Sex is NOT an act of love!

And I do wish and hope that you will meet a man who loves you tenderly for what you are and cares for you , and does not see you as an object or device for his own pleasure, but sees you as a goddess herself, his own heart, and treats you like gold, which is what you are.

 

Seduce my mind and you can have my body,
Find my soul and I'm yours forever.

~by Anonymous ~

 

You said "make love TO her"

That's what I'm talking about with the whole Western society and way of thinking about our partners.. While it may sound like you are giving her what she desires, the opposite side of selfish, selfless, will always leave one partner feeling short-changed and inadequete or unable to give as much themselves..

But yes, I DO believe that a relationship where sex is not obligatory is the only perfect relationship.. I believe in anticipation that can last a lifetime.. And I believe that there IS a higher place, a divinity, that must be reached for two people to be as one without compromise..

 

ummm, yes.
during the last moments is when i normally become more romantic/want to hear more loving romantic thoughts from my love.

 

Why not "seduce my desires"?

We have so much to learn from Eastern society..

 

Perhaps that's where the difficulty lies.. Most relationships seem to survive even though each person has their own agenda, especially in the bedroom.

"I feel like sex tonight" must be something that drives so many people, even if it stays in the mind, and starts any attempt at seduction in the wrong way completely.

Instead of thinking that climax is waiting at the end of my adventure, my desire is to worship my partners body.. The end is so very often us just lying exhausted but feeling more as one with each other..

 

I used make love TO her because maybe thats what SHE wants....and i would do anything she wants to PLEASE her...that all a part of LOVE.....and i just have to ask , what makes you an expert to be telling me whats right and wrong in my bedroom and in my relationship with my lady , Eric ?

 

Yeah we whisper and kiss and look into eacothers eyes pretty much the whole time, but ALWAYS towards the end

 

thank you niranjan for bringing up the concept of tantra so i didnt have to & for your wisdom in this

i actualy have 2 wives that i love immencely, now many may say you lucky dog you'll get double the pleasure, but i dont look at it that way at all, sex isnt even nescasary to our love if we make eachother feel loved
making love is sharing, giving for the joy of giving
its never i want this but, i want to give you this
orgasm isnt the goal only enjoyment

in a way i have to agree wioth lanky midget that sex isnt always an act of love
but.... it certainly can be

in a loving relationship the goal of sex should be to express the depth of your love to your partner through giving them pleasure not to feel lijke you were thoroughly fucked but to feel you took your love to a higher level & shared a momment of devine pure love

orgasms last a momment
lovegasms last forever

 

are you saying the ultimate experience would be for both "lovers" to not want any pleasure themselves and so be left with only spiritual love? because in this above scenario, the woman (i'm assuming) is wanting animal sex and the man is providing her with divine sex...... so really, taht isn't ideal right?

i'm having a problem seeing what you mean... because from your posts initially i was thinking along the lines of suncatch's position, where she lets the other person use her and she wants no pleasure, but feels awful afterwards. that is NOT enjoyable for her, and in my opinion ppl should not feel like crap, especially when it comes to such intimate things as sex. all participants should feel good during and after- whether they're having "animal sex" or "divine sex"

 

if both partners have a great time an get off, whats the problem?

personally, the two are linked for me and my partner. i have had loveless sex. sex when you love the person is infinitely better. the underlying emotional connection makes the physical connection spectacular. imho, good sex requires love... but thats just my opinion

 

The word BEDROOM didn't appear in my reply to your post GERRI..

Get a grip, the whole world DOES NOT revolve around you..

 

I'm still only really talking about how the last moments seem to have little to do with love..

 

everyone does not share yer opinion...thus the world DOES NOT revolve around yer views

 

That's why this forum invites people to share their opinions, and to not have tantrums when somebody says something the whole world won't agree with..

 

Yes , so why do you see fit to reply to everything i say ?...I was simply stating MY opinion that you arent in anyposisition to say whats right or wrong with My sexual or love realtionship....THUS....I am free to do so.

 

Sex is Sacred...

I Can Not Have Sex with Someone Unless I Have Feelings for them...
Otherwise Sex is just meaningless...

I want it to mean Something...To be Something Special to Share with my Partner and Connect with on an Intimate Level...

It Strengthens Bonds and Connects the Souls....When two Bodies become One...During the moment...

 

Well said Miss ALex

 

Where do our thoughts REALLY go during climax?

 

Mine go to the person Im with and how wonderful they are and how much I love them