Can Twin Souls Fade over Time?

I have, or had a soul mate. We seem to have faded over time. She lives across ocean, and I live here in NY. We met once and were once extremely close, spiritually, emotionally, etc. And now, as we get busier, talk less, I meditate less and feel less and less of the bond ,she grows, evolves, learns new things spiritually, etc. I feel so very distanced from her, and as she mentioned, we can hardly call each other twin souls. Is it possible they can fade? Certianly a bond still exists, but was our term twin soul wrong from the beginning?

 

yes. it was wrong. it's all in your mind...a wish fullfilled.

 

In 2003 I got to know a person whom I shortly wondered might be my soul mate. We were instantly a pair, both sworn to a life together. Instantly was around two weeks from becoming friends. We were lovers within a week, roomies in 8 days, and engaged in 18 days... from becoming friends, that is. Nothing I can imagine could separate us for very long. We'd find our way back. We have faced a trial by fire which I never could have thought possible, and still we carry on as two loving souls, devoted to the other with all our being.
Times can get tense, very tense, but we see these through, endure all the tests we face, and I bet we always will.
She is the one for me. None other ever will do now, even if she were gone. That is sure for me. And I have seen love I couldn't fantasize was possible, which grew ever stronger all the time. It was my bet we were soul mates, but I looked into it, and the twin flame label which I found out about in my searches fits us much more closely. Twin flames are something I never heard of, and till one experiences these things, it cannot be imagined. At least I never could have.

I wish all of you get to know what it is like. I will warn you though, it is a fiery path, not roses and sunshine as some might assume. The hard times are well worth it, though, and the hotter the fire, the finer the steel it produces.

 

You really shouldn't say things like that, it turns women off. Tone it down, think about what she's saying, read between the lines, and don't be so serious-- women will love you for it.

Also, if you're across the ocean and neither of you intend to move, there doesn't seem to be much point, does there?

She probably just wanted to fuck other guys and see what it's like. I wouldn't take it so hard... you're pretty young now. When women start closing in on thirty and the biological clock is winding down, they'll take the 'soul mate' thing really seriously! That's when the nice guys shine...

 

The bond was never romantic. Just intense, close love. We knew each others thoughts, dreams, feelings without having to see or be even near each other. We spoke daily, wrote letters, bought gifts, practiced meditations together. She was a part of me. She's 27, by the way. Seven years older than myself. It was a matter of simply being, and being as one, two branches of one tree, two roots or whatever you'd like to cool it. It was a bond that has no ultimate description. I wonder how could such a thing fade to a mere whimper, a shadow or faint memory? Perhaps things wane and wax with time, but the separation is illusion?

 

Distance sucks, and has the potential to wear away any bond.

 

I dont think it was wrong and I think that yeah it can fade...
bonds are not a static permanent thing, they change, as everything else.
my mom compares relationships to plants, and says if you take care of it, it grows... if you leave it alone, it dies... slowly.

 

Your mom sounds really smart!

 

very true.

 

I think Autentique is right. You two have been separated for a while now, and while both of you have changed, you are still holding on to the old bond. I don't think those kind of things fade. Just change. But you aren't changing with it. Let go of what "was" and look at what "is." Maybe you two need to see one another again.