moving too fast

i've known my boyfriend for about three years now and we started dating a week ago.i think emotionally he's moving a little too fast for me and it makes me feel awkward at times.i need a nice way of telling him how it makes me feel.he's even popped in a couple "i love yous".is that weird? or are these emotions he's built up over the years? i don't feel the same way at the moment.i've never been in love so it makes me uncomfortable.

 

IMO - He's been in love with you.
He's likely holding himself back as best he can.
Careful, he's flying high but is easily hurt right now.

 

that could be it.yet he said he's only liked me since around september or october.im guessing that's enough time?sometimes it just turns me off as to how clingy he can be at times.he even admits it and that it freaks him out.it just sucks not being up to his level yet.

 

It's a nasty trick we play on ourselves.
You only want what you can't have.
Not all the time, but here, I think, it applies.

 

i was kind of in the same situation, you need to tell him gently that you arent ready for a strong commited realtionship at the moment... if you dont it may get out of hand ..

 

he also may be one of those folk who loves really easily. i mean, on the first date my bf was saying "love you too muffin", admittedly jokingly and it ssomethign he says to everyone. id talk to him about it though, let him know you feel like its a little fast and if maybe he could just back off sayign it so often until you two have been dating a bit longer

 

tell him to be a man.

 

Well if you don't "love him" then what do u exactly feel for him? Is it like a physicall attraction? or a best friend kinda relationship? Or what's the reason that you're with him?

 

just tell him to chill out a bit with it, and see what happens
just be gentle, and I'm sure you won't hurt him much


oh and, lucky bastard

 

good point
fuzz acid flowers the question of love for some is harder to answer then for others especialy that 1st love, for some the answers easy, ofcourse i love them because theyre so loveable..whatever, for others the question naggs at them do i really love them, i love this but that annoys me is it enough to like this about them but ignore that & its something that takes more time to decide, but examining what it is that keeps you together will help you determine if its really love or something else, & at times love can grow out of the questioning as you discover your own personal reasons for wanting to be with another..

its not that hes moving to fast, hes moving at the speed thats right for him as are you, the question isnt whos moving too fast or slow but are you both able to accept the speed the others movng at, & are you both moving in the same direction,

talk to him, tell him how you feel, explain that you understand he may love you, but your not ready to call it love untill your sure thats what it is, you feel your moving in that direction (if thats the feeling you have) just will take longer to get there..

 

After all, what really makes the difference is not how much you love somebody, but what you do for that somebody that really counts.
At this point I think you should not only be honest to him, but also to urself. Like soaringeagle said, it doesn't matter at what speed you guys are moving, as long as you are both moving in the same direction. If you aren't, then there is no point in you 2 being together.

 

ehh..
I'd prefer walkign hand in hand - stride by stride
than getting dragged along at a pace I couldn't handle

 

Yeah homeboy but that's you.
You gotta understand that there are some people in this world that are more secure and are willing to take chances.
Am sure you like to live your life 1 baby step at a time cus you're afraid of getting hurt, but people that want bigger, more rewarding experiences take bigger risks.

 

this is quite obviously from the other thread me and you've been talking on
and there are huge differences between avoiding risk and avoiding pain
trust me, I'm a gambling man

 

Doubt it.
Bottom line is, you can't live your life being afraid cus what kind of life is that?
From the last post you sound like the type of guy that will not go out with a girl unless she was the 1 that told you she liked you.

 

oh contrare.
I have always been the nervous scared type, yes; but I have also always been the type to suck it up and go for my prize anyways

courage is not the lack of fear; it's the ability to overcome it (I am a true fortune cookie tonight :tongue: )

 

it's not just a physical attraction.it's mostly based upon personality.he makes me feel like the most important person in the world to him and there's never an awkward moment between the two of us.he makes me comfortable and care free.

what soaringeagle said makes a lot of sence to me.i thought he was just saying it because he was confused at first but lately it seems like he has really fallen for me.to be honest i like it but im still confused myself.talking things through with him will possibly clear the confusion out a bit.

and i do want to be with him.im just scared because i've never been in love before and i don't know what that really feels like.you know you're always thinking about it but when the opportunity actually comes by it's a lot different.
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tell him he needs to be a man, and a big part of that is never, ever talking about your feelings.

see whats happening already?

 

FUCK THAT

 

that's no fun.i've never taken your advice that seriously anyway o.0