With the occasional meeting up 3 or 4 times a year for a few days each. Do/did they work? Please reply, i'm sure many here have had at least 1 long distance relationship with someone.
3 or 4 times a year is not very much for a serious relationship especially if you are both still changing in your lifes But im not saying that they wont work, they just need alot of effort and time put into them
I live in Ireland, and my girlfriend lives in Germany. We see each other every 2nd week, sometimes more often. 3-4 times a year can work, there are always exceptions, but if you have to decide to do it, then dont. A relationship shouldnt be a big decision. If you want to be together badly enough, you already will be. A serious relationship is, most of the time, a full time thing. It's always possible to see soembody more often than 3-4 times a year. You have to be prepared to make sacrifices. I was in a long term, very long distance relationship in the past. For two years. Very, very rarely saw her. You cannot get to know somebody well enough through SMS, phone and internet. They say that distance is the test of the strength of a relationship, but it's not, if you've had it the whole time. The test is really when you have to get to know each other properly. The reality is, in a relationship based on distance, you'll never get to know the person well enough in that situation. It relies on fantasy and future planning, most often.
I'd rather become a nun and live in celibacy for the rest of my life than be in a long distance relationship, to be honest. I'm not saying they can't work but personally I find them too painful and emotionally consuming. It's nice to have someone to miss but not when it gets to the point where your heart feels like it's about to explode from sadness and loneliness coz you can't be with the one you love.
In my experience, not to that degree. It depends on the people involved of course, but my long-distance relationship ended up being far more frequent than that. Unless it were absolutely 100% impossible to see each other more frequently than 3-4 times per year, I'm fairly sure most relationships would turn into something more frequent.
Well i had one for like 11 months but we broke up before we met. It is difficult to meet @ 15 years old, she was about 100 miles away. Funnily enough a couple of months ago a girl randomly txt me who i met on a train to London (our year was on a school trip to see The Lion King on stage) we wouldnt have met if my school's bus didnt break down forcing us to take the train instead. That was like 2 years ago, and we talked via txt for a bit and just lost contact. Weird how she txt me again, we might be meeting up in the summer holidays. It would be weird to see her again having not seen her for 2 years.
No, four times a year isn't enough time to spend with somone. It's hard for them to live as part of your life and that makes it really hard to sustain strong feelings no matter how great the person is. Also, how long is it for? I can do distance if I know the distance will cease in a measurable amount of time. It depends how far away the person lives too. I'd say if there is no sure end to the distance and you can't see each other every month or so that you're setting yourself up for failure.
Meh we have both sort of given up on meeting anyway. Shame, she's awesome, nothing like the girls around here....
