slut or not

that is quite right...

 

There's a very thin line between describing and labelling. I see nothing wrong with either, as neither necessarily means someone is being judged.

A label means nothing to everyone but the person applying it.

 

sounds to me if she hasn't slept with you she's a slut.

 

I always say to let people be how they want if it doesnt hurt anyone else. Just let people live how they want to live and go about your business.

If you dont agree with a persons lifestyle, okay, that's your right, but do not force me to live how you think I should and do not lecture me, its okay to think how you want and if I want to sleep around, drink coffee at 4am or whatever the fuclk, then leave me the hell alone and get a life.

I gotta be me, let people be themselves.

 

But having loose sex can hurt someone. Let's say you have sex with someone, and they think it's real. Then you move on and have sex with another person, leaving the former heartbroken. People can get hurt because sex, when treated properly, is an emotional thing.

 

i say ur only a slut if u go around fuckin random ppl u barely know if u know them and u like them and u use protection good luck 2 ya

 

Ever hear of casual sex? I've had it, and sometimes sex can be treated as an activity.

 

But what if your partner doesn't view it so? What if they think it's something real?

 

you guys arent ever going to agree on this topic, you know that... dont you?

 

I agree with Retro groove girl, let's just agree to disagree on this topic and end it.

We have different views on sex, let's just leave it at that.

I respect your opinion tho.

 

Way to be a buzz-kill, ass.

 

I havent had sex and im a slut haha


peace
chickens

 

hahahahaha, I LOVE IT!!

 

Can we agree that "agreeances" is not a word, and you probably meant "agreements"?

Blue skies,
-Jeffrey

 

Dude, I agree with you. And I'm no virgin, either.

People try to rationalize meaningless sex as "it's just two people sharing pleasure, it's really simple." But the fact is it is not simple. It is a complex amalgam of physical sensation and emotion and reason and it has a definite powerful psychological component. We are made to feel that bond. People are skipping something if they have the sex without it. Sure it feels good, and it is very validating ("Oooh, he/she finds me worthy!"), but how worthy does/should a girl feel if she finds out that she was pretty much just used by a guy who would have fucked any other equally decent-looking girl who was willing, and nothing about her made her especially qualified for the fuck? A girl who keeps going for sex like that, she qualifies as a slut. A girl who has no interest in the emotional side of sex, she's a slut. A girl who has interest in the emotional side of sex, but for her it's about collecting guys who "care" about her, she's a slut, too.

And for those who said labels are a waste, or meaningless, or troublesome... Labels are valid. It's not that it's important to not label things -- labels are the stuff of understanding -- it's important to not allow yourself to be limited by labels. That's different from saying that labels should just never be used. That's crap. It's just important to realize that labels don't have to be like tattoos and apply permanently. You get these "born-again virgins" who want to renounce their promiscuous pasts -- they want to shed the reasons why the label applies to them. Once they stop doing the things that qualify for the label, they are free of the label. Simple as that.

Blue skies,
-Jeffrey

 

Well, you can, by all means go on wasting your time trying to convince someone who clearly doesnt agree with you, if you like.

 

If i heard someone had done that, then yes i would think they were a slut


Amanda

 

Yeah, I agree. I dont see the use in going on futher with her. The argument is mostly based on opinions of people who were raised differently, but I respect her because she didn't act like a bitch when we argued, so, why not stop while we're ahead?

 

Finally, some support. Christ, I was getting gang-banged by sluts back there. Which is a funny pun. So laugh, dammit.

 

that was pretty funny... normally puns are very corny.

anyway, i also agree with peacefuljeffrey's post. he made some wonderful points about people emotions being tied to sex. We're supposed to feel connected to the person we're with. if you don't, you usually end up feeling empty inside and wondering what the hell is wrong with you... i personally have gone through that twice. sad stuff "sluttiness" is... IMO

but, people can make mistakes, they can change... so ppl who thought they had a stone wall around their heart can come to realize that it has fallen down, and sex can become a meaningful act carefully reserved for someone they have mutual emotional feelings for.

hopefully that made sense...