how do you talk about anal with your partner?

my partner wants to try anal. im game for trying it, albeit with a condom. however, the other night, he pressed the head of his cock against my butt and while it felt good, there was no work up so i made him stop before anything actuallyw ent inside me (also no condom, ick, poop isnt sexy)

what has been a time/method that worked well for you to talk about the need for anal preparation (fingering etc) and props required for it (lube and condoms, namely)?

 

I agree with the use of a condom, especially while you are getting the feel of things. (yer right, poop ain't sexy.) An enema will make it a cleaner affair. Some nice fingering and a good lube sure helps. By all means, RELAX and take your time.

Yes, you may feel a bit of pain at first, but bare with it and give a little 'push' from within as he enters. Have him stop just inside and relax as he just holds still for a short and procede slowly. In the beginning you may not be able to take all of him inside you....Soon you will. (I'm turned on just thinking about your virgin ass being fucked for that first time.)

When to talk about it???? Roll a joint, mix a couple drinks and kick back. Ask him to close his eyes and just listen without comment till you finish sharing your thoughts.

If he is kynd, you will love having your little butt fucked just as my "M" does.

 

roll a joint? heh, we dont do any drugs, and rarely drink (i havent ever seen him touch alochol, to be honest). but i take it you mean before things start getting hot and heavy. im not really keen on trying an enema truth be told. it sounds remakrably unpleasant, like voluntary diarrhea or somesuch

 

Have him use his fingers first if you don't want the first time to hurt.

 

I hope you can work things out so you both enjoy anal sex play.

You'll learn what is best for you as long as you both take your time.

 

^agreed. Take your time. Even if it is your first time, pain is an indication that he is going too fast/hard or you weren't ready to be stretched that far. Make sure you will be able to handle the size of his penis by getting used to smaller objects and working your way up. Your first experience in anal is supposed to be just as enjoyable as your 100th.

 

You should be able to talk about anal sex just like you should be able to talk about everything when it comes to sex. Communication is probably the most important thing for having amazing sex. Without neither person really knows what the other wants.

 

I totally agree with talking about your desires.....Don't forget to watch the body language, too.

 

We dont use condoms, just a little bit of ky jelly.

 

April, we don't bother with condoms either, but I do advise those new to butt fucking to use one for a few reasons. The first being if one is dating they should use them anyway. (we had blood tests when we decided to stay together)

Next would the "Eeeeewwww" on the poo thing. "M" loves taking it in the rear, and has found an enema to be very helpful. Not only is it cleaner, it makes more 'room' in there and deep thrusts hurt less.

And, I think it is a little more slippery with one, and may help a bit.

 

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