Pot and relationships

Currently I'm dating a girl who doesn't smoke, and doesn't find it very thrilling that I do. Now admittedly, I smoke alot of pot. Usually atleast twice a day. And While this doesn't interefere with our relationship directly, I still know it bugs her. It wasn't a problem in the past because I just got back into tokin.

Anyone else in a similar situation? not really looking for answers or anything, just curious.

 

if they had a problem with what i do, if it dont affect 'em, fuck 'em.

 

easier said then done. If you really love someone it's not that easy to say just fuck em and leave them for WEED. Which is basicly nothing but habbit you can get over in less then two weeks with minimum effort.

I would say the only thing you can do if you intend to keep smoking is to proove that weed isnt affecting your life negativly, show her you can be just as productive as any other sober person. tell her how weed can enhance life instead of replacing it when you give it the respect it deserves.

 

^i agree with what he said.

and plus, if you're not doing it around her/acting high around her then i don't see what the big deal is.. if you act perfectly normal around her when you're high.. and she doesn't even notice unless you tell her, then i wouldn't see why she would get mad.

 

i see it as ignorance.

 

i quit smoking weed to go out with a girl, which was a mistake in my eyes, i shouldn't have changed myself and my personal beliefs about the herb to suit her, if you love her and think that giving it up is a good idea, then go for it, no one's gonna stop you but you

 

I dunno what to tell ya man. I've been with mine for 18 years and didn't smoke before, but, these days, since it helps the pain in my legs, she buys it for me. But you should show her some respect, and not smoke around her.

 

Well I had an old gf who seriouslly hated pot. I never smoked around her but one time while we were driving I pulled out my pipe and started smoking. She freaked out and I said enough is enough and I got out of that relationship. Right now my gf and I have been going out for over 2 months and its going great, she smokes with me every day.

 

yeah i had a bf to who didnt like me smokin, at first he acted like he was cool with it & wanted me to bring some to smoke, the fucker didnt even inhale...after awhile he was like you should stop smoking, so i got rid of him, i aint gunna stop for anyone but myself.

 

i smoked everyday for like two years and in january, i met the love of my life. He is really not into smoking, and i subconsciously quit. When i got with him i just had better things to do and i didn't realize that i stopped smoking until like a week later.....anyway, the point is, i have smoked like 3 or 4 times in the past 7 months(including right now haha)...... If it is true love, it isn't even a choice..... like i honestly did not make a consious decision to stop smoking..... i just did it, because i would rather have someone to love..... haha before my boyfriend, weed was my boyfriend .... and...... haha the best upside of not smoking so much is that when you do, it kicks total ass because you feel like a newbie again

 

I figured this would be kind of a common thing. She explained that her only issue is when I get "too high" around her, which rarely happens. I neglect from telling her there is no such thing as too high.

This isn't something that is going to make or break our relationship. Just curious as to other's experiences.

 

i dated a guy who smoked everyday probablly five times a day. i didnt know it untill a little into our relationship. i always thought i would never di it or be around it. i didnt really know what it was besides a "drug." well one day he asked me if i wanted to try it, and i evenually said yea. after that i kept on smoking. i liked the way it brought people closer together, even people i have never seen before.

have you ever asked her to try it with you? educate her about it if she is willing to listen. thats what helped me.

 

she has tried it a bunch of times, and has concluded she doesn't like being high, atleast not the peak of the high.

 

Yeah, this is usually a problem for me.

For some reason, I can't seem to find many girls who enjoy a good toke. My last girlfriend would get pissed at me if I was high when I was with her, and she was CONSTANTLY checking my eyes and saying 'you look high' even if I wasn't. Totally annoying, so I basically quit, after that I only smoked once more while we were still together.

If I found someone I truly love- yeah, I would definitely quit, without question. But I like to think that my soulmate is one who enjoys the sweet cheeba as much as I.

 

i dont nesscessary think even if you truly love someone you should have to quit because they want you to. its something you do and if it doesnt affect you, i think you should continue to do it. i didnt like him smoking before i tried it, but i didnt tell him to stop. i think that is very unfair.

but if you can handle not smoking and being ok with that, then i agree.

 

My bf smokes alot at times.
I might join him one or two times but thats it.
Bbut i hate when he smells so strong of it.
So he tries not to do it around me unless im doing it with him.

 

Yeah, my girlfriend didn't like me doing it. I've since educated her about it, and she agrees that of all the drugs you can do, including drinking, it is the least harmful. Her big worry is that I'll either A) Get caught or B) Get hurt. I put a lot of worries to rest when I went to a cast party, and the next day all she heard was how I had taken over the party and took care of all the drunk kids and kept lively conversation going. Her only issue now really is she hates smoke. But I think she is finnaly willing to give mary jane a try by either eating it or vaping. Attempting to change someone doesn't really work. But if you explain your side and educate the person, and are very sincere and honest, that usually opens the door of curiosity.

 

My lady can keep up with me hit for hit, shes great

 

^thats how it should be...at least in my mind

 

i first smoked weed with my boyfriend when we were just friends. we have a great relationship and we smoke weed all the time together! i love it.