Hi everyone..i have a HUGE dilema and need your guys help. I have a freind of my mans who is severly neglecting her kids..they are 1 and 5 yrs old and NOT being taken care of. The 5 yr old takes care of the baby, and she is also walking the streets in town at 9pm. The girl sleeps all day and dosent get up to feed them or watch them..she sleeps till 3pm. She is too buisy on myspace to watch them, the oldest knows her mom dislikes her and now has started peeing her pants when her mom says shes going to spauch (spank) her. I was on the phone with her last night, i am still trying to help her realize they need to be take care of..and her oldest was outside playing by herself at 9pm..she brought a neighbor lady over to meet her mom while i was talking to her. She still hadnt fed them and was looking for food she could just give the baby so she didnt have to feed her herself..wich is what she always does..she will put food in front of her and leave her there for an hr or so.. I really want to call social services..i am so worried the 5 yr old will be taken walking around town the way she does..and the 1 yr old is so tiny for her age, and needs to be fed on a reg basis..I even watched her do this in my own home..they stayed over once and i took care of them happily..while she slept till 2pm. I am so worried for them..need advice please!! sorry so long.. also must add..last wk tyla(5 yr old girl) went missing and this chicks b/f..asked her where she was..she said she didnt know hadnt seen her in hrs. He found her 4 hrs later at an old guys house 7 blcks away He cant watch them cause he works overnights and sleeps during the day..they are not his to clarify that.
How can your man be friends with someone like that? Of coarse you should call Child Services and DO IT NOW before one of the children ends up dead. Anyone who doesn't know where their five year old is for hours, is not being a parent. This story is just horrible, act now before its too late.
That is very sad....Is the mother on drugs? I would get the law involved. There was a person I know who got arrested for doing the opposite, she was walking around town while the kids were home alone. IMO your situation is far worse....was this a friend of the parents, this older man? That is beyond dangerous.She's too busy on MySpace?? What's her url, I wouldn't mind giving her a piece of my mind lol!! Jk! Not feeding your kids is abuse in itself! Where is the father?
something definetly needs to be done. this chick needs to step up and take responsibility for her kids. she needs a reality check asap. i would definetly call social services on her for child endangerment and child neglect. Maybe it doesnt have to go that far to wher you have to call social services that would be a llast resort. I know how difficult it is to get your kids out of the system once they are in foster care and all plus foster care could be much much worse. I know someone who's child was in foster care for two weeks and went through 5 or 6 foster families because of how they treated him made him sleep in the garage or on the floor wouldnt feed him wouldnt let him shower or go to school. I dont want that to happen to any other child. I suggest that if you are truly worried about these children i suggest that you gather up all these chicks friends and mentors and have an intervention. Help her relize that what she is doing is wrong and she needs to step up and be a mom and take interest in her kids. Let her know that if she doesnt take this intervention serious that social services will be called and her kids will be taken away for neglect and endangerment. Good luck and hopefully this chick gets her act together
I agree with the others; you better do something. Even if something horrible DOESN'T happen to them- and there's a good chance it will!- no 5 year old should have to play parent to a 1 year old. Big siblings do sometimes have some responsibility over their little siblings, but nothing like that. Having your 5 year old watch their brother\sister for a minute while you grab something off the stove is one thing. This is a whole different matter. If she didn't care about the first child, what the hell brought her to have a second one? They make the pill\abortion\adoption services for a reason!
This is so awful. How can people even imagine treating their kids like an animal is beyond me. She shouldn't have ever had kids if she doesn't know how to even be a mom, when there are wonderful people who struggle to become a parent... WTF is wrong with people?? Seriously... You need to bring this to immediate attention to the state. Not only for the childrens welfare, but perhaps the mother's as well. It seems she wouldn't be too hurt if her children were taken away, and that is so sad. The 5 year old is at an age where she will never forget this. And it is terrible to even think of the things that could happen to her at any given hour of the day. I believe it would be a blessing for you to seek help for thse innocent little girls, and give them a life they deserve. Unfortunately if this keeps going on, who knows what could happen. The mother could be calling out for help in a strange way. And I don't think you will lose a "friend", but helping one. The 5 year old will be going to school soon, and that will not be a good thing if she continues the little life her mother is giving her. I will keep those little angels in my thoughts and prayers that they find happiness in a better loving home. Where there are so many wonderful people who would take them in and give them so much love, food, shelter, and most importantly attention. Good luck, you are doing the right thing for them, trust me.
Don't waste time looking for confirmation that it's the right thing to do... we can only go by what you say is happening and if it's really like you say then you have to call I'm sorry that it's a friend of your mans ....I can see where that might be what's bothering you but children never deserve that kind of treatment call help
All so much!! I really am going to call now that i feel i am not alone and over reacting about all this..tyla the oldest has now started peeing her pants when her mom yells at her and that to me is a huge sign of fear and abuse.The biological dads are both abusive and huge druggies..so no help there! Aaron is the b/f and he told me last wk he wanted to call himself but didnt have the guts to I will keep you all posted!!Thanks so much for all of your relpies,and advice!I really appreciate it
wow, how can someone be that neglectful!? and I feel bad watching tv for an hour.... this is seriously beyond comprehension! I fliped one day when I couldn't find Leane in our apartment which is closed off to anywhere outside....yet I started to freak out that somehow she wasn't in the house. I found her a second later playing beside the couch in a corner, but God I was scared. That said, who in their right mind could let a kid wander around for hours!!!!! Sounds to me like someone would be doing this woman a favour by calling for help and getting these kids taken away. She doesn't seem like she wants to be a mother and those kids need a good home. ARG people like this bug the shit out of me!
kirstyn I can totally empathize with you there... I am a way protective mother more so then some other mothers in the area.. I see young kids playing by themselves in the parking lots where I live and I just want to cry.. poor lil kids don't understand all of the dangers that adults should be aware of... I let my daughter walk herself to school but only because the walk doesn't take her past any roads its a sidewalk from our backdoor that's about two blocks long leading through a field.. and it goes straight to her school.. but yesterday I got a call from her school asking about her absence and I freaked out... it turned out that she was just late because of a flat tire and that her teacher forgot to call down to the office and let them know she was there...omg .. I was sooo scared it has to be the WORST feeling ever to think that your child might be gone as to the original poster....skye* I am glad you have decided to take action and I am looking forward to hearing about what happens... I hope that those two sweethearts get some help
