If your in a commited faithful relationship, and you know this, but you feel your partner is just naturally really friendly to the opposite sex, would you be bothered? I feel sometimes other people may think he's projecting himself in a flirty manner, because around here guys are not nice to girls unless they wanna fuck. He's from the south though, and they tend to just be nice there. Big cultural difference. He made a joke about posing for a girl. I told him that was inappropriate. He said he was just kidding and didn't see the big deal. I then explained to him if I said that to one of my male friends he would have a problem, and he agreed. I told him he shouldn't be so nice to these girls, they'll take it the wrong way. I tell him to at least talk to them like his guy friends because I should be the only girl in his world, everyone else he can picture with a penis and I HAVE run off one girl crushing on him, b/c he was trying to befriend her (so he could hook her up w/ one of our friends) and I'll tell you something. I don't play. You want my man I'll run your ass out of our environment, even if he's not involved in any wrong doings, I'll still be looking for you. Anyone else have this problem? Or do you think I have the problem? I just think it's best not to invite unwanted attention, even if your intentions are good.
p.s. he would never cheat on me. He loves me like I'm the whole universe. He's just really fuckin friendly and he does speak differently to females than to males. He says it's just cuz he's in touch, and I believe him, but I'd still prefer his voice not to go up and sound so escalated everytime he talks to a girl, he fuckin drops it when he talks to guys... wtf. Maybe I'm just in love with a funny man.
Maybe you are. Anyway, I don't see anything wrong with him being friendly with other girls (especially since he would never cheat on you), but just tell him to make it clear to these girls that he just wants to be friends so they won't get the wrong idea. As for you, while you may be bothered by your bf's niceness towards other girls, you need to remember that he isn't bothered by it. Some people are just naturally friendly. So just relax.
Yeah. If you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he wouldn't cheat on you then don't worry about it. However, if there is someone who seems particularly determined to have sex/a relationship with him, then gently talk to them and set them straight. Or ask him politely not to speak with them and tell him why.
