have your parents ever..

..given you a huge ultimatum (you either do _______ or we'll send you to _____ etc) and then when they're trying to argue with you about why you should listen to them and do as they say you tell them something that completely blows their mind and they totally forget about their threats.

"you either eat healthier or you're going to die"

my parents thought i was depressed cuz i spent alot of time in my room, and they tried putting me on this health kick thing, they were like "you gotta start eating more healthy foods and a better variety of things than you eat now, starting monday you're going to eat healthier.", blah blah blah, (i knew it was all steming back to them thinking i was depressed) and they said something and my mom was like "you never go out and hang out with your friends, you're just cooped up in your room all the time" and i knew it was time for me to tell them, i was like "k, the reason i'm always in my room is because all my friends want to do is get drunk and get into fights, i'm sorry that's not my idea of a good time." my mom like cried when i said that

since then (about a month and a half ago) they've given up on trying to make me eat healthier and all that shit, i really don't have an unhealthy diet, i just don't have alot of variety in my diet, so i'm not really in danger of dieing, they were just being rediculous

 

haha yea, when I was 15 my parents said either you break up with your girlfriend and quit smoking pot or you dont live here.
Havent been back since Traveled the country at 15, had my own child at 18, and here I am today. Look at me man, Now I DRIVE the school bus :tongue:

 

Do you really?

 

that sucks

 

thats what I was thinking.

 

Well, I was free to do whatever I wanted to at 15, and for a while I just fucked around with drugs and binge drinking, skateboarding and jamming with friends 24/7 :tongue:
Then I traveled, but when I came back I got a job, moved in with this girl I had known for 2 weeks (we were in "love") and we had the baby, that was good for 3 years, now me and my son just chill out, pray, jam, and I work So really, its not so bad as it could have been. But I understand, some people cant handle being homeless and without material possesions, while I thrive in that kind of situation

 

My parents gave me an ultimatum. I got my wife pregnant when I was 16 and she was 15!! I was also a punk, drank a lot, smoked a lot, just got into a lot of trouble. I was a great baseball player, and after I quit my freshman year I started getting into more trouble and got my girl pregnant getting arrested and shit.

They said either I start playing baseball again and get good grades, behave, etc... or they'll send me with my aunt in missouri.

I eventually talked them out of it with a lot of fighting, arguing, crying, and what not.

Here I am now 19 years old with a 3 year old son still with my wife after 5 years of being together, making good money, and for right now renting an apartment, paying my bills, and just living good.

 

Good for you Mobitsfa
Seems like me and you went through some of the same problems.
Glad to hear you and your sons mother are still good. well good luck to you man !

 

Not really. My parents are for the most part very lenient and accepting of my choices. When i decided to become a vegetarian, they not only encouraged my decision, but JOINED me in that journey and both gave up meat (to this day they're still veggies). Then when i decided to become vegan they encouraged that as well. They don't support my marijuana smoking however, but they aren't exactly against it, they just say they won't support any illegal activities, which is pretty understandable i suppose. I think ultimatums really never work, and they just make the kid more alienated and more focused on whatever he/she is doing that they don't want him/her to do. It basically makes the kid feel a need to rebel even more when people recognize the rebellion and tell him/her to stop. Parents are best to just go with the flow with kids because the phases we kids go through are truly unpredictable, and looking back- rather funny. It's just true that when you're a kid you really think your parents are the BIGGEST assholes on the planet but when you get older you realize that they too rebelled in their youth and thought their parents were assholes as well, and our kids will think the same of us. Just a funny circle.

 

Nope my parents never did this, Because They let me find out the good and bads on my own. They dont control me, Never gave me real big choices like that.

 

Roxanne
You don't have to put on the red light

 

^The Police kick ass
sendin out an S.O.S!

 

Nice!
I wish I was going to see them live

 

MHy parents ultimatums are usually very ineffective. Like, stop smoking or we'll take away your phone and computer. Then they take away my phone and computer and notice that it doesn't really do anything, the lack of a phone is just an inconvienence and I don't really need my computer at all.