Hi girls I just have a quick couple questions, I'll fill you all in with my situation. I've been dating this girl for a very long time (2 years), we do a lot together but our parents are both quite strict but we manage to see one another atleast one a week. We're both academically involved and and have busy lives. Other than that complication we love one another very much. We've never actually done anything besides make out and such. We aren't very old either, but I'm not about to disclose my age since all my friends are already into having sex. This just isn't for us, neither my girlfriend or I are ready for something like that. The question: When my girlfriend and I like to well like get aroused. We always make out and she often likes it when I lick her nipples, I do this but I love to look at her face while doing so, it makes it much more fun. Recently I mustered up some courage and decided to bring my hands down to her pants. I decided to massage around the skin of the vagina and I tried to massage the clit, I then kind of tried to finger her through her pants; I would rotate in segments. From touching her sensitive skin and hitting all the spots, she really enjoyed this I could tell. I was very nervous and I only knew any of these things because I enjoy surfing the web and reading about real relationships. Any who what I am wondering is we've had conversations before about sex/oral sex. We both agreed we werent ready for anything about 6 months ago. But now when I took that leap with my hands I'd most definitely love to go under the pants but I had her over not to long ago and tried and she just gave me a weird eye ball look and didn't want to. She was obviously scared and nervous but I respect her so I didn't and we just did what we usually do. I'm very confused because we've grown together so well and we always work our problems out with communication but this topic is hard and obviously I got declined. I'm just wondering if what I think is correct, we're doing more things together sexually and I have hope that she will let me go under her pants. Do you think she will, how should I approach this with out being abrupt. I've thought about saying like I want to pleasure you but she obviously knows this and I'd MUCH perfer it if "she" comes to me on her own when we're together and leads me, or gives me approval. Please help me, I really need advice. Thank you for reading
hiya well firstly i think ur thinking about it a bit too much. when my girlfriend and myself started this kind of stuff, it just progressed slowly. U have to take a leap and say to her "if u start to get uncomfortable, just tell me and i'll stop" and she will. then you always know when to stop. I know what its like, the whole excitement of doing something like that again its a great feelin, and even greater feelin when you do. Maybe sit her down and ask her if your moving things too fast? as for the second time you tried to finger her, maybe she was having her period or something? my gf doesn't want me touching her down there if she is, and i'm cool with that. another thing, you shouldn't be thinking it in terms of who's going to come to who, or whos going to start, it just makes things awkward (as you no doubt agree) these things just happen and when its spontaneous its much better than when its all mehcanical. Also i might only be 16 myself, so u dont gotta take my advice on the subject i'm used to that. just thought i'd throw in my two cents.
Thanks man, I think I'm just going to wait a while and slowly try to progress. I'm going to also talk to her about it
That sounds like a horrible time. Always getting all hot and bothered and no release? Just do it already. You put two years in... What the hell are you waiting for, menopause?
I don't think you comprehended what I posted properly. I'm not female, I am male. I notice that you are female, you're advice would be greatly appreciated . But take the time to read what I posted. I've been trying but she won't let me, but she lets me over the pants. So if you read what I posted I'm trying to find a solution other than time itself.
Quote: "I've been dating this girl for a very long time (2 years), we do a lot together but our parents are both quite strict but we manage to see one another atleast one a week. We're both academically involved and and have busy lives." OK, back up a minute. You were born on April 1st, 1943 and both your parents are quite strict? What, you both live at home and are both attending college? Nice try. April 1st, indeed. You're not fooling me!
Obviously this guy isn't 64, he just put that because he didn't want people to know of his real age. Anyways, all I can say is bring it up to her, ask her how she would feel about doing it, or when she would be ready. Don't beg her, or pressure her, but I think you know that already.
