i've always wondered how "love" was in the 60's and 70's, hehe probably pretty much the same, but what about "free love"? did that imply open relationships? was the mentality really that different... or am i the only who's too sensitive to cope with an "open relationship"? i thought KittyFabulous put it well: to be honest, i have been in 2 open relationships, and basically what they've been about is that the relationship is already essentially over, but one or both partners don't want to let go until they've found someone else. and it never works. in the first "open relationship" i was in, i ended up leaving my boyfriend for my lover. that relationship didn't last, either, but there were other problems as well. in the case of my current "open marriage" (what bullshit!) the "marriage" ended months ago but he doesn't want to kick me out until i can provide some security for the kids. i grateful things are still friendly, but quite frankly, the situation is torture and actually making it more difficult to move on. someone please shoot me. in your case, there's already physical distance between you. seeing other people will just drive you further apart. i know it's painful, but do both of you a favor, and end it, short and sweet. make a clean break, give yourself some time, and then move on. sometimes, breaking up is the loving thing to do. peace, kitty fabu __________________ own less, love more. have any of you "old hippies" ever been in a relationship like this that has made you both happy and fulfilled? i find the idea of trust and freedom, and another outlook on love appealing but i also know i'd be easily hurt, maybe not strong enough to handle such freedom... just looking for advice or personal experience peace -shrimpgirl
In most of the relationships I've seen in the "era" was, from a womans point of view,.. the man was always in "that kind" of relationship.. unkown to the woman of course. while the women were doing the house work and taking care of the kids just like always, ohhh but we did get to do it nekkid if we wanted to..mostly the men sat around n got high all day or drunk..or just did his thing.. making babies all over the nieghberhood. sorry guys, I'm sure a lot of men did help out and some even stay with their ole ladies and riased their kids. But the majority of them did not. I was very into FREE LOVE.. but there was a lot of confussion about free love and free sex!!.. If a person still wants to "see" other people.. then my oppinion is STAY SINGLE.. some one always gets hurt in "Open Relationships. I am willing to "share" a lot but never ever my MAN.. That's how dis-eases are spread. Not to mention unwanted pregnancies. (ooppps I mentioned it). Peace Love and Hippie Beads <shameless>
I've been in one realtionship that we were 'open' in. It worked out very well, I think. We both understood that we loved one another, but we didn't want to stop showing our love, physical or spiritual, for other people. I know all relationship couldn't work that way, but some can. Just my ten cents.
I am not. Which does proove your point. Any relationship bassed with that priciple is going to end. We both knew that. But we also realized that love, even for a short time, is worth it. We shared our love while it lasted.
Not to be crass.. but open relationships are just shack up jobs till your true love come shinning in?!?!?. From a womans point of view that would make me feel less of a woman as if I wasn't good enough to be a true partner, just a fill in, for what, Love, that's not love.. if you sleep with your friends, when it's over you've lost a friend and a lover.. it's never the same friendship after that. Are you still friends with this girl? <shameless>
Unfortunatley, no. She started hanging out with a different crowd and they told her many untrue and hurtful things about me, and now she doesn't want to speak to me.
Nathan >It's a hurtful world out there, I sorry to hear that ..Follow your heart but use good judgement. Dont lick the frosting before you know what the cake is made of, bright sugar frosting dosen't make a dirt cake better, ya still can't swallow it. If your friend belived the ugly that was being put on you she was not a friend, Friends defend one another..
You know, you're right. I've learned this the hard way a few times. I thought she was different, actually. But I guess these juvinile teens are (for the most part) all the same. But, life is good. I love. Love is. It always get's better.
ahhhh... youth is wasted on the young.. I think if the oldsters had the energy that the younguns have there'd be a lot of changes in the universe. But I see a lot of wasted energy..Youth today have it to soft..everything is push button and they never leave the couch or computer.(generaly speaking). If your stuck in the city go to the park and sit under a tree and listen to the silence, find your inner peace and hold it close. Find your vibration and feel it in every fiber of your being. Become one with the earth and trees around you. It will bring you peace and when you have it, you can carry it with you forever and share it when you met with resistance. It's not just in the music, it's in the wind too. Peace Love and Hippie Beads <shameless>
Everyone needs to take time to find their inner being. I love the whisper of the trees. The speech of the earth. The harmony of the sun's rays. The peace of the winds. Shameless, I like you. I have a lot of respect for you, my sister.
ahhh t/y my brother peace be with you always, and may love find its way to you in your hour of need. Rest easy young man the Angels are about their work. Blessed Be <shameless>
free love...hmmm...that was coined because it was a time that people could without worry of unwanted pregnancies, the pill, abortion, and the sex didn't kill yah either. A break from the past. The whole outlook on women changed, no more June Cleaver. But to me open relationships = fuck buddy that you may or may not share the same roof with.
