I have a friend that uses pot and quite a bit as best I can tell. I don’t use it and until now I could care less. I am hoping to gain some insight into a situation that he and I ran into this weekend. Please understand that I don’t wish to pass judgment against the drug or the users but I need to understand what happened this weekend to our relationship. The friend and I went on a trip this weekend along with his roommate. When we got down the road the friend started to prepare his pipe. I told him that there wasn’t going to be any smoking in my wife’s car and not while I was driving. He then said, no problem, let me drive. I told him that there was no chance I was going to let him smoke and drive my wife’s car for the next 3 hours. He then started to get extremely irate and said that he knew this was going to be an issue and that’s why he wanted to take his car. I told him that we didn’t have enough room in his car for the 3 of us and our stuff. I also told him that I would not let him drive me on the trip and smoke too. He became really enraged and started to yell quite a bit. He basically told me that I was passing judgment, that I sucked as a friend, that this was the reason why I had no friends and on and on. He cussed me out threatened me and truly crossed a line that he has never crossed before. We have been friends for nearly 25 years at this point (we are 35). He has only started using in the past 5 years or so. Until now I could care less about his usage. I think he smokes too much personally, but that’s for him to deal with. He works as needed and makes a fantastic living as well as paying his bills and so on. He functions just fine. However for the first time he has made a decision and created a situation that wouldn’t have been an issue for any other subject, but this one. He was willing to throw away a 25 year relationship if I didn’t let him smoke in the car. Not only was I worried about my wife’s reaction (which was not pleasant by the way) when she found out about it, but I was seriously concerned about the legal jeopardy I was being placed at. I could have been arrested for his usage in my car. His mere possession could have landed me in jail. And before you people start spouting off legal crap about how I wouldn’t have gotten in trouble, let’s throw something else in. I made a personal decision regarding my property and my welfare and he basically told me to go Fck myself. He could care less how I felt about it. I akin his actions to him deciding to jack off in my bed and then smoking in it afterwards. Even after I told him not too. Why would he disregard my personal feelings and desires and go against my wishes and do so at the risk of a 25 year relationship? As it stands I will likely never travel with him again and may decide at this point to disown him as a friend although I haven’t actually reached that decision.
he seems like a complete asshole. sure he doesn't do anything else besides marijuana? oh and you should copy and paste this thread in the marijuana forum. wont get much action in the busted part.
Your friend souncs like an ass, there's no reason to fight over something like that. I am perfectly fine driving high if I have to, but if there's someone sober that can drive, I wouldn't think twice as to letting them drive.
yeah man, thats past the addiction stage. If he finds it hard not to smoke for a few hours thats bad. Going weeks should not be a problem.
Your friend is a dick. I would never try to pressure someone to smoke in their car even if it was my best friend or just someone I barely knew. Between all the people I've ever hung out/ smoked with if anybody asked to smoke in someones car the driver would say, yes or no and that'd be it. I would've thrown his ass out the car and said i'll pick you up on the way back. bye.
I cant even begin to tell you how hard I tried to tell him not to do it. I know this sounds silly but we argued about this issue for about an hour before I finally gave in. So your going to ask me why I gave in... The bottom line is that friends dont come easy especially ones that have been around for 25 years or so. Ok so he hasnt always been the best friend one could have but to be quite honest, I dont normally like people and so making friends isnt exactly easy for me. What's really funny, is that he threw that in my face at one point. The bottom line was that at that very moment, I wasnt prepared to throw our friendship away after all that we have been through and done together. At least at this point I have an option as to whether or not to continue being friends. What sucks beyong believe is that I think he knew that and thats why he wouldnt let the issue go. He pressed my position really hard because he knew I would give in which is a terrible thing to do to someone. I guess he just assumed that given enough time or talk, things would be back to normal but unfortunatly, I dont think that will be the case this time.
this guy really does have a problem, he might be taking something else, idk, but flipping out b/c you cant smoke for a 3 hour car ride is bad. i dont know what your trip was going to be like but i dont think it would of been too much of a stretch to ask him not to do it the whole trip. I have a ton of friends that dont smoke, thats fine by me,i have never pressured them to do it. (I absolutely hate ppl that rag on other ppl for not smoking or doing something) I have offered it to them and they have said no thanks, and thats cool. If we were to go on a trip together and they asked me to not smoke, i would oblige, i can understand how people do not like it and do not want to be around it.
Your friend is a class A dick. I honestly would not be suprised if he has gotten into other drugs. I had a situation with a friend like that before. I had to sell this weed in order to pay for my rent. I don't like selling, but I was stuck in a spot. He comes over, we are hangin out, and he asks if i'll pack a bowl. I just explain to him that I have to pay rent and he exploded. Anyways, come to find out a month later that he was snorting cocoaine behind all of our backs, in my experience he sounds strung out, not a typical thing for stoners, most ppl who are EXTREMELY heavy users (cough) myself ( cough cough) will feel a more relaxed, I self medicate for hypertension, weed lets me relax.
Your friend has some serious issue(s). Sounds like it goes beyond the weed. Perhaps another drug, as others have said. If that is the case, please know that drug abuse to the point where it ruins your friendships is a disease. The guy is your friend. Before you bail, please think about spending just a little time to see if there is anything you can do to help. Don't get me wrong. What that guy did to you, and the position he put you in, is complete bullshit. But if all that was caused by, say, a chemical imbalance in his brain, for instance, then how can you really blame him. Good luck. Sounds like a tough situation at best.
your friend sounds like a fuckin douche bag, he should respect the fact that you dont want him to smoke in the car, and he should stop being such a pussy, cuz i really doubt it is going to hurt him to wait 3 hours till your next stop or w/e
Those kinds of people suck! Even though I smoke alot, I'm still not an asshole and I don't blow off my friends or anything.... Just scrap him, he sounds like a dink!
