My mom has a drug problem. It's become extremely apparent now that I'm living at home for a few months before I get an apartment. She has abused presciption meds for atleast 5 years, to the point that she orders drugs online, sleeps literally for days on end, and tonight, she was so fucked up she nearly choked trying to eat a grape and couldn't speak, then handed my dad a letter basically telling him he is scum for getting sober and she wants a divorce. The problem is all of these issues are only apparent in my home. Outside our house, she appears to be perfectly fine. My family outside of me my dad and my brother have no idea what's going on. And on top of everything, she struggles with bi-polarity. I honestly have no idea what to do. I ask her if she needs help, she says no. I ask her if she's drunk or high, she screams at me. I'm really afraid she is going to kill herself or overdose. She won't admit to having a problem, so how am I suppose to help her? She has a psychologist that she lies to and receives copious amounts of drugs from. She's been in and out of therapy and nothing seems to work because she doesn't recognize the addiction. I really, really don't know what to do. Any suggesting would be much appreciated right now, I'm nearing the end of my rope.
I wish I could give suggestions, but all I can do is wish you and your family the best. I hope it works out for all of you. If nothing else, you have a family on the forums that loves you and we're gonna be here for you, regardless of what happens. I'm here, if you ever need to talk. I know how stuff like that is.
maybe try and contact the psychologist? explain what you see happening and see if the psychologist can help. i'm sorry you have to go through this though. i hope your mom can overcome the problem, and that nothing extreme happens.
I also have a family member that is addicted to prescription meds.......it's like an up and down rollercoaster that nobody else understands except your immediate family. Everything outside the house seems to be "normal". Well the family member recently went through a traumatic time and abused the prescrip's beyond belief....basically trying to kill themself. Thank god it didn't work and was in in-patient therapy for quite awhile.......this person is doing alot better after realizing life aint so bad......we got lucky here....this normally probably wouldn't happen....... My best advice to you is exactly what Hamfoot said, contact her therapist now!!!! Let them know what is really going on, they should realize she needs further help and hopefully do whatever they can, it may not work but it is definately, definately worth a shot. It kinda goes along those lines of if your friend is thinking about suicide......don't even hesitate....get help. This is a serious matter and i have seen it first hand....basically do everything you can (NOW) i.e. contact therapist, explain the true situation, and see whatever they can do to help. I wish you luck it is quite a struggle and really can't be put into words.......I hope everything ends well......offer support and be safe. - 42o -
x3 on that one. you know we all care for you, but as much as i want to help you, i really cant except to wish yall the best of luck.
Im sorry to hear that youre going through this... I know what its like to deal with a mother who is in a mess at the moment, when my parents got divorced, my mom was really upset for the first year..she was high/drunk a lot...I hate drunk yelling people, by the way.... And one thing I learned through that, was that there are certain things you simply just cant make someone do/tell someone in those times, things they just dont want ot hear and wont listen to flat out. What I mean is, Id say certain things like "Ma youre overdoing the alcohol/weed" or something like that, and shed FLIP and be like "you think I cant handle myself?" blah blah blah, and then it would just turn into a guilttrip and somehow at the end Id be the one who ended up being the bad guy. And itd be so frustrating because all Id want to do was help, and/or just get my point across. But I realized certain things Id say had no useful effect, and just created anger/denial/drama. Im sure youve already spoken to your mother about being concerned about her state at the moment, but I think you should try doing it real seriously, as in sit down yourself and really let her know shes freaking you out, and that youre worried, and that you care about her, etc...you know what Im saying? Like, try to cut past her angry side, and help her see your point. And yeah, if you have access to her psychologist, go for it, Im sure the psychologist may have had "tough cases" (I dont mean that in a deragotory way) before so maybe he or she will have an idea. Unfortunately, like I said before, tehre are certain things you just cant make people realize or understand or accept or listen to...you can only try and guide them as much as you can, and hope that one day they'll "wake up." Good luck, if you need anyone to talk to, PM me. Cheers and much much much Love to you! and hugs, Dylan
Since she's getting the prescriptions from a psychologist, I'm guessing she is abusing benzos of some sort....maybe xanax, valium or klonopin? If so, there is no reasoning with her, because that shit, expecially xanax and klonopin, warps your mind in a way that you won't listen to anybody and she will have to hit her absolute "rock bottom" before she realizes she is self destructing. Just don't give up on her and let her know that she doesn't need that shit. I've been there, myself, and I know how wonderful it feels to not give a fuck, if only for a few hours, and it takes strength to get past it. If she can't find that strength in herself, then you have to lend her some of your's and stay by her side, regardless of how shitty she treats you.
Thanks for all the well wishes and advice guys, it really helped. So my parents are getting "seperated". Which I am happy about because I know they'll be happier apart. And I'm going to sit down with my mom sometime this week and tell her how concerned I am. I know she really has to hit rock bottom to want to stop, maybe the seperation will shake her enough to realize how she's ruining her life.
That Doctor can get in trouble im sure for over perscribing medicines Think about phoning that doctor with your concerns. You are bound to get traction.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure my mom goes to multiple doctors and the internet to get medication. I hope to god all these meds arn't from the same person, I'll check who prescribed them on the bottles. Thanks for the advice
Yeah the whole "rock bottom" thing is a must. For me, it was breaking my hand and delaying everything I am striving for, so I have calmed down with the xanax and try to stay within the 10mg range, which is still a lot but also managable. Best of luck.
