I think that I am a resonably good person. Loyal, honest, blah, blah, blah. I've settled down lots, am starting on my JD next year, and am pretty much in love with a girl; we're moving in together the following Sept (I work in the bush for the summer to support the studies, so we're seperated right now). However, I was none of these things in my youth (relative, I know). I partied a lot (cue the Skid Row). And while I've shaken off many of my bad habits (most notably I won't touch blow anymore), I've still got quite a few: a borderline alcoholic (it isn't altogether unusual for me to consume 25 drinks on a night out - I tend not to stop), pack-a-day smoker, never wear a seat belt (some are easier than others, I know), etc. However, in the event of knocking somebody up (obviously the GF right now), I've always planned to simply quit these in the goal of being a good father. How realistic do you think this overhaul would be? The older I get, the less likely it seems... Hell, this isn't even a real question, I suppose, I'm just looking for motivation to change now rather than later. *I've been thinking about this because the girlfriend is trying to change me in certain ways (always for the better, I might add, and there is no resentment about it - I quit using drugs because of her), but she seems nervous about it; like I would be justified in being angry over her trying to "improve" me. But please, feel free to discuss.
the longer you wait, the harder its going to get. i believe the "better late than never" thing is true but hey you realize some things you want to change in your life so start now. if you start now youll have a healthier future and wont feel a huge amount of pressure/stress to quit cold turkey in the event your girl got pregnant. if you start now you can take your time. i think its great you have someone who cares about you enough to try to get you to change unhealthy habits/problems/addictions love can be the cure for many things
my bf and i have been sober since november. and trust me we did it all too. we have bben together 7 years and the drinking was way out of control. we used to have fun when we would drink and party together but then the fight s came stupid shit over music and what have you. so it was either drink and live apart or stop drinking all together. honestly the bf was drinking very heavily, he was never sober and he would even drink in the morning before work, it made me sick, iwould only drink on friday nights but it was a whole bottle of jack daniels, then the fighting again. i think we just kinda grew out of it. now it's very hard because we still hang out with the same people and after a couple hours people start getiing buzzed and we know it's time to go.so we only drink on occasion. everyone says he quit because of me but it can't happen that way you have to want to quit for it to work. good luck
