My boyfriend (of one and a half years) and I broke up last week, and since then we've actually had two or three dates and had sex each time. As always, we were amazing in bed together... and it's obvious we both still have feelings for each other because the sex has been really intense and emotional. The thing is, we've agreed that we both are hoping to work things out and figure out our problems. But i think the fact that we still hang out and have sex is keeping us from really having to deal with it. So now i think maybe i should cut him off and stop hanging out/having sex. Thoughts?
Yes, sex can distract you from your real relationship problems and can turn your relationship in just sex, (especially when is good ). It's better do sort things out and then enjoy in your sex life.
that depends do you love him? and believe he wants to work things out? or do you think he just wants to have sex with you?
i do love him, and i do want things to work out. but i think we got complacent and kinda forgot why we were together/what we liked about each other. i believe he wants us to work out.. he brought it up first and he mentions it as a possibility now and then. and i don't think it's about the sex, b/c he also mentioned that the sex might be getting in the way of fixing things... but he doesn't want to stop either
stop having sex til you work stuff out, if you genuinely want it to work out on a more than physical level
Wow that sounds like a familiar situation. Although, that doesn't mean I have insight into the matter... It left me feeling miserable and dejected and we never got back together.
if you're gonna stop having sex to work on the relationship, make sure he knows the reason. Otherwise he'll think its one of the symptoms that needs to be remidied, and not part of a cure you're trying to implement.
