Okay I was just wondering if I could possibly have your guys advice please! I'm an 19 year old female and I'm currently in a reltionship and we're thinking of sleeping together. I really do liejk this guy, however he asked how many peopel I'd slept with, I lyed and said I was a virigin. The truth is I was a virgin but the other year I was repeatedly raped, so is it possible that I could still class myself as a virgin, even though I had sex even though I didn't consent to it? I know it's wrong to lie, but the thing is I still feel like a virgin, even though biologically I'm not. But is there any ways I can fool my boyfriend into thinking I am a virgin? Like anything I can do or something so he actually bleieves I am? As I don't want to class my past as it's something I wish never happened. All comments and thoughts would be much appreciated. THank-you!
i think youd be better off letting him know what happened, espeically with it being so recent... so that he knows to go gentle, to not make it seem like a repeat of past incidents. tell him you never consented to anything so in your mind youre still a virgin, even if your body wasnt given much choice in the matter
I think really being a virgin is a bit of a grey area, in terms of classifying yourself as one. Although I think you can still define yourself as a virgin,but as has been said, it may be a good idea to tell him.
Well, it's not like he's gonna slip it in and his dick's gonna know and be like, "NIGGA THAT BITCH IS LYIN'!" There's no difference, feeling wise, between a virgin and a slut. ...and if you think I'm calling you a slut... then I am. There. Just tell the guy. If you dig him enough to bone him, you should be able to tell him you got freaky deaked. [postscript] It's funny that I come across this thread, though. I work at Spencer's, and just today I noticed we got a new kind of lube in... it's called Liquid Virgin. It's got collagen and some crazy chemicals in. You rub it on your vag like, fifteen minutes before you have sex and it's supposed to make your liebusgrotto tighter. I was like, "What.. the fuck."
Tell him. Lying about sex partners, willing or otherwise, is A) a breach of trust and B) a possible safety concern, in the event that you contracted a disease from him/her/them. If there are any positions/activities/words/settings that give you flashbacks, make sure he knows. If you have not been through rape counseling, I recommend it to avoid any interesting emotional landmines later on. Good luck.
Before you do anything, you need to go get tested for any STD's. Then, you need to sit him down and tell him what happened. If you care enough about it to give him your V-card, than you should be able to trust him enough with this secret of yours. Also, you said you were REPEATEDLY raped during a year, you need to make sure that your ass is removed from that situation immediately.
