Worst two days of my life... :(

yeah, i have never heard that before, either. I'd say wait a few months and try again

 

i feel so completely defeated and i just want to give up

 

You know, I think that's a perfectly normal reaction...I remember feeling the same way after my miscarriages, I thought there was no way in heck that I wanted to even try again. I had no desire to. And then all of a sudden, I knew I was ready. But you know, everything is still so fresh for you, when the time is right, you'll know it. Give yourself time to grieve, and time to heal.

{{{Many hugs}}}

 

I know no words stop your pain, but know, we are all thinking of you...

 

Sweetie I am so sorry I know there is nothing I can say to heal your pain. So I will send a prayer your families way ((((hugs))))

 

im so sorry
im sending healing thoughts

 

Oh so sorry to hear this

I had a miscarriage in October 1997 and by Feburary 1998 I was
pregnant again and gave birth to our son the following November.

Dont lose heart.....it happens to a lot of people with first pregnancies

Sending healing and light to you

 

Oh yeah and btw

I was FORTY when I gave birth....to a perfect child...!!!

 

HippyChickMommy is right... Give yourself time to grieve and time to heal before trying again, and especially before writting it off as a lost cause.

You have a very long time to keep trying. My Dad was already in his thirties before he fathered us, all seven! And my Mom had the last of us when she was 35, which made my Dad 46 years old... Just focus on staying healthy and happy, and you two will be just fine.

Best wishes on healing, my thoughts are with you. *hug*

 

my hubby feels defeated and horrible for the fact that hes almost thirty with no children...he fels like the biggest loser in the world

 

He shouldn't feel bad at all! It took him this long to find the right girl to have babies with, didn't it? *smile* It's just the right time for him. Niether of you should feel bad, for any reason. You are at the beginning of your journey together... Things will happen when the time is right.

 

i am so sorry for your loss. i know that sounds... almost... cold, but i mean it.

my father was 38 and my mother 41 before my parents met and had me. please don't let that get you down, sweetheart. sooo much love to you.

 

I heard it from several people. i didn't know how right it was that is why i said asked a doctor. Dear, you are NOT a failure. Don't let this stop you from trying.

 

((((Hugs)))) is all i can give you

 

Im so sorry to hear this, i hope your coping ok though. keep strong x

 

first, about waiting a year, i got pregnant 2 months after my first miscarriage and gave birth to a happy healthy 8 lb girl and after my second miscarriage i got pregnant again 3 months later and gave birth to another happy healthy 8 lb girl!!




second, to your hubby, our best friends (my best friend married my husbands best friend) our just now getting ready to start trying to concieve and he's 30!
there is plenty of time to make babies!!

my biggest piece of advice is to not stress about it. take the time you feel you need to mourn your loss and when your ready to move on, not forget but move on, everything will fall into place : )


much love and many healing vibes to you and your husband

 

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Please give the biggst hug in the world to your lovely husband and get him to give one back to you from me. He seriously sounds like a man among men and the both of you are so lucky to have each other!
In terms of his age I wouldn't be worrying so much. My friend from Tunisia was one of sixteen children, when I met them they were in their thirties and I thought they would be like the middle child but it turned out they were the youngest, his dad was in his nineties and had conceived him when he was in his sixties...boys can make babies far longer than women can! so good luck with it all, take it easy and don't stress and I am sure that if you manage to heal your heart and get your body happening for you you will be a proud mumma sometime.

 

Although sperm production changes over time, and there is some evidence saying older men *may* contribute to birth defects, and sperm mobility definitaly changes producing less fertile sperm we're talking about 60, 70 year old men. Not yer husband at all! And as has been pointed out, older men create babies ALL the time. Look at Mick Jagger.

 

My youngest grandchild is now 6 months old. Her daddy is 57. They had trouble keeping a pregnancy but it was because of my daughter, not her husband. My daughter didn't have enough progesteron to maintain a pregnancy. They lost eight in the year and a half before Ciencia was concieved. They were all very early miscarriages. If they hadn't been so focused on getting pregnant, they probably wouldn't even have known they were pregnant for most of them. They are now thinking of another baby.

My husband became a father for the first time at the age of 36. And then it was through adoption.

Take the time you need to heal and then try again. Your husband has nothing to worry about. When the time is right, you will have a beautiful little one.

Kathi