Confused and need some guidance...

So, my girlfriend of nearly 3 months just told me that she's unwilling to stay in a relationship with me because she's afraid of being hurt and afraid of hurting me. Basically she said that if she ends it now it'll hurt both of us less than if the relationship ends in the future when we are both really in love with eachother. I love her, and she was in love with me, although she questions her love for me now. Regardless of what happens, she wants to remain my friend because she considers me her "best friend".

I know I can't make her stay in a relationship with me, because in the end it's her choice. I'm just confused and need some guidance...

*sigh* This is the third time I've been told "Let's just be friends".

 

maybe it was the bandana

 

Kick back, jerk off, start looking.

That's really the best you can do, is get back on your feet as soon as possible.

If you'd rather be out of a relationship, then just kick back.

You can't make someone feel for you, but you know that.

So as you sig reads, "be as you will, live, and let live!"

 

perhaps you scare women with the depth of your emotions? i know my bf has had that problem in the past... thankfully i fell head over heels with him really fast, want to marry him in fact when i never though i would marry a soul my whole life

someone worthy will come along, it just may take some time

 

Well, I'm talking to her tomorrow to get a better understanding of what's going on. Thank you, and wish me luck, I'll need it.

 

just wait. maybe she's right maybe not. but you cant force her into loveing you. if she doesnt want to get back together, look for someone else, and try to enjoy your life as much as possible without her. thats the best you can do. good luck

 

Honestly, the "i'm afraid of getting hurt and hurting you" it's a thing i've heard alot about it. I think she has another reason for breaking up with you and that she is just saying you that not to hurt your feelings.

 

LLOOLL!! Lunatic is a fool...

Maybe your just too soft, i noticed most guys that are told "lets just be friends" is because they were too soft with there female... Man up.

 

Tell her if she never risks getting hurt she will never find love. Im sure she already knows this which is why she is probably using it as an excuse. You are a rare breed and it will take someone special to understand you. Your going to have to be patient, hang in there and carry on focusing on being the best person you can be.

 

so then she will never have a relationship because she's afraid of getting hurt??????see how long she stays single then when she starts dating someone else say aren't you afraid of getting hurt?????and you will know she had other reasons for breaking it off...she sounds like a coward and why would you want to be with a coward?????i think the only thing you need to understand going into tomorrow's conversation is that she doesn't want you and to move on. you have only been with her 3 months, i'm sure it will take you less time for you to move on than for you to understand her lame excuses.. your worth more than that, good luck

 

what the hell does that mean? i absolutely think you're right; i've been there more times than i want to think about, and what you say does seem to have truth to it, but seriously, i've also tried being less soft and girls just think i'm a jerk then, so what the fuck is a guy supposed to do?

 

or was that just a jab about erectile dysfunction?

 

Hi,

Don't try to figure out why, etc.
Just remain friends,as requested.

IMO,
People enter,change,and end a relationship for manny possible reasons, some of which may not appear to make much sense.

 

i think you should let go and give her some time to think what she really feels about you..if you love her, you would understand what she's going through...maybe right now you're not really meant for each other but who knows..maybe after a year you both realize that you still love each other and she would realize that your are the man she wants to grow old with...so let her go and live your life..