Sometimes they just don't go... Sometimes their mind wonders and they aren't thinking about what's going on... When I am done and ready to go to bed, I just rub him or his balls and move in motion with him and he goes soon after... Ever try that?
I had two boyfriends who started out like that.. but after a while it all worked fine.. you just need a patient girl to teach you
In general: As they get older, or as they become more experienced, or as they have sex a lot (like every day, whether by love-making or masturbation), guys don't come as quickly.
I actually found something out. If you are a guy and you know you are having sex one day, you will last so much longer if you: don't have to shit/fart (it pushes on your prostate), dont have any liquid in your bladder, and don't eat vitamins/spicy things (makes your peener more sensitive!).. I mean, if I have done any of these things I end up reaching orgasm much more quickly then if I haven't done any of those things.
The first guy I was ever with could last forever. But when he came it would take forever for him to get up again. He would tell me that when he was close he would think of the sickest most worst image he could and that would kill it. Personally, I think it had more to do with us being first timers and me not really knowing what to do on my end. I say that because I've been with my boyfriend now for almost 8 years. When we first hooked up and started having sex it lasted pretty long. The more skilled I became at enjoying myself and also using those muscles the shorter and shorter our sex lasted. My boyfriend says it's just too good and he can't help it. Granted if we made love slowly and what not maybe it would last longer. But, we're pretty hardcore and not into real passionate love making so it's fine this way. We both get what we want and we're exhausted afterwards so it's all good.
The average time for men is 3 to 7 minutes. A couple of misconceptions. Either three, or seven, minutes seems a lot longer than it really is. Have a glance at the bedside clock and see how long 7 minutes takes. It seems forever. Some good advice in this thread was to have an empty bladder, avoid spicy food before sex, no coffee or caffeine is very important. Don't thrust too fast too early, unless you and your partner are aiming for a quickie. Take is slow and gentle and enjoy the sensations. Keep your breathing regular. Concentrate on your breathing. Big breaths in and out. Keep your mind on your arousal and don't let you mind wander. If you feel like you want to come, but would like to last longer, slow down or stop until you can restart and continue. There are lots of other tips, but these should help. Mark
Then I must be a very lucky (and exhausted) girl.. cause my last two boyfriends could easily last over an hour.. and yes, I know this for a fact because we were amazed by the time that has past every time Ofcourse there were quickies as well.. but it was no rarity for them to last over an hour..
I'm gonna post here before reading the answers others have given, then for curiousity I'll go and check them out. I think that for the most part, when people tell you how long they've lasted, they're prone to exaggerating it. You can begin with that assumption, because it's probably true. When someone says he can fuck for hours, or even, say, 30 minutes, I want you to try an exercise: The next time you get ready to masturbate, lube up your hand (to make it fair) with Astroglide, kneel on your bed, and instead of pumping your fist, pump your hips into your hand so that you're really just fucking your fist. Set a stopwatch for the hell of it. Assuming you don't get yourself to come pretty soon (like under 5 minutes if you're truly going at it), see how far toward 30 minutes you can keep that up. That repetitive in-and-out motion. Think you can do that for 30 minutes? Maybe you can. But probably you can't. But if you go five minutes, it's already begun to seem like a long time. Watch a porno movie. Watch the timer on your VCR or DVD player during a fuck scene. Just how long do they end up being? How long is the longest uncut shot (a shot is the amount of film that the camera stays on subject without any cuts to something different)? Remember that any fade or cut can be time when the porn "actors" stopped, calmed down, came back from the brink of coming. A simple cut to a different angle could mean that the guy took his dick out of the girl's pussy, slapped it around a bit to desensitize it, took a few moments to settle down, and then began again for the next shot. Sometimes it's very subtle -- but it all contributes to your sense that these guys can fuck forever. The impression ain't necessarily the truth. However, remember, the more eager you are, and particularly the less you're quite used to being naked and loving with a woman, the easier it is to get to your peak and orgasm. A guy who gets it day in and day out can go longer, since he's so used to the situation and is a little less mentally shocked by the good fortune of finding himself