Abortion...I know there's already enough said on this but I have a question

I was just wondering if any women out there have had any abortions and would share about their experience. I know that abortion is a very private thing but I need to hear some insight. There's a possibility that I might be pregnant and I am considering abortion as an option but I would like to know more about it.Thanks. P.S I have nothing at all against anyone who is pro-life but I would really not rather hear their rants about how wrong it is....believe me I have heard it all.....

 

consider adoption, its a rough ride for you in the short term, but to bless a couple with child they could not concieve on there own, is one of the greatests gifts one could give.

 

I am considering adoption as well....but I just wanted to know more about abortion through real experiences.

 

ok glad your options are open

 

I became pregnant almost a year ago. I was so scared, and confused. I did not know what to do. I was only 18 and the idea of having a baby blew my mind. I cried for a week, and began looking into an abortion. I wanted that little baby to die. Some how I realized that I cannot do this! I cannot kill this life. Im going to give birth to it, and somehow make it.


I now have a wonderful, beautiful, amazing little girl named Gaea Nirvana. She is such a blessing, and the best thing that has ever happened to me. She has changed everything about how love, and live in this world. I am so glad that I did not abort her. If I knew that I could have lost this piece of heaven, I probably would have died.

Please listen to your true heart, and soul, Sister. If you are ever in need of someone to talk to please PM me.

Peace Love

Sonia

 

My mother had to have an abortion a few years ago. There were major complications with her pregnancy and she was depressed for a while after she did it..but she had no choice. Hence, the reason I get severely irritated with rock solid pro-lifers. Some people just don't have any other choices.

Anyways.. I haven't personally had an abortion. I'm very pro-choice, even in situations other than the one my mother was in. It is your body...and your life. Those who say that adoption is an option hasn't fully realized the impact of pregnancy on a woman, period. To become emotionally attatched to something that is growing inside of you..and then to have it taken away..is very hard and many people regret it. Not to say that that can't happen with abortion, but it is my personal belief that the longer you carry your baby..the more likely an attatchment will occur. I hope that I don't sound frosty. :&

Talk to a local abortion doctor about it and think it over after that. Everything has a way of working out in the end.

Peace, and much love.

 

I pm'd you

 

Thanks for the pm and thanks everyone for the replies

 

I've had an abortion. It sucked. It took me over a year to get over the emotional trauma of it. While I was up there, I found out i was pregnant with twins. I'll never have another chance to experience giving birth to twins, and that hurts alot.

there were alot of girls up there that were laughing and shit, obviously it wasn't a big deal to them. I overheard one girl saying it was her 4th time up there. the nurses were great, but the doctor was a shit hole.

If it's something you're really considering, please consider more than the fact that you'll be killing your baby. if you're a caring individual it might be more than you can handle.

I'll pm you if you just want to know more about the expierence...

An edited note, I'm not trying to be all pro-life about this, I just want to make that clear. I know how it feels to be in that situation, and I'm in no place to be telling another woman what she can/can't handle. I'm just saying that there is ALOT more involved than just aborting a baby....there's physical pain (it DOES hurt alot, especially the week afterwards) there's the emotional stress and/or guilt, along with lots of other shit. I just wanted to be clear that whatever decisions someone decides to make, they should carefully and thoroughly go over EVERY detail of the procedure. As well as all other options.

 

I have known people who have had abortions and one of them ended up never telling the guy she had the abortion on his baby...he never knew she was preg...about a year later they ended up married anyways and I don;t know if he'll ever know. She was very infirtile and could only have a perioud a year..it was rare for her to get pregnant and she may not have that chance in a long time now. I haven't talked to her so I don't know how she's dealing. A close family memberfatehr rtaped her and she had to have an abortion. Her father took her and made her do it under her best friends name ( this is over 20 years ago) she was 14. I had another friend abort a baby ...I have known people who have had them my whole life I guess. But when it came down to the choice when I got pregnant I just cried and cried at the thought of doing it. I read up about it and I just could not bring myself to do it. Hence my beautiful family and son.

