analyizing a failed relationship.Its very draining. I keep going over in my mind what the fck happened and trying to make sence of it. all day long. going over what happened and finding new nuances and shades of meaning, but it doesnt amount to anything. This is a man thing. women dont do this. We are analytical by nature. So i dig up bones- I exhume them like the song says, and I analyze them, trying to find meaning, trying to archive and put into context what occured. I want to Crush her soul and be done with it, but how can i learn a lesson if i do that? Pretty soon i will lose all pertinent details of the affair, and even as i talk they are being confuscated and jumbled, I almost wished I had archived everything from the beggining---so im in a mad dash to subcategorize everything so i can do some more general analysis before i lose touch with the data.
Sooner or later you will get tired of analyzing your failed relationship and move on. Hopefully it's sooner.
Women aren't analytical? awww, sweetheart, you obviously don't know many women. We are often WAY more analytical than the "typical man." At least I know I am. I will still, if my mind wanders there, analyze failed relationships from years ago...in fact, looking back it's helpful to have those frames of references from my past to know what to look out for. It's how we learn from our mistakes. However, it can be unhealthy to analyze TOO much. You will get past the hurt eventually and your analyzing will be more objective and have some perspective to them Peace!
Thought is only acceptable in small morsels. Reason has severe limitations. We've all heard of "paralysis by analysis." Why don't you take your own advice and see a hooker? Also, don't be afraid to cry. Just yesterday I cried my ass off, thinking about a relationship that ended months ago.
don't beat yourself in the head, and whta makes you think it was your fault?? sometimes people just don't jive together. you'll be ok with time. sometimes time is all we have on our side. everyone goes through it usua;;y it makes people stronger.
I analyze toooooooooooooo much, sometimes i can just sit alone in an empty room for hours ad thinking about the things i've done and how i should have done in that situation. But analyzing keeps me in the past. I can't live today if i can't stop thinking about yesterday. So don't torture yourself too much with analyzing. Make a fresh start, go live your life and you will realise your mistakes when the time will come.
