Right, i've been with this incredible girl for the last year and a bit, and we've never had an arguement in our whole relationship - she's a couple of years younger than me but her parents love me, and mine think she's brilliant. She proved to me that love isn't actually a compromise, since she actually is a perfect match for me in every way, the same silly sense of humour, same music tastes, same interests etc. Also she's incredibly beautiful, though she doesn't consider herself to be. In short, she's perfection to me. We've not even had sex yet, because she was intimidated by the thought for many months, but i appreciate that - and the way i feel about her and how she treats me more than makes up for not having sex - we are both virgins so its a big thing you see! However, while i see no problems in the next year or so, one thing is bugging me - she wants to go to America after next year, and i'll be in university - then she'll go to a different university, and i'm not sure even our relationship could stand being apart like that - i could marry this girl so i'd be willing to wait for her if she agreed to come back to me. Do you guys think i should try and stay with her all the next few years? I'm considering postponing my university course by a year if she'll let me go to america with her, but its something i'll talk to her about closer to the time - right now i just want to enjoy being with her! Long story short, how much is it worth sacrificing my future, if it means i can be with her? And don't say its just a phase cause i'm 19, i know full well what i'm talking about when it comes to my feelings for her feedback would be appreciated thanks
Man its up to you ,if i was you i woul try anything to stay with her cos you dont find LOVE i mean REAL LOVE like you just described ,maybe is an one time deal you could stay your life thinking about her and if you made the right choice but if thinghs are the way you are sayng maybe you should make some sacrificce or maybe she should.Anythingh for the real love , just assure that she thinks the same way you think and that your love is mutual
Good answer mate! I shall have to chat to her about it closer to the time of her going to America, and see what her thoughts are. The best thing i could hope for is to go with her, would be brilliant
you aren't sacrificing your future by going to America, just changing it if you guys have a fair chance, and you would like to go with her, why not? and you can still have a life in America even if you guys don't work out, or you could always move back, your life isn't going to just end cause of a change of setting and, it could last forever, it could end tomorrow, make it the best that you can, that's all that really matters also, I am in a similar situation as you minus future complications, and I hope it works out great for you guys
Sounds like my last relationship...except mine after a year in a bit broke up...upon which I found she'd lied to me and cheated on me... Fingers crossed for yours. =P But seriously, given that, and given how brilliant my last relationship was (before what happened happened obviously...)...well...had I been in that position (at the same age...well...I'm 19 in 2 days...almost the same position) I would have said, go with her. I don't think you'd be giving up anything in your future. It might be a different place, but that doesn't mean your future has to change so drastically. You can just continue your plans for the future, but in a different place. Of course, when all is said and done it is your decision. I'd say talk it over with her, discuss your future together, and decide between yourselves what is best. It's both of your decisions as to what you want from your lives.
Yup, thankies for all these replies! You're right, it wouldn't hurt me too much to go to America academically - i've already got some decent A-levels so at least thats not a problem, though a degree would be nice ^^ I think her trip to america is only planned for a couple of years anyway, so that might be alright - late uni courses do happen. As you say, i'll speak to her about it, closer to the time i'll ask how she feels about having me go with her to America, and go from there! Hope you the best of luck with your loves as well!
If I was you, I'd do my best to stay with her. If she can, ask her if she can wait another year or two before going, or something like that.
yar, i was talking to a friend about it this week actually, he reckons i should marry her quite odd coming from him, he's a man of fairly loose morals when it comes to women as well
