Bisexual married women, how do you deal?

Need some help...what if your husband doesn't know? what if you've been send messages on email w/o his knowledge? do you tell? do you keep it to yourself?

 

oh geez you'll kill yourself trying to keep it a secret. I don't know your life, but I'm very out there...it keeps be happy!

 

um, i dont correspond with sex in mind to others. i dont lie to him about that kind of stuff. youre only gonna gte yourself deep in shit if you dont come clean or at least sever contact with this other person youve been talking to behind his back

 

remember, just because it's the same sex, it doesn't mean it's not cheating.

not saying you are, but at least re-evaluate these messages.

 

he doesn't have to know.

 

would you want to know if it was your husband and the attraction was to other men?
S

 

You shouldn't keep it a secret, in my opinion. It'll stress you out way too much and it jeopardizes your marriage.

 

Thanks for the advice...cheating isn't nice though. I don't consider a few emails cheating...even if he was the one doing that, I wouldn't consider it cheating. But thanks for weighing in all the same. And, thanks to the guy who said "he doesn't need to know."

 

just tell him, it will set u free!

 

Attractions one thing ect.,.Being with someone (behind his back) is another.Whatever you do it's your conscience you have to deal with.Listen to your conscience,(let's not make it a moral thing),...Rather something that your heart and soul tells you.

J

 

Stickyspot...
I think it's important, not necessarily that you tell him about the e-mails, but about your sexuality, if he doesn't know. Afterall, what kind of bond do you two have, if you can't even be honest about yourself, with him?

I do agree though, that just because it is the same sex doesn't mean it's not cheating. And I am not saying you are, but be careful with what course those e-mails might take. If it's going to lead to other things...that's what you have to be concerned about.

Be honest, be open, have faith in your relationship, and have faith in yourself. Good luck, I hope you get things figured out Much love.

 

I am a woman who married a man. While I don't like labels, I do like the occasional woman. My husband was aware of this when we got married, as I believe it to be an important part of my identity, and personally, I wouldn't marry someone unless they know about ALL of me.

When I decided to marry the man who is now my husband I gave up having sexual relations with women as well as other men. If I wasn't willing to sacrifice sleeping with other people, regardless of their gender, then I wouldn't have gotten married.

That being said, I am human. I still have attractions and crushes. The difference is I no longer act on them.

Emailing a friend is fine. Emailing a friend and flirting in a non-joking way is shady. Keeping it from your husband is shady. If it wasn't important, if it doesn't mean anything, they why are you hesitant to tell him?