Umm, maybe just look at that as an innocent mistake? There's no reason to fret over something that common. Peace and love
dam i thought i was the only one who could not forgive them selves for simple mistakes. just try to get over it is all i can say
Chris, I know Asperger's Syndrome has come up in your threads, but I've never seen you mention it. Are you diagnosed AS, or have you looked into it? I really think that learning about it will help you a lot with these issues. You worry about details way, way, way too much, especially socially, which is probably the number one trait of AS.
Yes, of course it could be AS, but then there's some sickness or complex for everything that can be minorly wrong with you. It's not the end of the world, just wait a few days and see that not everything will collapse on top of you for a minor error. SOrry if I sound mean or anything, just let this...blow over.
Stayloose:you hit the nail right on the head. A friend of mine has a 15 y.o. son with A.S., Tom is his name and in loose mental health terms, he's a "low grade".. Tom cannot read body language, does not understand communication such as when not to interrupt other peoples conversation with non-appropriate remarks. He is in special-ed. and rides the "short bus" to and from school. He can read and write at his age level. But does not function out of environment of home and school. My daughter and grandson live across the road from Tom and his father. Joe, my grandson just turned 7. I went up to their house a couple of days ago to do Dad stuff ( fix the wood stove) I waved at Tom when I pulled in the drive. When I got inside Mandy (my daughter) was cooking supper and Joe was building a model car. I asked Joe why he wasn't out playing with Tom ? I was taken aback by his answer. Joe told me Tom was a drag, all he ever wanted to do was run around out in the woods and wave a stick around to chase off "evil warriors",every day the same chase for evil warriors. Joe said he's got too much to do now, to waste his time chasing evil warriors with Tom. Said it was cool when he was 5 but I'm 7 now. Their you have it, my grandson grew up in two years and Tom 8 years his senior hasn't. Telling someone with A.S. to try Buddhism or self awareness isn't going to work. And for Gods sake don't put this up in quotes, Chris.......
Chris your right, quote away. I understand obsessions.. As for Tom, if his Dad let him, he would eat the same thing 3x a day everyday. Wear the same clothes everyday. Basically wont try new things. Has been in trouble at school for being inappropriate with girls. Like walking up the a young lady and saying "will you be my girl friend?".Then standing there staring at her. Awhile back Toms dad knew his was going to be running a little late getting home from work, about 30 Min's. His dad called the school so they could tell Tom what was going on. At home toms dad has a list of emergency phone numbers, just in case. Well, Tom called them all, including 9-1-1. When his dad got home there was a state troopers car in the drive. The emergency was, Tom couldn't find the remote for the TV. I'm not saying your as bad as Tom, by any means. But people with A.S. do have big problems with interpersonal relationships and problem solving. The way to solve problems is trying a new approach.....All for now.....Dennis...
Good posts Alaskan, although I disagree that Buddhism can't help an aspie. I see what you mean that obviously he has issues beyond what Buddhism or any other spiritual discipline can help with, but Chris' life is clearly dominated by anxiety and fear, and I think that some good ole fashioned mindful breathing/relaxation techniques can definitely help an aspie keep things in perspective. Also, it's really tough to make comparisions between aspies. For instance, just from reading Chris's posts, I'd be surprised if he did stuff like Tom, even at a young age. Some aspies aren't diagnosed until well into adulthood, so there aren't always such obvious signs. But I agree with your general point- Chris is obvious different, and I think Chris must acknowledge that he's different if he's ever going to get anywhere. He seems to be very much in denial. He has all of these problems, and he's never satisfied with any of our explanations. You've gotta look in the mirror, man, and go from there.
