. If you act responsibly while doing irresponsible stuff you will be fine. Good luck
Pretty manipulative stuff. I don't think any parents would be too happy to have their children behave in this manner. You do know that this particular forum is FOR parents to discuss parenting their children, don't you?
Why is it that people assume that everyone hates their parents, and that all perents are horrible, solely bassed on their own feelings towards their own parents? Why do you feel the need to buy into what society tells you to believe about paretns? Peace, -A.
This isn't about hating your parents it is a way to make your home life better. Children are going to drink and parents are going to try to stop them. This is a way to get around the friction and troubal caused by it. With this system everyone wins, it may be manipulative but it is to help the parents and the children not to hurt them.
WRONG! NOBODY wins when parents allow there underage kids to drink! (This is assuming its to actually get drunk--not just a 16 year old having a glass of wine) If parents allow their kids to get drunk based on the assumption that they'll "do it anyway", they're fucking LAZY. And who are you to assume that all children are going to drink--I've NEVER been drunk or had the desire to get drunk in my life. Who says parenting is about avoiding conflict? Parenting is about confronting conflict and dealing with it appropriately, not being a pussy by pretending it doesn't exist.
That concept seems familiar, but not my thing. I just can't be doing with mind games, too hard to keep up and they always get rumbled. My parents aren't perfect, but they do their best and I respect them for that. And I'm not buying into the negative view of parents, they do the best job they know how to do. I won't critise what I don't understand, and without children of my own parenting is something I don't fully understand yet. It is perfectly possible to exist together getting most of everyone's needs met. Just takes some work and honesty on both sides. Of course I practise what I preach... well most of the time.
JSK, how many children do YOU have? Ever tried raising kids? Most good parents deserve more respect than the crap you posted. Most kids wouldnt want to resort to those disrespectful and bound to fail tactics. My children (all four of them) TALK to me when they have a problem. The adversarial attitude you espouse is not beneficial to parents or children. I suspect YOU have a lot of things to work out with YOUR parents. Don't assume ALL kids are as dysfunctional. Try working out your problems instead of lying, manipulating and other disingenuous tactic.
How many children do I have? I am a child obviously. Anyway I knew hipforums wouldn't be the best place to put this, but in my experiance I have met extremly few 16-18 year olds who don't like drinking and about 40% of the people I know hate their parents. I actually like my parents and using this method I never need any confrontation. I myself gave up drinking and smoking pot about 3 months ago, but still enjoy going to parties with my friends and doing this keeps me from having to explain all the details every time I go out. I would agree that drinking isn't a good idea when your under 21, but thats not going to change the way things are.
