hello all. i need some help and some good ideas. my son is two and it seems like everyday i discipline him for the same things he did the day before and its getting to be very irritating. i just wanted to see if some momma's have any ideas on how to improve his memory and how to help him remember certain things. thank you for all ideas and opinions. FF
I don't have too much advice, since I'm going through the same thing with Lea Lea. My only advice is to stay consistent with what you say and do. After a while, he should start to get the hang of what you're saying. I find if I slip up with Leane and don't say something when she's doing something she shouldn't be, everything goes out the window and she's back to doing whatever it was we didn't want her to in the first place.
Well, just think about it. How often were you told at seven and eight years old to do the same things your parents were teaching you at four and five? Or even still griping about it at fifteen and sixteen! It's not something that really gets better, because it's the repetition that teaches him. Just be patient, momma!
i know it just irks me that i have to tell him not to play with the dvd player every five minutes (literally) finally he broke the dvd player yet he still plays with it. dont know what his fascination is with electronics but he loves them.
yeah i suppose so since his father was the same way. shane would radios and other electronics apart then reassemble them. i guess aiden is going to be the same way
Your the parent and only you can enforce your rules. Start planning a step up discipline program based on your beliefs and stick to it.
Kind of in the same boat. We have 6 kids in the house and it is next to impossible not to have a marking object of some kind. My little two year old has decided to be quite the artist, just not on paper. Mostly herself, the walls, the furniture...oh and the windows. She is such a sensitive little soul. If you get upset it just devestates her. We are trying a lot of redirection. Like picking her up and saying "We don't color there" and giving her a color book at the table. Persistence is about all you can do, cuase they really don't remember things a whole lot better as they get older. Possibly until they are out of the home and have no one to remember for them he he! Good Luck Ma ma
This is where the art of distraction comes into play. When the child is set on doing something that you don't want him to do, find him something better (more fun) to do. Example, he wants to stick his sandwich in the VCR; distract him by letting him color with finger paints all over the bathtub, etc... It's possible that at this age he's cognitively unable to remember your reminding. - Smiles
Hehehe! Welcome to parenting! I'm in the same boat, and my twins will be 4 years old on Sunday, and my oldest is 7 years old. I'm emotionally exhausted by the end of the day, I'll tell you that much! I remember my mother saying when I was a child that she felt like a broken record, telling me the same things over and over and over. I can now relate. Except, I'm more like a glitched CD.
Try being consistant,never say "don't do this" and leave it at that, administer some time out or punishment, then praise if there are advancements.
As previous posters have said, be persistant. Also, remember that this is developmentally normal for his age. Distraction is the main thing.
Kids try parents to see what they can get away with, and not administering some punishment (not corporal) after saying "you are not allowed to do that" is like saying "go ahead, there's nothing I can do to stop you". The one that works best is "go to your room till I tell you when to come out", that gives them time alone to think about not doing it again. Try it to do that, and see if it's effective.
