Marriage...??

Do many people believe in it these days...

The "till death do us part" and "forsaking all others".....

Do people in this day and age believe in the sanctity of marriage??

Just wondering/wandering?

 

Yes. I believe in "forever" - I've seen it happen with my own eyes in three generations of my own family. I do not, however, see marriage (the legal/religious aspects of it) as *necessary* to that happy life-long relationship. Marriage is for the sake of the rest of the world, not the couple directly involved.

My parents met and became friends when she was 21 and he was 22, they became romantically involved after having known each other a while, and got married at 23 and 24. This month will mark their 36th wedding anniversary. They've been through it all together - financial strain, employment and education problems, infertility which a few years later was proven bullshit when she carried and raised 4 happy healthy well balanced people. My mom went back to school a few years ago by way of a school that took her away for more than a month of every year. A couple of years ago we almost lost her to complications from breast cancer treatment. after all of this, they are as happy and loving and supportive of one another as always.

Similar stories go for both of their parents.

As for myself, I believe more and more with each passing month and year. I'm amazed that my love for my partner Ian just seems to grow more every day. We never tire of each other, we never run out of things to say to each other or passion and lust on the physical side of things.

 

I have had three marriages...

In my 20s I felt the way you did...
but now I have changed my viewpoint...

I too came from a generation of couples
who stuck together...

hmmm.....i have recently learned that both
sets of my grandparents had affairs with
other people.......these were facts that got
covered up when I was younger...

I dont happen to believe that monogamy is
natural....(for all).....

Also I believe a lot of married couples who
"apper' to be happy on the outside are not...
the statistic I read recently was.......

2 out of 3 marriages end in divorve....

Speaks for itself i suppose...

I DO bellieve in love...but for me I feel
there is more sense in being the "lover"
than the wife..marriage is good for
procreation I suppose.....

How long have you been living with your
man hum and do you have any children?

 

marriage is good for cementing society. and its beautiful when its happy and everlasting. very sad when people get stuck in a bad scene though.

 

Marriage is a crock. Why do I need a piece of paper saying someone loves me and will be with me "forever"?

In my opinion, I'd rather someone WANT to be with me, rather than feel like they HAVE to be with me because a piece of paper says so.

I also feel like until EVERYONE has a right to get married (i.e. homosexual couples), marriage does not exist in my mind.

 

I am a little cynical about marriage, mind you, my parents' have been married for 25 years and they are so in love, it's amazing! I should think marriage was a good thing, but it's all a formality that, when you are with someone you love, sounds like the right thing to do. however, i don't need a piece of paper to show my commitment to my partner. Saying this, i wouldn't mind doing it, because I'm just so in love that I would go ahead with it, if he ever asks that is hehe.

 

We've "lived together" as long as we've been together... 5 years, 6 this summer. We met while we were both on the road. I was hitchhiking in one direction, he was driving his van in another direction. We were intrigued by each other and enjoyed one another's company enough that we both kept changing our plans to travel together. Went on like that for several months, until we found ourselves on the other side of the country introducing him to my parents. (who, btw, figured if we'd been able to stand each other in such close quarters for so long, we must have something good going!)

Good point Annie, and I fully agree with that point about marriage. In fact we were talking about it not to long ago and came to the same conclusion - in a way it means more to us that we're still together than if we'd done something stupid and gone off to get married when we realized we were in love.

Funny thing I've noticed, all our friends, when introducing us to new people, ALWAYS introduce us as husband/wife. Sometimes, when talking to people, I refer to him as my "husband" because most people in this society don't understand how I use the term "partner" and somehow "girlfriend/boyfriend" has such a juvenile connotation to it...

 

How about lover ?

It sounds so nice doesnt it

 

i always felt like "lover" made it sound like they were just a fuckbuddy and completely undermined the rest of the rlationship, but thats me


marriage... eh. not a huge believer in it. not that its a bad thing, but it may not be the right thing for me. my moms been through 3 divorces, my family has a history of divorce/separation/mystery disappearances (dads side) going back to like 1920 when it wasnt so cool to do. but if i were with someon elong term and they wanted to get married id be game for it. hell, my current boyfriend is the first one whos ever made me want to look at engagement rings for the hell of it

its not that marriage is bad, its just not the right otpion for some people

 

Oh no a lover isnt a FB

It is far far more than that

 

I believe in it. It just takes two mature fairly selfless people to pull it off most of the time. The hard thing is that people change over time and you never know who you are going to end up with. If you can dismiss faults in your partner and they can do the same for you then you are on the right track and these faults change. I think the payoffs/advantages are worth it.

 

to you. to me, thats what it sounds like.

 

Aaaahhh I have always been the
most romantic of women........

I hate all this FB, pussy and ass talk

Uuughhhh.....

lol

 

it's just formality

why not ust living together knowing you love each other

but no the shitty society demands a paper, the evidence of your love

if ya dont have it people look down on ya

i dunno if it's so in other countries

but in russia unmarried people are taken less seriously than married couples (so seems like love is appreciated less than documents)

i find it shitty

 

I'm not going to get married right away. My boyfriend and I have both talked about it and marriage is just a word until we both feel that we will be forever. Both of my parents have been divorced and remarried twice. I think it's ridiculous that people pump so much money into getting rid of the person they once thought they loved.

 

people are suppost to get married b/c they WANT to be with you forever.. not that it's always the case though.

 

Any couple that lives together and do it as a long term relationship, i consider married. Paper is worthless.

I was married for 4 years. It didnt work out.
I live with my partner now who doesnt want to "officially" tie the knot until both of us are out of college but we pretty much consider us to be married anyway.

 

There is friendship. Everything else is secondary...monogamy and civic formalities included.

 

To me marriage is ultimate act of love. It says you plan on bieng together for the rest of your lives. How can you plan on having a family together until you know that you'll be together. The guys I've dated don't take dating with a grain of salt. So to me dating is almost nothing, there's no reassurance that this person wants to be with you. They can say they do, but you don't know. Obviuosly, I kinda have trust issues lol. We've been together for 3 years now, have a child together, but are not married. I don't need to be married to him. We seem to be married anyways. There just are cartain things about marriage that I want. Like someone said before they don't know how to introduce their partner to other people. I have the same problem. What should I say? My baby's father, my boyfriend, my partner. Either way it always sounds childish and like its just fling. I'm just a traditional type of person.