where can i start :H... ive been with my boyfriend for about 9months now and we have had our ups and downs like most couples do... as times gone by we have grown together.. we have planned and said what we both wish for with eachother in the future... he has said to me that within the next 3years what would i say if he asked me to marry him.... i have recently found out that he has applied and it has been accepted for an apprenticeship in yorkshire away from home, he will be away during the week and back at weekends and half term time; i work partime at weekends... im dreeding it.. his aware i have my concerns towards the new job... but i haven't spoken to him about the new job because i can't think of the right words to use to express how i feel.... i love him loads and im scared that with the distance we will start to part and he may find some one new... part of me thinks im being silly and that i should say how i feel but its been on my mind for ages.. i only have till the end of august.... please help and give me advice peopleeee
Sounds like he has a really good opportunity in his hands. I think you should tell him that you are concern for your relationship if he moves, but do what ever you can to avoid discouraging taking the apprenticeship. If he misses out of a great opportunity because he feels pressure from you, it will only spawn resentment. Just be careful.
thank you and i thourght that as well i dnt wnat to come across like as if im not wanting him to go away.... his 20 and im just thinking am i being silly.... thank you
If you're planning on getting married, you shouldn't be afraid to 'be silly' in front of each other. Being married is a life partnership - it means sharing hopes, dreams, mistakes and being silly But I don't think you're being silly at all! In a relationship, you need time together! It's as simple as that. So really, for this to work you guys will have to sit down and work out when you're going to see each other, REGULARLY. otherwise, no matter how much you love each other, you're just going to drift apart. Maybe when you talk you should re-establish just how serious he is about getting married. I mean did he mean 'it would be nice when I'm 30', or did he mean 'I'm serious about it and want to actually do it in 2 or 3 years'? Because there's a big difference there. And you should know how serious things really are. So yes talk to him (be honest!!). Communication is key!! How he treats your fears, concerns and how much work he's willing to put into your future as a couple will tell you a lot about him and how he feels about you, and your future together.
thank you for mentioning that.. i have been thinking about suggesting movign thier after the first year after earning more money..... how can i approach him on moving thier.. ill be to worried with what he may say.....
thank you every one who has replied to my thread... im planning on speaking about it soon... as this is my second serious relationship.. my first was a nightmare and an experience i would never look back on.... back to the point :drool: .... my question now issss how do i speak to him... what type of environment and mood for example like at the coast.. in a park... just at home with an empty house......
If he is truly in love with you why would he be anything but thrilled by the fact that you want to move closer to him? But make sure the move is good for YOU. Don't move because of the relationship, or lonliness. It has to be good for YOU. Otherwise you'll find yourself in a situation slightly less fairy-tale than you imagined. And another note on long-distance relationships. Yes it sucks. But just because there is distance dosen't mean you will drift apart. Me and my girlfriend live over 2,000 miles away from eachother. Yet I couldn't love her more if she was right by my side. The most important part of any relationship and epspecially a distance relationship is communication..... I cannot stress how important good and accurate communication is in a long distance relationship is.
omg its not that big of deal, just mention it anytime when u 2 are talking. If you 2 are planning on getting married one day than it wouldnt b weird to ask him if u can move in. But from my experience long distance relationships dont usually work out
Just talk about your concerns when you are sitting down for the evening and if your relationship is serious then you should be moving together. Communication is the key to relationships Long distance or not, without it all relationships will surely fail. Good Luck
I know what you mean about 'where to talk to him'. You don't want to have the wrong mood or distractions. Just pick someplace quiet, where there are no distractions (like no TV, no other people), and where you guys can spend some time together for a while if need be. I'm not trying to have a go at you here, but it sounds like you aren't totally comfortable communicating with him. If a couple are close enough to get married, they have to be comfortable talking to each other about deep and important things, including 'where is this relationship going?', 'what do we need to do to make it good?' and so on. you GOTTA communicate. i also agree with the poster who said if you're going to move, do it for YOU and YOUR LIFE. remember, this isn't a decision you've made together. HE has made it. this sounds to me like maybe he isn't as serious about the two of you as a couple as you want him to be, if he's willing to choose a big thing like that without discussing it with you first.
