So last night my girlfriend of 8 months (as of today ) has informed me that she doesn't think I treat her right. I know I'm extremely sarcastic, and I realize that sometimes I may say things that seem hurtful, although I don't mean for them to be, I said I would definetly try my best to work on it, because I really love her, and she really loves me too. So I asked her why this came up all of a sudden, and she said that its because she was talking to her friends, and one of these friends being a guy friend that she's liked since we began dating. Is it normal for your significant other, to have a crush on another guy? This was kind of a surprise to me, so I asked her if she thought not telling me for all 8 months was treating me right, she started crying, ugh, I hate it when girls do that. Anyway, we decided that we both had things to work on, but I'm not sure exactly how to get to work. Any ideas??? Thanks guys
Yes, it's normal to have a crush. Just because she's in love with you (assuming that she is) doesn't mean she will not be attracted to other men. HOWEVER This statement is something to think about: "and she said that it's because she was talking to her friends, and one of these friends being a guy friend that's she's liked since we began dating." This was after she said she doesn't think you treat her right. It's possible that she's comparing you with this guy friend. Perhaps she feels that this guy is actually nicer than you? Perhaps he treats her better than you do?
sounds like she really just wants to make it so you arent interested in her pursuing her again, liek shes setting herself up as unavailable regardless of how serious she may or may not be about this other guy
Or it could be that she's trying to make you feel jealous because her friend supposedly treats her better than you. And in the process you will feel that your relationship is threatened, so you will (hopefully) treat her much better in order to preserve it. I'm just speculating here though, so take everything I've said with a grain of salt. It's just that I look at your post, and I see MIND GAMES written all over it.
yeah man. you better watch out. but let me say something else. i have your same problem sometimes and what you can do (with the whole treating her right) is understand that girls need to be treated like royalty, to an extent of course. it okay to compliment her too. see, i'm not sure if you have my same problem, but what happened with me was that i felt stuiped giving my girl compliments. yeah, sounds stupid, i know. but once i saw my friend jack doing it with he's girl, i noticed that it normal and right. hope i helped.
Well... compliments are great, but what I think you really need to be doing is watch your sarcasm, wakeboarder. Which I think you're trying to do. So it's not just you who needs to adjust. She also needs to be more patient and stop playing mind games.
She's getting nailed behind your back, pal. I'd get her naked, jerk off on your face and tell her "that's for your guy friend." Then, I'd tell her that when she thought she could treat me with a little respect and not like some cuckold, I'd consider... nah... fuck her... Just move on.
THIS MUST BE THE ULTIMATE LAST WORD FOR SOME GUYS IN THIS FORUM.BLOWING LOADS IN GIRLS FACES.is that all guys can think of when they get rejected??blowing their unwanted jizz in a womens face, how demenaing and shallow.for both odf them....
I know, what a ridiculous reply, in order to receive respect, you have to give, which is what I'm learning. And apparently he hasn't. Just in case anyone's curious, though you probably aren't, everything has worked out well. She realized that she just liked the attention that he was giving, and that he's actually quite a dick. I'm mean, they're still friends, but thats all they could ever be, as she said, he's not date-able. Besides he's more into the one night stand type of "relationship" and she is absolutely not whatsoever. And as for me, I'm just going to have to be extra careful, since my sarcasm is the same reason my last relationship failed, although in recollection, I'm really glad it did. Thanks for all the advice guys, even you Libertine.
Not all jizz on a girl's face is unwanted, or demeaning. Some of us girls like it just fine. Consider it natural moisturizer, for free. :H Ordinarily, I would say that it's absolutely fine and nothing to worry about that she has a crush on another guy. I'm head-over-heels in love, but I'll still be in class and watch the cute mannerisms of another guy, or notice how a track runner's lean figure looks good in his clothes. It doesn't mean that I want to run away and fuck these other guys, or date them. However, as a girl, I know that if I were to say something as serious as "You don't treat me right" to my boyfriend, it would not be a good sign at all. I'd have to be pretty fed up to say something that implies so much negativity, so tread easily and actually follow your word in trying to stop a measure of your sarcasm. Don't completely change your personality, but compromise is always part of a relationship that has any chance of lasting.
Some people just bring out the utter worst in you. Sarcasm, rudeness, multitasking when I"M TALKING TO YOU are utter bullshit. I'll call it as I see it and won't accept anything less. You want to do something else or have a better idea? Let's hear it. It's completely childish to assume that your girlfriend will tolerate bad behaviour. It's likely hurting her immensely (I can only speak for myself with personal experience) just to have to tell you or get through to you that you're doing things she doesn't like. If you can't agree to something or even compromise and it's getting really negative, I think there should be a separation period for both of you to assess and look at the dynamic of the relationship more objectively. I hate to say it. It's very very hard especially when you're attached to someone. When one person finally decides that it doesn't go anywhere and it's time to end, it's probably best to give it a rest and not speak for awhile.
I would never assume that anyone in any aspect of my life should have to tolerate. Saying that I'm one of the "nice" guys would seem rather pretentious of me, and therefore negate my claim of being such. Nonetheless, I assure you, I try my hardest. I'm sorry that you were in a situation that caused you immense pain, and, because I too realize how nocuous words can be, I can sympathize with people have been in similar situations. I also realize my personal faults, and because I sincerely care about my girlfriend, I am trying to compromise my occasionally demeaning personality. You may wonder how I can sympathize with this kind of emotional anguish, and yet still inflict it upon others. I don't do it intentionally, my dry sense of humor just sporadically gets in the way. We have contemplated "taking a break" however from my experience "taking a break" and "breaking up" are, in most instances, synomomous. I wouldn't want to assume, but I'm guessing that you think in most instances failed relationships is due to the male, and definetly wouldn't want to reinforce such an ironically chauvinistic stereotype, and therefore I, and we, are totally commited to making this relationship work to the fullest. I do intend to spend a good portion of my life with her, and I wouldn't want to screw up our relationship with something so trivial. Trivial, not in the sense that our, or my, problem is. But trivial in proportion to the prodigious affinity for the sum intellectual intimacy in our relationship
LOL @ you silly ass fools.. if my lady ever told me she had a crush on some other dude in front of my face i would leave her on site... nah id probly fuck her one last time, bust nut directly in her eyeball, then leave that trick.
listen sweetie the gizzing in the eye in this post was meant to be demeaning in case you hadn't read it completely. your 17 i'm 36 and have had much more giz in and outside of my body than you can even fathom so don't act holier than though at 17 because u see nothing wrong with some digruntled ass hole want ing to score revenge by banging her hard and cummin in her face.
Yes you have to give respect to receive however I hate to tell you but if she admitted a "crush" she has already slept with this guy.
I just dont understand the concept, what guy in there right mind would still stay with his girl after she openly admits she has a crush on someone else? WTF is wrong with you? Guys like you will always get spit on, you need to learn how to man the fuck up...
