Is it normal to be insecure in what you want of a girl/love relationship?

About 15 minutes ago, i've just been looking up about pushovers/assertiveness etc, and standing your ground. I'm not exactly a fighter that will fight, but I would let the person know that i'm not one to be messed around and that I do not like it, and i'd voice my opinion - I sometimes fear that I will become a pushover one day, but adopting the attitude i've currently got is enough backbone isn't it?

Also, whilst looking at it, something else on the page caught my attention, which is about distinguishing the difference between personality types and love types, and I read all the lists of different personality types such as spontaneous, careful, observer etc and I was unsure of what mine was, and thought that careful and observer were more my personality type. Then there was the love type, such as romantic, careful etc, and again, I thought about what most appealed to me.

Anyway, I felt rather unsure at the same time and just didn't know and worried that i'm insecure by not knowing what I want. I'm only 18, and I do wonder if it's abnormal for me to be unsure of what I want. I mean more older/mature men and women in their 30s, 40s, 50s and older know what they want, and as much as I try to get to know myself, i'm still rather unsure. I don't know if it's a lack of maturity on my part or just plain dumbness or what.

Sorry to waffle on too much, and i'll get the point.

My main question is:-
Is it abnormal for people my age to be insecure in what they want of a girl/love relationship?

 

Being insecure is a lot different than not knowing what you want.

Which is why people date lots at this age. Then, when they can find somebody they'll be able to stand for the next 30 years, they get hitched.

Then, at 50, they want a divorce but can't afford alimony.

Or something.

 

nah, not abnormal
no reason to be even reading this stuff, or labelling yourself though, u are really over thinking things man
just be, relax go with it man, u are just fine
peace

 

It's not abnormal. I've broken up with girls for fear of settling down, even though one day I want that. I've also gone through phases of liking/disliking girlfriends. It's common at our age.

 

Well I do fear getting hurt in a relationship or bitter arguing. Some girls can beat their blokes up when they're drunk or vice-versa. Some skinny/thin blokes may go out with a girlfriend that has an opposite body size, with her being the opposite of skinny/thin and can be controlling and take advantage of the guy and be very domineering.

One of the things that guts me most is not having a good-looking girlfriend to go out with, and when I see all the pretty girls, it makes me feel jealous.

 

Man, worrying never solved shit. You gotta live your life to the fullest. Acknowledge your thoughts but don't dwell on them. Your never going to change anything by constantly thinking about it. I've tried that. Simply put, you waste a lot of time and end up depressed. The only way to change things is through action. Stop worrying about if your normal or not. There is no such thing as normal. Just be true to yourself and take it one day at a time. Keep it real!

 

I was talking to a guy the other night
who claims men dont actually grow up
until they are in their late 40s

So dont worry....you have plenty of time
to get to know yourself...

It appears lots of men only begin to know
themselves after their Uranian return, also
known as the midlife crisis...this occurs
approx between the ages of 37 and 43!!

Dont worry!