I'm disliked for being an optimist

Seriously, a good friend of mine finds the optimism I've gained in the past year or so a negative trait...

I don't know how to explain that despite what happens to me, I'm truly happy and have hope, which I didn't when I met said person. He is vey negative and feels I'm being fake when I always see the bright side (after i get pissed, haha)..but I'm really real in it, though it's not always easy.

I'm getting really tired of having to explain why I see life the way I see it to this person.

 

give them wood! It will change thier outlook too. A 2x4 to the head!

 

A non violent way? hehe.

Honeslty i wanna scream.. im so tolerate and being so good on my paetience but im human...

 

i wouldn't worry too much about it, because whatever you are, someone somewhere will decide to not like you for it. this i can safely say with absolute assurance, to every living sentient being. i don't know why we all have to be disliked by someone somewhere no matter what, but that's one of those few negative things that really are the way it is.

this should never in any way discourage us from wanting to avoid causing suffering and harm though, because THAT is to our own advantage in the effect it has on the kind of world each of us, along with everyone else, has to live in, reguardless.

(even when materialy, this might sometimes seem counter intuitive)

=^^=
.../\...

 

You should be the way you feel good with yourself.

 

meh. fuck all that. some people just think it's really cool and so urbane to be a perpetual pessimist. i avoid those people.

 

Tell them jealousy does not become them.

 

no doubt. some people think pessimism is a sign of intelligence. i've rarely found that to be true.

 

Pessimism without reason is a sign of being mindlessly brainwashed. Everyone has the choice of letting day to day things get them down. Being happy despite what is transpiring around you is not only a sign of intelligence.. it is a sure sign of strength.

 

exactly.

 

LuckyStripe...Pessimism is like a disease.. I hope you never have to deal with feeling like things only get worse
I think it's way harder and shows more character when you try to see the best in every situation

no matter what your "friends" say

not sure if any of that made sense but .. yea god luck with it all

 

That's just some people, and people like that you can't change their mind anyway, I'm sure your friend also always thinks they are right...

I used to be really optimistic too, and wish I still was... so screw them... stay looking at things on the bright side.

 

sweetie dont ever lose that optimism.

that person probably just wishes he could be like you. i wish i was an optimist

my friend casper who is now serving a life sentence told me "life is like a bowl of cherries, theres sweetness and theres pits. enjoy the sweetness and toss the pits." so i always try to think about that whenever something happens. thats about as optimistic as i can get.

 

Yea, Im not really an Optimist but Im usually just really really happy in almost any situation. I see alot of people at my school who just have blank expressions in there eyes ALL the time. Theyre eyes never Smile!! I don't understand it! the first time I did mushrooms I wrote something down on some paper Ill haveto find that siad something like "no matter how much I try, I can't keep my eyes from smiling".

 

oh he just envies that he cant see the world in such bright colors you do!

 

correct

 

Yeah, I also have an extreme pessimist friend, her life motto is "What's the point when we're going to die anyway?" and this really starts no annoy lately....When something bad happens to her she's all depressed and when something great happens she isn't satisfied and she's sure that something bad will happen soon and punish her for this happiness she got before....And she doesn't even wanna be happy when something good happens to people around her...Man....
And, you know how they say, roads of both optimists and pessimists end up same, but optimists had better journey....

 

I just wanna thank you all. I've actually read the advice or words on this thread more then once and it all makes perfect sense and had lifted my spirits on a person and subject that bothers me... It's someone that I care about enough that if I could I'd put him on the same plain as me in the way I view and deal with things because I want him happy too but I can't do it and I'll be damned if HE or anyone else is worth more misery in my life. Not gonna happen. As cheesy as it may sound I'm at a very "bad" point in my life, stress wise but I've made a lot of progress- me keeping up my attitude is very important to me right now and someone that is supposed to love me that I feel is consciously trying to take that from me won't be tolerated (and kinda hurts). Yeah, I sound kinda tough and bitchy about it but I have to be.

 

I had a good friend named Casper.

 

Wonderful saying. Sounds like you have the spirit that will get you through anything.

I'm the same way but it can be a struggle.