 

know so many woman who have had this done. i would not say i could do this. i have two little piecs of heaven myself. and i love how they changed me. who ive become. i do not have any money yes, and i still have not been able to get out at all, yes. but i wounld give it up for the whole universe!!!!!
on the other hand, my exsister in law had an abortion, and i honestly belive that that was the only way to go for her. there are already so many homeless childern that need loving homes. and she is doing awesome now. she got her life back together, went to collage and now she is a popular photographer for a local magazine. and then there is my other exsister in law(not same brother) who made a habit out of abortions whitch is wrong. she finally HAD to have a kid because the doctors would not do anouther one for her. that is wrong. she is a wonderful mother dont get me wrong . . . dont be like her

just listen to your heart. there is lots of support for you everywhere

 

That's what I can't stand, when people use it as birth control. Out of all the people I know who have had an abortion (including me) MOST of them have had at least 3 or 4. my ex mother-in-law had at least four, my dad's friend's gf has had at least six, and a friend of mine has had 3. I mean, it really tore me up after doing that, I could not possibly have another one unless i was like dying or something.

 

I've not had an abortion, however I now several people who have, at tha point in their lives they felt is was the only option. It is your decision, and only you will know if your making the right one. There are so many options out there. I don't think I'm quite giving you the response you were looking for and I'm very sorry, but I do want to leave you with this, you may be done with the past, but the past is not done with you, and we are all responsible for the choices we make. As long as you can search your heart and soul, and live your life with no regrets, then you and only you, are doing the right thing. You have so much support here, and i'm sure I speak for everyone when I say you can pm any of us.

love and light.

 

Before you make a decision, check out http://www.standupgirl.com.

 

I will tell you a story of a close friend of my who is a little older.
She was 15 and became pregnant with her 1st child. Right then and there when her mother found out, she was taken to an abortion clinic, and without her concent, had her pregnancy terminated. She was 15 and didn't really understand what had happened. Her and her mother never spoke about it, and when they did, her mother told her to shut up, it wasnt important. Well, her mother passed away and she went off to college... and met the guy she thought she would spend the rest of her life with. She became pregnant again and the "love of her life" told her he would take care of it. She paid to have his baby terminated. She laid there, with no pain killers or anything and underwent a "suction abortion" ("a powerful suction tube is inserted though the cervix into the womb. The baby and the placenta are torn into pieces and sucked into a jar. Infection, damage to the uterus, and pain in the cervix are very VERY common.") which is suppose to be followed by a D & C where they check to make sure all of the baby is removed. They did not follow though with the D & C and just assumed they got it all. 2 days later she was still bleeding intensly and still in a lot of pain. She went back to the abortion clinic and they told her this was normal. She went home... and 2 hours later her "love of her life" took her into the clinic and laid her on the bed and asked them to help her.
Well to make a long story short, she had gotten an infection from the massive amount of tissue that was left inside of her, she was on her death bed... she almost died... they did the D&C to remove the rest of the child and gave her strong meds... she survived... but she did almost die that day.
Please... it is so important that you choose life and consider adoption. If you need any help... I am a chapter leader for Rock For Life... I can help you make the right decision. Just think... you have another life to think about.... God Bless and i hope to hear from you soon!!
AIM- mandadotnet
email- rockforlife03@yahoo.com
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God Bless- RFL Amanda

 

Oh really? And just how many children are you planning on adopting? It is pathetically hypocritical of you to support the sending of all these unwanted children out into the foster care system where they face possible abuse, neglect, and if nothing else, abandoment issues if you aren't willing to take some of them in yourself.

 

Yeah that sounds pretty bad, but surley you are talking about the horror stories that obviously doesnt happen to every child or the foster care system would be shut down.
Now, if you were in this situation, would the logical solution be suicide? Because that is the same thing you are suggesting. Is the easy way the best?

 

I was talking about horror stories? What do you think your little "Let me tell you what happened to my 'friend' " story was--the majority of women don't "almost die" when they get an abortion.

And for your information, EVERY child who is abandoned at birth has abandonment issues to some degree.

And no, I wasn't suggesting suicide, but thanks for putting words in my mouth. I was actually suggesting that the child not be subjected to such a life to begin with. When children are abused, I would never advocate that they kill themselves, because then it is too late in the game. If it has to come at all, death should come before the life has any emotional attatchments or has any way of feeling emotional pain.

 

You cannot be given an abortion without consent. No matter how old you are. The clinics have to make sure you haven't been coerced or forced into it.

I almost died from giving birth to my daughter..as did she. Should we discourage women from giving birth, as well?

 

And further more, you haven't answered the question posed by strawberry f.f., how many children have/will you adopt(ed)?