Hi, I have a question for you guys. I have a beautiful 5 month old son, and I just adore everything about him and about being a mom. I can't wait to have more kids, but I was wondering, how close do you think they should be? Does anyone have any brothers or sisters who are really close in age? See, I have 2 brothers; one is 6 years younger than me and the other is 15 years younger, so I don't know what it's like to have siblings that are close in age. Is it better or does it suck? My husband thinks that we should wait until Jake is 3, but I kind of wanted another baby sooner than that, like maybe we could try again in a year. Any opinions on this? Thanks! By the way, here's a picture of my son Jacob when he was almost 3 months old: (I don't have a digital camera so I don't have any recent pics to post here)
My brother is three years younger than me. It has been ideal because I was old enough to understand and not get jealous. We've always been close and played together. Depending on the children any age gap can work, but it would be such hard work having two very little ones.
I have a brother 2 years and 9 months older than me, and a sister 2 years and 9 months younger than me. It think that is a good spacing. Mine are two years and 4 months apart, also pretty darn good. I just nursed my baby until he knew he was ready to wean, and I got pregnant when my fertility return (about 19 months after ds1 was born) that worked out really well for us. It is natures perfect way of spacing children. Some people will have them much closer, and some much further. I think introducing a sibling within the first three years is important (if you are planning to have another one, anyway) because by three years old they have already formed their oppinion of the world. I wanted my child to have the opinion that the world did not solely revolve around him, and to learn to be compassionate and sharing. HTH
My brother was born after I turned three and I figured out all that stuff just fine. It could have been easier as I was that bit older and didn't need Mum constantly and could share. There probably isn't a definete cut off point. Otherwise I totally agree
My mother had doorsteps, me and my two other sisters are 24{me} 23, and 22. Growing up we fought alot, but I have to say now I am glad we are so close in age, it's easyer to talk to them, we are all on the same leval {ie recently married with kids} Growing up I wish my mother would have spaced us out more, but now I am very glad she has us when she did
girls are 10 months apart. It is REALLY hard! One is now three and the other is just about to be 4. It was a NIGHTMARE!!! If I had spaced them even four months more apart it would have been better. That is what I think. MAke sure you are out of the real " baby baby " stage by the time you will be giving birth. They are close as anything, almost like twins but it just was not worth it in the end for the sanity I sacrificed. So those would be my guidelines. Your son is 5 months? well If you got pregnant now he would only be 14 months old. I would wait another month or two.
My daughters are 15 months apart and it is HARD! They are almost like twins they fight a lot over who gets mommy. But on the other hand they are great playmates for each other.
