I cant socialize wtf

I grew up in a small town pretty much out in the middle of no where. More people died in 9-11 than are in the community itself. Ok well since i couldnt go to town growing up due to its distance and my parents working. I took up the computer at a early age and here i am now. Well even in school growing up, one thing iv realized is i NEVER socialize. I now consider it a problem. Its like some part in my brain never learned how to socialize. I have lived alone since i moved away to go to college. Im going to a community school. I have met one person for the last 2 years who i consider a friend. Other than that i havent met anyone. It blows people away who know me when i tell them this. I have realized that no one knows about my "solitude problem". Not even my parents. I hid things so well lol. Im a real scorpio on several levels haha. Anyways im getting kid of sick finishing up my second year of college and still dont know anybody. Im constantly asked questions or told commets about my hair. Oh its so beautifull; blah blah blah. Im amazed how many people (mostly girls!) ask if im single and when i say yes they are shocked (they would be more shocked to know i dont know anyone). One friend of mine who trys to help me out. He takes me to parties and helps me socialize. He said once "you have amazing qualities, but wtf bro none of them get used". I just sit in my apartment when everything else is done. I turn everyone away or give them a look like (i really dont give a fuck what you want to say). Im told this by many, i cant change iv always been like that. I dont know what im saying now that im rambling but... How do you socialize haha, this is starting to get to me. -.-

 

you sound like a really cool guy.
why don't you hang around with your friend more, the one who helps you socialise? get to know his friends and keep on going to parties with him. smile more at people, make jokes out of things as it shows them that you're a friendly funny guy. when these girls talk to you, compliment them back! just be yourself.

 

So, if you don't know anyone, who are all of these people asking if you're single? And whom do you tell about your loneliness? Obviously you're talking to someone. Just ask one of them to watch a movie in your dorm room with your or something, and have a conversation about whatever's on your mind before/afterwards. It's as easy as that

 

Its not a question i get alot but at those parties example i get asked yea. I dont live in dorm nor have i had the experience of one.

Im horrible at saying anything back. I never really care what people say haha

 

I think you must just force yourself to talk to people. It becomes easier once you get past the initial fear.

 

I've sort of accepted myself as a sort of solitary person, and I see that is how I will always be. Sometimes, I don't even want to talk. I just don't feel like it. How annoying it would be if I had a friend who always had/wanted conversation. I would shoot myself(nah I wouldn't). Be happy dude and take it all in your stride

 

You fuckin said it, i completely agree.

 

I have been like that all my life. I still don't start conversations with people where I live, but when I meet someone like me or at least bohemian yet outgoing, then it's perfect chemistry.

 

Trust me ive had expiriences with being non social and im still going through it but listen.

Yano in baseball, your coach will say "be the ball"? Well, be the people your talking to. You need to think like them, not act like them, but THINK like them, then express your personal opinion when needed. Thats how you stay on conversation. Oh ya, also dont be afraid to talk, just do it man who really cares.

Im basically saying to think deep into what thier talking about, dont hesistate or overthink, and say what comes to mind by thinking like them.

 

Being social is over-rated!!!

I personally don't have a problem with talking to people, I choose not to. Other people piss me off.
However if you'd like to get technical, just writting shit in this forum is being social. Especially if you respond to other peoples comments. :tongue:

 

I disagree only because im not looking at your face, i consider online shit to be VERY anti social -.-

haha

 

just remember to always be yourself, never compromise you. when you try to fake a personality for others it dosen't make you happy. what the point in talking to people you dont like anyway?

and remember this their just people like you, its not like your talking to an alien or something lol.

 

you don't need to see someones face to be social. (however, seeing and hearing them helps you tell if they're lying or not.) but if you want to keep beliving that you have issues with being social then go right ahead. tis your life, live it how you see fit.
all that matters is that you love and respect yourself.:H

 

"I cant socialize wtf"


"Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right" - Henry Ford

 

I agree with that other guy, its hard to find people like myself as well, everyone just talks shit, about stuff that aint important!

Anyway, i would say just try to talk to people, smile and just be yourself, don't try to be anybody that your not, cos it won't work in the end...and if you don't like somebody, don't try to be their friend, not everybody has to like you =) Just be happy with who you are and fuck anybody else who isnt

 

With comments like that I can see what your problem is...

Nobody wants to socialise with you.

 

Not true, its not hard to get people to talk to me. A few people have said now as mentioned upove. Most people are annoying as shit. Its so true, i cant find where i fit in. I cant stand the word "like" it seems as if its used three for four times a sentence. Cant stand fucking stand it, so i dont talk to people. Last night at my work one of my managers (i work for UPS in shipping, so you really dont talk much) says "hey dude, those rice cookers your loading there? Did you know you can boil and egg in one?" I didnt answer him. Its a perfect example of random shit i dont care to hear. Arrr ^^

 

I can be either extremely antisocial or extremely social. In college I had this thing where I got there didnt say hi to anybody took my class and left, totally disregarding the people that were there but I guess all it takes is to actually have interest in knowing the person next to you and I'm constantly amazed by people I never thought of becoming friends with or even talking .. so I think is just that, that drives us.. curiosity in others and I've learned that you can learn something from everybody.
It all starts with a look, a smile and before you know it you're talking to people and have found something of common interest.. even when they think completely different there's you are being exposed to a whole different perspective.

 

I don't socialize with my neighbors because then they would come and interrupt me, and I like to have peace at least at home. Whatever they may think or say does not annoy me
but when someone does something to annoy me openly, I confront them openly. There hasn't been a place I have lived where someone didn't hate me for apparently no reason at all.

 

I'm 18, scorpio too.. I pretty much have the same problem, though it may differ a little... i get into social situations, and people always seem to want to talk to me for some reason or another but i usually just dont say anything beucase i dont think there seems to be anything to say, but then when i open my mouth people look at me oddly... ive even had some people tell me i was scaring them... unintentionally
I've pretty much gotten used to being alone now actually, in fact i like it better than being around people...
I find i have pretty much nothing in common with anyone i meet.