I don't know any kinder way that I can put this than I'm about to go nuts. My husband just left for basic training... I just lost my job. My car is broken. I don't know where to live other than here. My exboyfriends girlfriend is trying to take over my place in mother hood and spanking my daughter and slapping her hand (HARD I heard it. I flipped out). My sister in law gave me life. I'm worn out. I'm on antidepressents, they help, but other than that. I dont' know why I'm typing this. Someone pray for me or something.
holy crap! im praying for you (in a non-religious sense ) get that bitch out of your house!! do you have parents or relatives you can stay with? the last thing you need is the added stress of your exs gf hitting your kid!!!
Hey Beautiful Butterfly You're right....this isn't how your life - or your daughter's life - should be at all. And you need to take some action to change it - but you won't be taking that action alone. We're all right here for you, sending you love and empowerment. The first thing is to get yourself and your daughter out of harm's way - both physical and emotional harm. That might mean staying with a relative or friend you can trust for a little while (not a permanent arrangement mind you), or removing those who are causing harm from your space. Either way, while you are surrounded by anger and troublesome people you will not be able to see clearly what is to be done next. This first step is a MUST - you owe it to both of you. Once you're out of the 'danger zone', it's easier to see things more clearly. As hard as it is to see now...your car breaking down is a pain...but not un-fixable. Losing your job may be seen as a new opportunity in the long-term - even if it is a burden in the short term. And then there are the 'bigger' issues. How to keep a child away from an abusive adult who slaps her. Where to live. And so on. These aren't all 'the end of the world' - and it will be easier for you to see which ones are short-term annoyances, and which ones are 'bigger' problems to be addressed once you give yourself some breathing room. Go somewhere in nature if you can. I've just got an intuition...I saw you going across the country with your little girl to somewhere in the mountains or by the beach...to a female friend's house (maybe an aunt?). Keep posting here though!!