there I hope you don't try to measure yourself and your worth by how long you can go before orgasming with a girl. For one thing, you don't absolutely have to have your penis hard in order to be able to be totally with the girl and having fun and being sexual and sharing pleasure. You do know how to use your tongue and hands, right? You do delight in licking your girl's pussy, right? If you come too soon, and you're at all like me, you can either stay hard (like me) as long as you're still sexually aroused mentally (that's easy to do when a hot girl is still right there naked with you), or you can get hard again not long afterward, and repeat the cycle. And again if you're at all like me, after you come, it takes longer/more to make it happen again, and so on each time you come, until finally you can just flog that thing as long as you want and you will BEG to come, finally! Blue skies, -Jeffrey
I'm having the feeling that there are two different things being discussed here: 1) how long can a guy have sex (penetration, so with a hard on)without having an orgasm 2) how long can a guy 'lasts'.. so how long can a guy have a hard on, fuck (him being the active one, so on top or doggystyle or whatever) and don't orgasm When it comes to my experiences: 1) can be very long (read my previous posts). It depends on how long a guy can maintain an erection.. if you change places whenever the other gets tired, this can lasts for ages if the guy can hold back an orgasm 2) This totally depends on the ability to maintain an erection, the ability to hold back an orgasm AND his physical condition. It's hard work being on top (if you do it well) so it's hard to go full speed for longer than lets say 5 minutes.. after that you'll either have to slow down or let your partner take over for a while.
I don't understand the distinction being made here. These two seem very much the same. But anyway, I can see that if a couple slows down when the guy is near to coming, and he is making a concerted effort to keep it in and not let himself come, and he consciously stops when he gets near peak, then yeah, he can go a long while. I've done that. I also like to break up the activity by switching around, doing different stuff. If you fuck for a while, stop before coming, go down and lick her clit for a while and finger her, and then come back up and kiss her for a while and lick her earlobes, finger her some more, put it back in and fuck for a bit, take it out and give her a foot massage for a few minutes, suck on her toes (believe it or not, girls really do like that unless they have a self-consciousness issue, and even then they can be gotten past it), roll her over and give her a back rub, pull up her hips and go at it doggy-style... if you are constantly starting and stopping the fucking, you can prolong what could be over in five minutes into something that takes all night and makes you go "holy shit, it's getting light outside!" And if you're truly blessed, if you do happen to come, you can get hard really quickly or even immediately afterward. Call me blessed. As long as you stay with the sexiness and intimacy, and don't give up and pack it in just because you came once and it might have happened sooner than you'd like, you can fill the time with great sexual action that makes it seem to last all night, because there's never a dull moment and all of the time is taken up with doing fun stuff. Blue skies, -Jeffrey
I meant the difference between having 'passive penetration' and 'active penetration'.. the latter one is very hard because it's exhausting. But other than that, like I said before.. I've been with two guys who could keep going pretty long (penetration).. as in over an hour (so I'm just talking about the actual intercourse here, not including foreplay, oral sex etc.).. guess I'm just lucky
It's not possibly to intercourse for an hour without a break. I don't even think it's desirable. After Tantric sex training, I can last as long as I like. But I rarely go beyond 15 minutes. 'Cause thats long enough for both of us. I still think that people are thinking that 7 or 10 minutes are much longer than they really are. Honestly, and I am associated with the paid sex industry in Australia, men don't last an hour. Mark
i'd have to say our longest time was yesterday actually... he lasted literally 40 minutes penetrating me doggy style. trust me i could see the clock. (it's usually about 10 minutes though)... afterward he got up again really quickly, which was funny because usually i'm the excessively horny one and that time i was exhausted... we went at it again, but the second time he only lasted under 5, which was totally fine with me though. phew. my arms hurt from pushing off the headboard
Mark, Where and how do you get Tantric sex training? Is it something you have to have a current partner to take along to, or can it be worked on and learn even if you're not with anyone? And what do you do with the "paid sex industry" if I may ask? I kinda think that industry is, well, fascinating. Blue skies, -Jeffrey
