Saying goodbye

How do you say goodbye to your best friend?

(a real best friend.... mine is my husband that I'm moving away from on Wed. that really was more of a friend for many years that I did and do love but I mean real, true friend in the deepest sense..... when things are so bad it has to end... how do you say goodbye to that person that really is your best fucking friend you ever had?)

 

I'm writing him a letter cause we can't talk well. It's emotional but he deserves that. I don't hate him at all... I see now how super a person he is and that's why it hurts. Me and him together just.... too much baggage, can't work. But him? Wow... How awesome he could be and is. I just wanna let him know that. Say all the things I wanted to say but was too angry at him at the time.

 

You don't say goodbye. You can still be in eachothers' lives; just not the same as before, and even though you may not see eachother, you can still keep contact. It may be awkward right now, but that'll pass.

 

goodbye's are a bitch. which is why i've been known to quietly and unexpectedly to dissappear into thin air instead.

i'm not sure how this would apply to the situation you describe though.

=^^=
.../\...

 

No man and woman are an island, entire of itself...any divorce diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the wedding bells toll; it no long tolls for thee."

I know it's lame :leaving:



Hotwater

 

I know it's right. The whole divorce but I cry and cry like I'm really mourning. I hate it. Once I'm moved it'll be easier. I just don't hate him, I love him. He's my friend. He's been the ONLY ONE HERE for so many years. I don't wanna lose him but I know for a long time I knew it was over... but I'll miss him as a person.

This is normal, I know it just cuts me up. I know it's for real and it's like "wow... you know I really did like you.... I loved it when you were happy and carefree and I wish I could see you like that again but know I can't"... unless, I do try to be his friend but don't know how that'll work out. Can try

 

You mourn, you heal. You mourn, you heal. This is one more turn of the wheel.

 

You aren't going to.

 

/\ so kind


You need to do what you need to do.. Any kind of change is hard even if its for the better and when years of connection are tied to it well its even harder. I wish you the best of luck...

 

It's someone that doesn't believe in me. Trying to figure out who and think I know.

Anyways

I will for sure. It's never been like this.

 

You aren't going to.
Read through this thread. Your own typed out words. Moving. Yes. Goodbye. No.
Thus, you aren't going to.

 

I was in the same boat, but there was zero passion left. he was never awful to me so it was so hard to leave. We were such good friends that I almost married him a few months ago because I knew it was either that or he would be out of my life forever. He is now out of my life forever and I realize that I had to go through that pain so I could be clean and 100 percent availible for when the right person did come into my life, which happened right afterwards suprisingly. I did write my ex a letter and thanked him for being good to me and told him that I would prefer to stay friends but understood why he didn't want that. The letter made me feel so much better and gave me the closure I needed to finally experience real love.
I hope it does the same for you Lucky
HUGS

 

Parting with friends is a sadness. A place is only a place.
-Thufir Hawat from Dune.

Lucky, imagine how unimportant it really all is in actuality. You come into the world alone and you depart from the world alone.
You need to do what makes you happy and what you feel is right. Thats all

 

I get along with my ex hubby sooo much better now that a relationship is out of the question....We don't talk anymore, but that is due to his girlfriend.
However, I will have to see him again when we make our split legit.

All my best wishes go out to you girl. May your fresh new start be absolutely bangin'!

(((hugs)))

 

I know how you feel, this was the same kinda situation with the father of my kids... I love him... and love hanging out with him, but as far as relationship wise it's just didn't turn out good... and I decided to be friends. We still talk and hang out... but it kinda hurts when he talks about new girls and stuff like that... I just try to be supportive, and give him good advice, but it never gets easier while staying his friend.... but at the same time I have to... I feel it's the best thing I can do for the kids, it's good they see us in good terms and getting along like we do.

It was hard for me to talk to him, hell it's hard to have "talks" period when it comes to relationships... i usually write, email, whatever... but all I said to him was "I need to talk to you" and he already knew with everything going on, and he answered "you just want to be friends right?" and I told him yes... it was hard... we still lived together for a while and he was torn up bad.... but I was still there for him when he needed it, and he's there for me most of the time when I need someone.

 

Just write from your heart. Smoke if you need to...i know that generally helps to open to the parts of me that are vulnerable.
Divorce is really hard and it will take a long time to heal from it. Even when you feel you are healed something might come up in your psyche again. you just push forward and know everything happens for a reason. Some people come into our life for a reason, some for a moment and some for a season(or something like that)

 

oops. I tell my sons mom about all the girls that come and go! :tongue: do you think she hates it?
I hang out with her a lot still.
I cant tell, I know her VERY well and she doesnt show any anger in her eyes.
I know she still loves me though, and I do love her, but same situation, just wont work. Sucks really, but at the same time, who cares? We both still have our health and our beautiful son

 

Yea, there's no point in trying to make it work when you know it just won't... she prolly feels a little hurt, but I'm sure it's not that big of a deal... it's not THAT big of a deal for me.... he would hang out with the guy I was/am with... and even spent the night before... we just try to make things as easy as possible.

 

Well, packing is lots of fun....

:rollseyes:

 

Aw come on Lucky, cheer up yo!
Is it not what you designed ??